Falling out with Sugar Daddy
I met up with this guy for the second time last night. He wanted a longer date this time, and things really fell apart at the end. We had a nice dinner, then went to the strip club. I now realize this was a horrible idea, but usually have fun going to the club with guys. He was so taken with me until the end of the night, saying how he was falling for me, ect several times. I drank more than I should've, and was tired and annoyed by the time we got back to the hotel. He was in a bad mood because he somehow fell while looking for an ATM at the last club. Still, he wanted me to stay two hours longer than planned, and I agreed. He offer extra money but didn't have it on hand.
When we started messing around, I wasn't into it and probably didn't do a good job of acting intrested. Then he had "problems" downstairs. At this point, I was just done and wanted to go home. I called a lyft and he tried to convince me we would meet up the next day to give me the extra money. Then he wanted to transfer it to my bank acct, which I refused. I knew I was too busy to meet up with him the next day. He is married, and lives three hours away, and was driving home in the morning. He didn't say as much, but o think he was angry that he had to use the hotel ATM because his wife would be suspicious. In the end, he used the one in the lobby, and literally threw the money at me and walked off. As we waited for the lyft, I tried to reason with him, but he kept saying he was offended that I didn't trust him. Ugh
I don't think he would've ripped me off, it was more an issue of how to get the cash the next day. He had paid me the intial amount first thing in the morning.
I feel he treated poorly, and was angry that he couldn't keep it up, and that I left abruptly. I question seeing him again. I don't enjoy these long dates. It's exhausting. The other time we messed around, it was ok, but I never want a repeat of last night.
I am new to this sort of situation, and really turned off, questioning the decision to see guys outside the club. Men
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Can this be moved to ladies only?
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well he should have been more prepared. not your fault he doesnt know how to be discreet with his money.
you cannot trust people nowadays. Its not like you've known him for years this is the second date.
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miss.a.p1600
you cannot trust people nowadays.
This. After what I just went through with a scammer SD “paying my rent” and then reversing the charge after our date, I don’t trust any of these fucks...and it’s gonna be cash only. None of this “I’ll pay your bill” bullshit, since they could easily just reverse the charges.
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I don’t trust any of them- it only takes getting burned one or two times before you learn... CASH upfront always, or Paypal/cash app and immediately withdraw the money from those the minute he puts it in. Don’t do shit till you have cash in your hand, and honestly I wouldn’t do an all dayer either unless you are getting a considerable allowance. prostitutes charge over night fees as well so something to think about.
Me personally, I meet them for dinner or whatever then we go back back to their place and spend and hour or two max. Then I bounce. I’m not his girlfriend.
I also don’t put out until I $5,000 has been given to me (not including gifts) And that’s ONLY if I like him, most times you can keep stringing along until they are getting fussy about it, then it’s up to you to put out or rinse and repeat. Either way you win in the end.
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Repeat after me: ”PURSE FIRST, ASS LAST”
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Cash upfront always. If men can fuck you over, short you, scam you, or otherwise get out of full donation for your time, they will.Even guys who initially seemed like good guys.
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Missdoll
I don’t trust any of them- it only takes getting burned one or two times before you learn... CASH upfront always, or Paypal/cash app and immediately withdraw the money from those the minute he puts it in. Don’t do shit till you have cash in your hand, and honestly I wouldn’t do an all dayer either unless you are getting a considerable allowance. prostitutes charge over night fees as well so something to think about.
Me personally, I meet them for dinner or whatever then we go back back to their place and spend and hour or two max. Then I bounce. I’m not his girlfriend.
I also don’t put out until I $5,000 has been given to me (not including gifts) And that’s ONLY if I like him, most times you can keep stringing along until they are getting fussy about it, then it’s up to you to put out or rinse and repeat. Either way you win in the end.
Just be careful with the paypal. Derranged guys can report you to paypal and claim they never consented to the charges or whatever. Also all the cam ladies talk about how using them as a payment processor is not a good idea because they frown upon using the account for anything adult related and can ban your account permanently.
And since most people equate sugaring with adult industry then you know where PP will stand.
You can immediately withdraw the funds but Paypal requires you to connect your bank account to set the account up. So as long as your bank account is connected, Paypal can hold money/withdraw what they say you owe them straight from your bank account.
For these scenarios cash is best because its discreet and you can avoid these idiots trying to scam doing chargebacks after you provided them with your time, etc.
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I do t think I will see him again. I did learn quite a bit from this situation, and will handle things differently in the future. I do feel he was on the stingy side, and too needy. The only other guy I've seen OTC paid $400 an hour plus and extra 700-1000 an hour if we went over, no sex involved. I need to find another one like him, although he was physically unattrative. Has anyone sugared on Ashley Madidon?