Developing anxiety around sex?
Hello all.
I've been dancing for 3 years, and most of that time has been single. I've been with someone for a year now, and over the course of a couple months I've been developing some anxiety over sex. My sex drive has severely decreased, and certain positions/touches remind me of dancing and really turn me off...the last time I had good sex was when I took a few weeks off work. Has anyone else had this problem? I'm working on my exit plan and hope to be done within a year. I just hope I'm not alone in this. Thanks.
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You should repost this or wait for a mod to move it to the ladies only section of the forum.
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This is called sexual aversion. To start with I would recommend very clear communication with your partner. Make sure he understands what is and is not ok and that those things can be fluid.
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Not really sex in general but- This happens with my nipples. I used to not mind them being touched but after so many guys pulling, pinching or putting them in their mouths without asking I can't stand them being touched anymore... thinking of getting my nipples pierced and always saying they are new and hurt to be touched even after they heal just so custies don't touch them. :/
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lightningfarron
Not really sex in general but- This happens with my nipples. I used to not mind them being touched but after so many guys pulling, pinching or putting them in their mouths without asking I can't stand them being touched anymore... thinking of getting my nipples pierced and always saying they are new and hurt to be touched even after they heal just so custies don't touch them. :/
Put deodorant on your nipples. Even drunk dudes will taste Secret Outlast Protecting Powder Scent Deodorant.
Put guys in their place too. Men love being told no, and that in order to do that, they have to earn it. Its up to you to decide what "earn it" means. In my mind its for then for be a charming billionaire. ^.^ Your words are more powerful than a piercing. But of course if you want a piercing, that's awesome.
I agree so much with the first part of your post. I cant have a guy suck my nipples ever. again. for the rest of my life. It makes me want to vomit.
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cutiecam
Put deodorant on your nipples. Even drunk dudes will taste Secret Outlast Protecting Powder Scent Deodorant.
Put guys in their place too. Men love being told no, and that in order to do that, they have to earn it. Its up to you to decide what "earn it" means. In my mind its for then for be a charming billionaire. ^.^ Your words are more powerful than a piercing. But of course if you want a piercing, that's awesome.
I agree so much with the first part of your post. I cant have a guy suck my nipples ever. again. for the rest of my life. It makes me want to vomit.
Oh believe me i've put deodorant and perfume on them and it doesn't stop them from trying. Of course once they do it they stop and I get a small feeling of retribution. I also tell them no don't do that again and they don't but again what's done has been done. :P
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I recommend going to a sex therapist to help you, and you can also bring your partner with you, to help him understand.
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lightningfarron
Oh believe me i've put deodorant and perfume on them and it doesn't stop them from trying. Of course once they do it they stop and I get a small feeling of retribution. I also tell them no don't do that again and they don't but again what's done has been done. :P
I'm so sorry to hear that. That is really out of line. Please call security over if this ever happens again. You don't have to just put up with that - that is what security is there for.
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Volimm
Hello all.
I've been dancing for 3 years, and most of that time has been single. I've been with someone for a year now, and over the course of a couple months I've been developing some anxiety over sex. My sex drive has severely decreased, and certain positions/touches remind me of dancing and really turn me off...the last time I had good sex was when I took a few weeks off work. Has anyone else had this problem? I'm working on my exit plan and hope to be done within a year. I just hope I'm not alone in this. Thanks.
Honestly, it seems to me that you have some problems with hormones. The fact is that At your young age, having no sex drive for a month is very strange. It seems to me that in this case it is better not to waste time and immediately consult a doctor. If you were 40 years old as my aunt and you didn’t have a sex drive, then this would be normal because during this period women have menopause and their hormones are completely rebuilt.
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YESSSSSSSSSS. This is exactly what happened to me! I stopped liking nipple play once I had guys putting their mouths on it/pinching my boobs aggressively. It really turned me off and when someone did this in my personal life I was completely turned off.
Luckily it went away, mostly because I don't work as much as I used to, but there are quite a few things like this that stripping traumatized me
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Feel free to click on the helpful threads in Ladies Only and Life Support
I'd say this could be PTSD. You may be triggered into a physical or emotional flashback right now. But you can work through this with exploring your feelings and sharing your fear, anger, pain with your partner so he understands your new temporary physical limits.