Dealing with GFE customers
Not sure if there are any threads on here about this type of thing and I’m not used to doing the search feature so bare with me. I have been making almost all of my money off of guys who only seem to spend on me with the intentions that I will end up dating them. Idk why this is happening, but ever since I came back to work a week ago it’s been nothing but dudes who after they get dances hang around to get my number and to try and make plans to meet me OTC and “take me on a date”. To be clear, in reality I am far from interested as I am engaged and have children. My hustle style is to treat the guys like I’m super into them (basic, I know lol). In my dances I tell them how much I am enjoying their company & I actually do enjoy dancing and being sexy for people and getting paid for it. But at the end when they want to get my number and want to still take me out I have been having a hard time telling them no because I want to keep in touch with them for slow times at the club. Its starting to bite me in the ass, I even have a guy that I know from 5 years ago when I first started dancing waiting to go on a date with me 😩. Like how do I transition with good paying customers by letting them know I’m not interested in OTC even though I act like it as part of my “hustle”? Should I just send out a text to my favorite customers and tell them I like them but only feel comfortable seeing them ITC? I have definitely learned my lesson and will avoid the dating questions and will not lead anyone else on as it is a super pain in my ass outside of work hours. I just need advice on if I should just rip the bandaid off and tell them now it’s never going to happen OTC or keep “postponing” the dates until they get sick of waiting and move on? So far the “postponing” hasn’t worked in terms of them realizing I’m full of shit. They still come in and pay me since that’s the only way they can see me but i still get bothered for dates. Someone please help me with a way out of this mess!
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Hmmmm ... as I said in another thread, I have never really dealt with regulars, so I am reading this and honestly wondering how I would handle it.
Based on what I have read here, it sounds like you're actually in a good spot if you're cool with stringing them along. If you're getting that tired of their pestering, I would say that maybe it's a case-by-case thing. How long have you known a given customer, and how well is he paying you? How 'okay' are you with losing the income he brings you? That would influence whether I continue the Madagascar Penguin-style smile-and-wave and put up with his bs, or try to start letting him down.
You might try making them try to earn your number by spending X amount of money or by coming back to see you X number of times, so you can 'know they are for real'.
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“You seem like a really good guy...maaaaybe I’ll make an exception for you. I’m just scared because the last time I met up with someone he tried to kidnap me...but aaaaanyways I don’t want to think about that right now.. Let’s go over there and play!”
Or some other kind of bs line works too.
..But then again I think most customers realize I’m full of shit. I’m not good at the long term stringalong either.
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If you can't address them firmly then you can't do nothing about it.
Don't know how to type this but bare with me.
There's two types of guys that you've mention. #1 - "In-love" regulars and #2 - those looking for a date or date a stripper.
All in all, they have no intention being repeat strip-club-customers in the future once their "shelve life" expires. But they're part of the ecosystem of the strippers' income.
Once, "in-love" regulars realize it's pointless and a waste of money, they learn their lesson and move on. Some convert to those type of guys that ask OTC w/o spending and a very few of them repeat the same action of spending recklessly on a certain stripper.
Same goes with those who spend small amount and asking OTC.
You have to be thankful and take advantage of these "unpolished" men in this day-and-age. They're becoming less and less.
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I've had some men ask and I will tell them that it's against club policy for me to date the customers and give my personal phone number. I've also told them that since this is my job, I apply the no dating coworkers rule to custies as well. It'll mess up the budding relationship that you have now and making the experience fun if you're dating. I DO tell them though that they can have my IG or they will have to pay to have my (Google voice) phone number. Luckily, I've had men say they understand (but I'll be missing out on a great opportunity and miss my soulmate or whatever), but I'm very firm in repeating my no but saying telling them I will respond to messages on IG, post when I'm at the club, and emphasize how they should come see me/I'll make sure to search for them in the crowd.
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Men don't care for club's rules and policies. What they see is "you" and "I" "outside" the club without breaking the bank.
Men are growing up in this country(USA) with the mindset that everything should be free/cheap. Especially with women. It's daunting to deal with this mindset.
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You can try stringing them along, making them think that you're genuinely interested in them. You could also just come out and tell them that you don't see guys otc. A lot of these jokers who try to see strippers are guys looking for free or cheap sexual services anyways. If they keep trying to push for an otc meet, be firm and tell them that if they want to see you, they'll have to do that in the club. If you encounter an overly persistent guy, that's when I like to tell those types that I have a boyfriend that I'm in love with and I'm not willing to go on any "dates" or hookups with anyone else.
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305gurl
Men don't care for club's rules and policies. What they see is "you" and "I" "outside" the club without breaking the bank.
Men are growing up in this country(USA) with the mindset that everything should be free/cheap. Especially with women. It's daunting to deal with this mindset.
yeah I can't pull that one either cause there are girls left and right (sometimes literally) giving out their n umber and meeting guys otc...
I find that they are not good spenders anyways.. the best spenders are usually the guys who dont even want your number.
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There's a lot of this where I work.. So I'm not unfamiliar with it. I would only do that a few times and eventually flat-out tell them that I can't meet OTC and am not looking for a date. Are these guys looking for a girlfriend or is this like a paid dinner date.. Etc? I think you should just be honest. I feel like guys like this don't spend much money anyway after a while. Not to mention them asking to see you over and over gets annoying.