How do you enforce your rules,when others have different rules.
In my home club it's pretty clear what the rules are and for the most part all the other girls follow them and the customers know this. The problem is that there are a couple of other clubs I work at where it seems everyone else has the opinion that the rules are made to be broken. I'm usually pretty chill about someone that tries some unwanted touching and can use it as part of the show while I push his hands away. Other times I'll use it as part of my hustle and use it as an excuse to get him to buy more dances or try to upsale to VIP by saying" I don't know you well enough to be comfortable with that....... yet". Other times I'll make a guy sit on his hands right off if I can tell he might be a problem. I try to be up front at the start of a dance and tell him/them what is ok and what is off limits.
How do you deal with guys that are used to more touching than you allow ?
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Stilettos to the throat work just fine for me. ::)
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Depends on how aggressive they're being. A light grab where they seem like they're testing? I move their hand away slowly/sexily and playfully admonish them ("Ooh, you're a bad one aren't you?", "Oh, you can't do that babe,", "Ooh, can't touch. I know, I know,", wag a finger in their face and shake your head playfully "no"). Or grab their hands and dance with their hands in mine. If they try again, get rude or end the dance.
Aggressive and rude about it? Be harsh ("You can't do that.", "Do not to that again,") or end the dance right there.
If they say some stuff about "oh well so and so lets me blah blah blah", tell them she isn't you, but in a sexy way. Like get breathy, say "I know, baby, but she's not me, is she?" Or tell him to go find her, then, but that won't make you any money.
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I had a friend who was was built like a Valkyrie and a bodybuilder straight up lift a guy up and choke slam him for pulling a Trump in the couch dance room.
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I usually say.. "Ok, I'm going to start, you can touch little bit but be a gentlemen!" This usually means they touch minimally or not at all or only places I say they can.
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Tell them up front what your rules are. this should be a given. Get your money up front. Always. If they break the rules, end the dance.
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I hold my ground, because what they want is to touch you, duh, but they rly wanna see how easy you can be taken advantage of. I bend my rules a little if it means more money in my pocket: "oh! you want to touch my fat ass and titties? I charge extra for that. Let's do it!" but if someone's hands are too grubby for me, I just call them a bad boy and slap their hand until the 3 min song is over, because sometimes confrontation isn't worth my energy/time. I might let someone touch more parts of me as each song goes by because I have a feeling they'll buy several dances in a row, and if I shut them down immediately altogether I'm out in one. I dk, figure out what YOUR boundaries are. I'm still in the process of figuring out soft and hard boundaries, what's ok to let slip sometimes and what's DEF never okay. Dudes like the one you're describing probably never buy rooms unless they know they can take advantage of the situation, but I'll at least try to present an opportunity to sell rooms: "oh we'll see how bad you want to touch me after this dance" and then entice them to get more "handsy" in the private room which means they still only touch me where I let them. Hope this helps!
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I guess I don't really have hard or soft limits either. If a guy is going to just be buying one dance he doesn't get much touchy touchy. If it's a 3 song dance I'll let things progress and use it to sell VIP. I guess where I was going with that is one place I work there are girls that will give up nearly all the goods on the floor and that makes it tougher on the rest of us.
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That's tough. Maybe try being a little princess-y about it. "Pretty girls don't have to do that". If you want to use touch to upsell, maybe add "but they can in the right place/for the right price".
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I just speak up! And if it’s that bad,I move on. I’m not going to be disrespected or let someone make me feel uncomfortable for money. You get like 2 “no’s” with me,the heels we wear are weapons.