Re: I suck at being a stripper.
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Originally Posted by
calicowhisper
Whaaat? I wish my club would serve alcohol but the stupid law prevents that from happening. I don't know any club in Florida that serves both and is probably 2 or 4 hours away from me.
i'm in south florida and ALL the clubs closer to me are full nude and full bar. except madonnas in south beach. if you are not able to travel a bit further, i would definitely pick alcohol over full nude. money flows easier when liquor flows.
you will have to get over your shyness. i always told myself in the beginning : "i don't know these people and i will never see them in real life, so i shouldn't care if i make a fool out of myself".
Re: I suck at being a stripper.
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Originally Posted by
xxxGothBarbie
What helped me was drinking a little at work before any stage sets or hustling for dances. Not the best advice or healthiest but it def took the edge off & I started leaving with more money. Good luck!
Guess my story is a cautionary tale for those with social anxiety and substance use. I started sober and focused on calming myself down moving slowly during conversation despite my anxiety. It really helped me learn my way making money around the club and I made a lot of money. Wound up an alcoholic slowly but surely over the years in the biz because I was getting bored at work emotionally exhausted from talking to customers so my tolerance built up past 2 shots to an entire bottle. Now my anxiety is worse than ever because you can't really work on your social skills over the years when you are relying on a substance to take the edge off. Don't really recommend a substance as an option to a newbie. One club I worked at has quite the list of girls who have had problems with it despite being new and not allowed to drink if they worked there, but I was the queen of alcohol consumption. In reality, you don't see people with social anxiety drinking at their vanilla job or doing drugs to "take the edge off". This job should be treated the same.
Re: I suck at being a stripper.
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Originally Posted by
indiegirl
Guess my story is a cautionary tale for those with social anxiety and substance use. I started sober and focused on calming myself down moving slowly during conversation despite my anxiety. It really helped me learn my way making money around the club and I made a lot of money. Wound up an alcoholic slowly but surely over the years in the biz because I was getting bored at work emotionally exhausted from talking to customers so my tolerance built up past 2 shots to an entire bottle. Now my anxiety is worse than ever because you can't really work on your social skills over the years when you are relying on a substance to take the edge off. Don't really recommend a substance as an option to a newbie. One club I worked at has quite the list of girls who have had problems with it despite being new and not allowed to drink if they worked there, but I was the queen of alcohol consumption. In reality, you don't see people with social anxiety drinking at their vanilla job or doing drugs to "take the edge off". This job should be treated the same.
This ^
Seriously I went through the same exact thing. The alcohol helped calm my anxiety and make more money, but eventually I went from a shot or two, to an entire bottle. Maybe more.
Later in my life I came across other anxieties, and I used alcohol to cope with those too. I spiraled into alcoholism. Its not fun. I would caution anyone from using substances to fix issues. Look, it seems fine at first. "I only drink a couple times a week" "I only drink at work" "I'm totally in control of a drinking." Or whatever excuse you wanna tell yourself. It will creep up on you slowly. It took me 10 slow and steady years to get there, but I got there.
Best advice I can give you is to think positive. If you have a bad night, or a bad week, or a bad month. Who cares. It will get better. Start reading as much as you can about; conversation skills, psychology, sex, male brain, sales, etc. And the most important is to be patient with yourself while you're learning and overcoming your fears. Heck, go see a therapist or two who specializes in social anxiety. Having a professional help you address these issues will become a lifelong skill.
You can be so successful, and the fact that you are here asking questions shows me you have huge potential. Please don't take the easy way out and rely on alcohol or other substances. Good luck girl!! There's so much amazing advice in this thread. You've got the support you need <3
Re: I suck at being a stripper.
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Originally Posted by
calicowhisper
I don't think camming is for me because I don't want to masturbate on cam. However, I do enjoy giving massages and cuddling in the vip room. Idk I like that kind of connection with customers.
I don't masturbate on cam, nor do I get completely naked. I use sites like Chaterbate and other token based sites, because those platforms are more non-nude model friendly imo.
Instead my shows are slow strip teases (without showing anything explicitly). Lots of flirting and building relationships online with paying customers. Theres money in non nude! In fact, lots of guys are intrigued by this approach.
I definitely made much more money camming than stripping. Camming was easy on my social anxiety, more flexible on my hours, and I could do it more often cause it was less mentally draining. *I'm not saying my experience is normal. I was pleasantly surprised by trying something different.* I wouldn't completely rule out the idea of camming. Maybe just put the idea on the shelf and consider it one day. ^.^
Re: I suck at being a stripper.
My best advice is to SMILE. When I started out I didn’t know what the fuck I was doing but I always tried to project the happy bubbly girl next door vibe (which also works with my look). A good amount of times guys will come up and tip me on stage and compliment my smile bc most of the girls just look bored on stage, don’t do that! And as the other ladies said, once guys tip you on stage- find them after your set. They are likely to buy a dance or a few.
Attitude is everything and when I act like a miserable cow and frown and get flustered I don’t make money.