Hey I been a dancer for years
im interested in becoming a high class escort
please feel free to let me know all the things you knew and tips and tricks before starting coz I’m completely clueless. Thanks!
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Hey I been a dancer for years
im interested in becoming a high class escort
please feel free to let me know all the things you knew and tips and tricks before starting coz I’m completely clueless. Thanks!
You should use the search function for the following to educate yourself on everything you’ll need to start getting some traction going with your biz:
1. Where you should advertise for your city?
2. Photos
3. Your screening protocols
4. Incall set up
5. How to weed out time-wasters
6. Mindset
If you'e ever in need of an experienced booker please keep us in mind. Remember, experience matters. Whoever you decide to work with, make sure they have a wide breadth of experience. They should have a frame of reference that helps not only keep you safe, and secure but identify ways to attract more clientele and maintain your visibility as a high end provider.
If you're looking for a competent booker check us out and get in touch. or
* Work far away from where your family lives, if possible.
* Self- care....1st important law of escorting. 2nd- an always balanced checkbook.
* Due to Pick Up Artist culture + social media, your personal privacy is going to be more precious to you than gold or platinum. There are lots of Internet resources about how to guard privacy.
* Beware emotional manipulators and scam artists. The adult industry is FULL of them.
In addition to what everybody else said, decide if you are going to be discrete or open about it. Some escorts are comfortable showing their face in pictures, others are more discrete. If you're going the discrete route, make sure that you use pictures that you don't post on any of your personal social media accounts. Have pictures that are only used for your escorting website and ads. People can easily use reverse image search on Google and find your personal social media accounts and from there possibly find your real name, address, etc. if you have the same pictures, even if you cropped your face out. I have seen a few escorts make that amateur mistake and end up with deranged clients/stalkers showing up at their homes, harassing their family members, and causing legal problems. Get a burner number that is used only for escorting purposes.
Put your safety first always!!! Screen the hell out of potential clients, make them give you their real name and do a background search on them, or a reverse phone number search. Make sure they give you their correct information, that they have no criminal record, and have them give you references from past providers they have seen. Do not ever let them know your real identity or personal information, be very secretive. Keep your escorting life separate from your personal life, don’t let anyone know. Get a burner phone with an untraceable number and pay in cash only. If you want to be high end, present yourself as high end, and invest in having a high end image/brand. Good luck!
Safe Office dot com is a place you can share info about places to work.
Also there are still ban lists on the Internet for clients. If you are abused or assaulted by a client put his info on one of these lists! I've had girls I didn't know thank me for listing bad clients. Some men think they can abuse women and we have to hold the line to stop them from doing that.
Edit to add- if you choose to offer BDSM services, work out of a dungeon or work out of a hotel room with security nearby OR a friend nearby. SCREEN your clients thoroughly.
Also- if something sounds too good to be true, it probably is - a LOT of thieves/predators will try enticing you with an abnormally large amount of compensation or big promises to accommodate their requests/demands. I was almost robbed once in this scenario. These types are counting on your reluctance to deal with LE, therefore they will try to victimize you.
Understand there will be slow times and really busy times. Plan for the slow times by budgeting your money to cover yourself.
Join the Heaux (app)
You'll find everything you're looking for there.
The woman who created it even has a YouTube channel, podcast, has written books.
If you're asked by a customer to submit selfies to verify it is really you in the picture, some men are crazy enough to take the time to find the location you took the photo at, google search, and show up. It also shows the date you took the photo. Has happened a few times and with enough digging some crazy posted my photo, facebook, and full real name in a mens only forum for them to snoop along with other women they online stalked. Make sure to disable the photo location by doing a google search on your phone because it's typically turned on for all phones automatically.
I know a few providers who show their faces and for a while I did too because I really don’t ever want to be in a position where someone tries to use my profession as blackmail. Not to mention, I was already out in the opene about being a sex worker with my friends and family.
That said, I live in Canada and wish I hadn’t shown my face now. Recently, lots of workers who travel to the states, whether touring or not, regardless whether by plane or by car, whether passing through or travelling to the states,will often be flagged, interrogated, and banned from the US for 10 years - a major way they are flagged is by facial recognition software.
So in short, I would never recommend any provider show her face. Just my two cents from learning the hard way.
I had a friend from college visiting Vegas when I was touring and he thought it was hilarious contacting me because my face was in my ads. It's a shitty situation. I didn't start out with posting my face but eventually posted my face because I was sick of all the emails for a face photo or giving them a password after screening to access my non-blurred photos. It's become so competitive nowadays girls are willing to shoot video footage and photos of their face to get more responses. Glad I'm out of the game.
I escorted in the past mostly part time to supplement my income but for a short period where I did it for a couple of months. I enjoyed it because it allowed me the greatest autonomy and creativity I've ever had working. I got to make my own schedule. I had discretion over how my time and energy was distributed. I screened well, and was lucky and I stayed safe and had a great time. Made the money I wanted to make and got out of it.
That being said I did this in a country where it was decriminalized. I thought about doing it once I got back to the US but it was too complicated for me to do here. I also don't want a criminal record, especially now. Also, men seem to treat women differently here? The place I did it in people in general were more honest and not to say that people didn't lie it just wasn't as socially accepted as it is in US culture, I'm sorry to say. People in general lie so much here over stupid things, things that you don't even gain anything by lying about. This makes relationships even casual ones, difficult because they tend to be about power struggles more so than connecting with another person. I have no interest in even dating men here because most of them don't even seem to have empathy. Like they can't even fake it well. Most of the relationships I've had have been with men from other cultures/nations. And I get that's not for everybody but that's what worked for me.
Besides the extra income, I feel like most men aren't worth my time and energy unless I'm being compensated for dealing with them. This issue is that Escorting is illegal. And even that I feel isn't really that much of a deterrent for me. It's the fact that I can't really negotiate and screen well. I can't be honest about my restrictions and rates like I could in the past. I'm not asking for tips on screening the info on here is good. I just don't feel like it's worth the risk doing it here. I do miss being paid for sex and companionship though. I miss having more personal freedoms period and I feel like American culture is severely lacking in those. The country I was in prosecuted human trafficking aggressively and more successfully I think than America does and they still allowed adults freedom in what are considered personal matters.
Idk. I really hate living here sometimes is what it is. I feel like US is a giant open air prison.
Omg sweetie, I’m in just to give you HUGE *HUGS*!!! I’m in Canada so when it comes to escorting things are more chill up here. But I’m in a smaller city, and it AMAZES me that I wasn’t caught by someone I know the first time around. So much so that now I’m too terrified to start working again now that I’m single again.
But if all you’re worried about is rates and screening, that can be overcome. DON’T negotiate your rates. You SET your rates and then people will either pay them or they won’t. FULL STOP. Don’t be out their haggling with these dudes. You are a goddess and they are lucky to be allowed even a moment of your time. Know your limits/boundaries and stick to them. Honestly, so long as you’re not doing bottom of the barrel escorting, most men with respect your limits. Just be confident and firm!
And if all else fails, come hang out in Canada!
Girls do better when they don't show their face for privacy reasons and business-wise.
Beauty is subjective. You don't want a potential client seeing your face and deciding you're not attractive and moving on to the next profile. Plus the adventure of meeting a girl for the first time is part of the hobby experience. All of the ladies I work with don't show their face and make $5k-$8k per week. I would strongly suggest never sending unblurred photos either. These guys will post those photos anywhere and if they find out your real name they will make your life hell for sport.
Ohh yes, indiegirl, that’s another downside of showing your face. I’ve had one close call with someone I know trying to book me (he teased up and chickened our), and another d-bag who saw me. He wasn’t a boundary pusher not was he abusive, but he was a total sleezeball.
I get what you're saying but I just dont trust people here to respect boundaries like that especially if there is any ambiguity. People lie easily and often in professional situations I dont think they'll be any better in this type of situation. It's a cultural thing that tends to take people outside our culture by surprise. I was in Europe and came back to the States and I realised it but Ive known it all my life it just didnt hit me until I lived somewhere else. For a lot of complicated reasons people just have no accountability and will lie easily and often to cover up mistakes rather than admit to them. Its not everyone but its seen as common ahn acceptable even by people who dont do it themselves. There's a lot of normalising of behaviors that most people would find dysfunctional or abnormal and because most US citizens never leave the U.S.,even if they don't like it,they see nothing wrong with it even when they are the victims of it. Its because our government, in recent years, lies constantly. Its inbedded in our institutions which is one of the reasons I work three jobs now. I don't trust anyone and hard experience has taught me to always have something to fall back on in terms of finance. This is exacerbated by social status too and women have the lowest social status in U.S. Women are less valued here so people will lie to you about anything because they know theyll get away with it. Ive had people in positions of authority at educational institutions lie to me in writing and then when I complained and presented proof that they lied it was all excused in some way except for a few cases. Would not be the same if the positions were reversed. I really miss the country that I was in because that was nonexistent there.
I did visit Toronto but...its too cold for me lol. If it was warmer, I'd definitely move. Maybe I'll just cater exclusively to international clients. I feel like it will be easier dealing with them. And only advertise in the countries of men I want to see. There's a lot of tourism in my city so that's an avenue to explore in my spare time. It beats dating, the men here are trash and the less said about them the better. The dating scene is such that escorting is actually preferable to it.
This is tiresome and I really want a break from it.
I have been saying it for years that America ranges from an open air prison to an open air insane asylum. I agree with your post 100%.
In regards to American men, I'm a straight man and I generally don't like American men either. American men are rude, too cocky, racists, sexiest , violent, and have no loyalty or brotherhood with each other. America is also home to most of the worlds serial killers.
I hate living here too and I meet people in my day to day life that are also sick of this country and are trying to leave. Just met a woman the other day who is taking a job in Iceland to get out of this country. I have already been to Iceland and I told her she will be just fine. Iceland is virtually crime free and the population is very fit and healthy because they don't put all the crap in the food like they do here in the United States that's killing us.
It is pretty difficult to adjust to America when you were living in almost an utopia overseas or you were sheltered. It's like shock, culturally. It's unbelievable. And when your a person of color or black it's worst. It effects you're self-esteem, you're confidence.
You just have to learn to be tough. Like most New Yorkers are. And read and accept that there's predators, trying to get over on you. Be avoidant or learn to deal with such behavior. And if you grow insane because of this start looking for a PLACE that has less of the hassle for you.
Not to mention, being treated poorly when you're a woman alone.
Being black in America is the worse. American blacks have been screwed over, victimized, and purposely disenfranchised since they have been here in America. Smart and upwardly mobile blacks have recognized this over the decades and have fled to other countries like France where they were welcomed and were able to live a full prosperous life. James Baldwin comes to mind.
There is no utopia abroad for black people. White supremacy is global.
I personally like being a black woman in Canada *shrug*. Any problems with ignorant eI face are literally YEARS apart and so rare that when it happens I'm honestly like "what the fuck? Is this happening?" And if it's in public and witnessed the bystanders lose their SHIT and rush to make sure I'm ok. America is crazy. I'm just going to hang out here with my maple syrup.