I recently acquired a new slave. We will go for dinner/drinks tomorrow to a very upscale place. I need humiliation/domination ideas I can do in a restaurant setting to make him suffer. Time to get creative xx
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I recently acquired a new slave. We will go for dinner/drinks tomorrow to a very upscale place. I need humiliation/domination ideas I can do in a restaurant setting to make him suffer. Time to get creative xx
Make him rub your feet under the table, feed you, give you sips of your wine. He’s not allowed to have any wine though only water lol. You pick what he eats. Make it be the nastiest thing on the menu. Make him order the food for you being like “my goddess would like...”. Make him tip 50% of the bill.
Excellent thank you! I’d love any and all ideas to make him suffer. Will report back how it went
Hello
I have a suggestion for you.
Ask him to edge a few times before the date, but not orgasm. Then, in case he has foot fetish, come to the restaurant in the exact type of shoes he drools over. And tease the hell out of him, while quietly having fun at his inability to control that boner, for which he is going to be punished later on, perpahs.
thank you tho he ended up cancelling as i cant host at my apartment. so im applying to be a mistress at several local dungeous as he said he will visit me.
ideas in getting hired?
seems like it. OMG tho i just got an interview this week at a dungeon!!! So excite
Yaaaaaay dungeon!
I think it depends on what kind of domination you do and how you met your sub/slave. There are some that I would certainly host because they are more “House slaves”. I am more of a mental, sensual Domme. So I really enjoy subs that want to do my dishes, run my errands, or do sissy transformations. So yeah, hosting in my pretty condo while they pour my wine and I get to dress up a man in a pretty pretty dress and use him like a human Barbie doll? What’s not to love?
More physical or corporate domination, no, I would not host. Also VERY few subs ever earn the honour of being in my home, I’m just sayin that I can see how it would happen.
^ Ive got nothing, sorry hun. I first started about 13 years ago. I should probably try to hunt up some reference material though, if only for expanding my knowledge base.
I would suggest that you make sure you find your own AUTHENTIC style though. Don’t feel like you have to be what is considered a “typical” Domme or be like anyone else. Also, specialize in what interests YOU. If you hate wax play but love electricity then focus on electricity. If you hate rope bondage but love flogging then focus on your backswing, baby!
Now the dungeon may have its own expectations for what you need to offer, so this is just my advice as an Indy.
Went to the dungeon for my interview today and honestly feeling a bit catfished atm. despite any prior notice of this, towards the end of the interview the mistress tells me that dommes are also encouraged/required to switch and work as submissives, and being a submissive requires full service. I told them that's a hard no but still kinda pissed they didn't tell me before. sounds kinda shady.
HOLY SHIT!!!
They said that you have to work as a submissive and that you had to, and let me make sure I’ve got this straight, have SEX as a submissive with the dungeon’s clients? Or even with the other Dommes?
If that is the case I have some simple advice for you...
Fuck that place and burn it to the ground! Then piss on the ashes.
If anyone “required” me to be a submissive, full service or not, I would punch them in the throat. I am not submissive. I am not the least but submissive. And being forced to perform in a submissive role would be a gross violation to me akin to being sexually assaulted.
Some women like the idea of domination and want to “play” at being a Domme, and that’s their prerogative. Sometimes you have to test something out to see if it suits you. And other women, like myself, are simply dominant down to our core.
* I feel like my domination style is so cultivated to my personality that I would be terrible at writing a book or a program about it, but I will keep it in mind.
Walking out of there was the RIGHT thing to do.
Let me ask you something, or a few things rather. It will help for future advice...
Why do you want to be a Domme?
What draws you to BDSM?
What aspects of BDSM interest you the most?
Do you have any specific kinks or fetishes that you think you would really like to deal with or “cater to” when it comes to paying clients?
Do you know anything about BDSM, like, even the basics? Or are you brand new? (I’m not being snarky I’m just trying to get an accurate assessment of where you are)
How did you find the submissive client that you were doing to do the dinner session with?
If you prefer you can PM me your answer. Maybe just post in the thread that you’ve sent me a message.
the mistress just sent me this and im pissed
Hello there,
There is a great deal of difference between doing BDSM in private life and for a living (professionally) in both roles ie that of Mistress and sub.
I don't agree with your sub friend at all. Many women here would have switched who have vanilla sex lives or no sex lives at all or Dominate their partners.
There are not enough clients for a person to be only a sub as most of the clients who come here are subs themselves and wish to see a Mistress...this was true even before the internet made it easier for female subs to meet Masters online. I have never heard of anybody making a living from doing just submission.
Domination and submission are flip sides of the same coin and it has always been true in this venue for over 33 years that the best Mistresses also switch and in fact are very good as submissives. It's all in the head.
You many not have an accurate picture of what a sub in this house does and that is to be expected as you have not been around to hear what really goes on in sessions...it is probably NOT what you think, and especially not what your friend thinks.
We have one set of service providers who are very versatile. Very few women can do this job.
The reason that subs offer full service is that there is there is little demand for a sub that doesn't offer it...given that we are (technically) in a licensed brothel. We have tried to market subs offering a blow job or hand job and there's just not a lot of call for it. If a Master comes in and would like to have sex and the sub doesn't offer it, then we have lost a client, and we prefer not to be in that position.
I have never met a woman who was a great Mistress (in a commercial venue) who did not switch. Being a sub is one of the best ways to learn how to Dominate.
Hope this helps.
Yours in Kink
Mistress Scarlett
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I believe that's an requirement at many dungeons for new dommes. Often more smaller dungeons require you to take that role.They have you serve as submissive for a few months and then you can start off as domme. Submissives can be paid more than dommes in certain dungeons. However, that depends on different factors such as area and type of dungeon. :) Also, dungeons who require their new dommes to become subs often follow the old ways. Back in the day, many dungeons would follow BDSM rules set by BDSM novelists such as Sacher-Masoch and Mirbeau. Many books written by Sacher-Masoch such as Venus in Furs have whole sections devoted to how dominatrixes must be submissives. Just my two cents.
Booooooooooo!
This is something that you hear a LOT, you must sub to be a good Domme. But I swear to god it’s one of those things that one persons said that caught on and started being passed along as gospel. Yes, there are switches, but they are their OWN CATEGORY. And yes, lifestyle domination and Domme for pay can be different but come ON. That’s more about mindset of the scene.
I have never been a sub and my subs WORSHIP me. I have my own distinct style because it is who I am down to my CORE. I don’t play at being a Domme. I’m not just a Domme for pay with not interest in it other than the money. I can EASILY flip between lifestyle and pro.
They are a liscenced brothel. Many independent Dommes would want to slap a sub in the face for even suggesting full sex occur. This dungeon is saying “We are a brothel, so our male clients that come in as “masters” can fuck you if they want.” Fuck. This. Dungeon.
Not all dungeons require you to be a sub. Some request that you be a... well basically an assistant. You do not dominate any clients yourself but you assist the other Dommes b fetching things and cleaning things and shadowing them as they work and learning BDSM, their techniques etc. I find that MUCH more acceptable.
** Fun fact:
The submissive “positions” that you often see used in movies and training, like kneeling, hands on knees palms up, come from FICTION. A NOVELIST made them up YEARS ago and they caught on and became a “thing”.
Just because something is commonly done doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone.
So I’ll say again. Any dungeon I worked at that told me I had to be submissive? Someone is getting punched in the throat.
*NOTE: We are grown ass adults that are going to do what we are going to do. And if people are cool with how the dungeon runs and love working there, good on them!
But for those people that feel like this is just wrong for them, that’s perfectly VALID. The dungeon’s way is not the “one true way” of doing things. It’s just ONE WAY of doing things.
good, I'm glad I'm not the only one outraged at this. I can sub in my personal life but its more the fact that I'm trusting a complete stranger to do whatever with my body. Sure, to this the headmistress said theres safewords and such, but in an era when so many sex workers are raped and faced violence, what if you're yelling the safeword on top of your lungs and the guy just decides to ignore it and do something like fuck you without a condom? Yeah nah. Not happening. EVER.
I got good news though at least! I went to the other dungeon and it was very sleek, classy and professional. Definitely heaven and earth compared to the seedy vibe of the other place. Were personally reassured by the headmistress that she knows of and shuns the other dungeon's practices and said it is known the headmisstress of the seedy dungeon threatens to out personal information about the dommes if they wish to leave her employment. She was very professional and said switching or even full service is never a requirement of anyone who works out of the dungeon and people are welcome to set their own boundaries which is how it should be.
So I'm pretty excited, I may have a session with the dinner sub later this week :D
^Woooo!!
I have a session tomorrow at a dungeon with a new slave.
i will be telling him the rules relating to consent, safe words etc.
Any fun ideas to add?
I’m doing pro domming for first time in a long time so I’m a bit rusty. Had very good communication with the client who wants humiliation, corporal punishment and forced sissification.
Would love some ideas how to best make use of the hour!
any tips / links welcome xx
I'm not a pro Domme but I've had clients who were sub and into that sort of thing. The humiliation and forced sissification fetish guys are pretty easy. Put makeup on him, especially red or pink lipstick and a bra and panties, or something feminine. Pink is the best color to put sissies in. Got a strap on or dildo? Order him to suck it and flog him if he doesn't obey you.
I love humiliation and here are some fun ideas I’ve gotten a good laugh out of:
- Measuring their dick’s length with a ruler and girth w a measuring tape. If I don’t have them I’ll guestimate using fingers. I’ll measure both soft and hard and let them know what a real man’s measurements should be
- Make them leave with cum on their face. Or even if their cum lands on their abdomen, I tell them not to wipe and it leaves a wet stain lol
- if they like anal play, help them pick out which humiliating tail butt plugs you like best by modelling them for you
- when they speak without permission I cram my panties in their mouth
- point out all off his physical flaws
- if there’s a mirror in the dungeon, get him to go on all fours so you can sit on him while you touch up your makeup
- teach him how to suck a dildo and tell him how pathetic he is at it.
- when he gets an stiffy become angry and tell him to stop pointing it at you. Tell him to get rid of it. Tuck it between his legs if has to.
- make him stand in the corner and throw loogies at him. I actually want to make a dunst hat out of Bristol board and write some insulting term on it. Lol I should take my dog’s cone and make him wear it, come to think of it.
- take about public humiliation scenarios if he is ok with that. I’ve always wanted to make a slave go into Victoria’s Secret and try ask an employee to help him pick out some sexy garments and help him get sized.
... humiliation is obviously my favourite fetish.
Edit to add: aww I didn’t realize it was at a dinner
Hahaha I had the session with him yesterday. Spent most time on sissifying and shaming. Taught him how to do a pro catwalk in heels then laughed and told him how pathetic he is. Then previously compiled a bubblegum pop playlist and made him show me his disco dancing and slut drops. Then sent him the playlist and said if he heard any of these songs in public he will have to sensually twirl his hips. Told him he has no tits and to go to a lingerie shop and be fitted in a bra and buy matching pretty frilly panties. Painted his big toenails fluro pink and told him he now had to do this everyday before work.
I had a lot of fun lol