Can gifts from regulars be too much?
My regular is pretty great so I can't complain about that, but I'm the kind of person that easily feels guilty about things. Anyway, he likes to show "appreciation" as I let him know about my schedule so that he can come and see me. I listen to him a lot and he feels pretty comfortable sharing things with me. Anyway, he likes to massage my feet and I honestly don't spend too much time dancing for him since this is his preference. He likes to also bring gifts for me, mainly in the form of shoes, offering to pay for my pedicures, etc. I'm not sure if I should feel like a sugar baby at this point, or if this is totally normal. Is there a point where something is too much or am I worrying for no reason? I'm not charging him extra for the massages, and only the regular price as it would be for a dance.
Thanks!
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The guy seems to have foot fetish so when he offers to pay for pedicures, he is basically paying to make your feet look like his fantasy. I bet he buys you the kind of shoes HE wants to see on you. Just be careful if he starts offering to go to a nail spa/shoe store etc. together aka meet outside the club. If that's not what you want, take the gifts from him IN the club.
Re: Can gifts from regulars be too much?
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Adelina
The guy seems to have foot fetish so when he offers to pay for pedicures, he is basically paying to make your feet look like his fantasy. I bet he buys you the kind of shoes HE wants to see on you. Just be careful if he starts offering to go to the spa with you or tries to bring you to his home or a hotel to "admire your feet". To me, it sounds like he is infatuated with you and is trying to take a step towards seeing you outside the club. If that's not what you want, take the gifts from him IN the club.
Thanks for the reply. And yes, I do not have interest in meeting him outside or anything so I do make sure that anything I do is within the club. So far he hasn't offered to go to the spa or anything like that - I'm wondering if I should tell him to no longer bring gifts or if that may push him away. He's the best customer I have and is generous so he's not someone I would really want to get rid of, since the money is good.
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You sound very conscientious and it's a great trait. If you don't feel comfortable accepting gifts, you can just say so to your customer. I believe the reason you are not comfortable accepting gifts if because you feel it makes you feel obligated in some way. Do you feel like he is going to start asking you out if you continue to accept his gifts? And that makes you uncomfortable. That's what I think.
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Adelina
You sound very conscientious and it's a great trait. If you don't feel comfortable accepting gifts, you can just say so to your customer. I believe the reason you are not comfortable accepting gifts if because you feel it makes you feel obligated in some way. Do you feel like he is going to start asking you out if you continue to accept his gifts? And that makes you uncomfortable. That's what I think.
Yes, exactly. So far, I can't say that there have been any major red flags about him or anything. It's more of the fact that I wonder "what if these gifts are supposed to be leading to something else?". It's pretty much what you say as I don't want to feel obligated or feel "in debt" in some way. At the same time, I wouldn't want to lose a really good customer.
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I have a serious issue with this. I really don’t like it. I don’t like to ever be in a position where someone may feel that they have any sort of leverage over me or that I’m in any way beholden to them.
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I find myself in similar situations all the time. I lose paying customers all the time because there is a 90% chance they want to date me outside the club when they act in a similar fashion like your customer does. And I refuse to meet with them outside the club so they stop coming and spending money on me. Or they come and spend on other girls. You cannot control what's going on in your customer's mind. But it does sound like he is trying to progress things in the direction of seeing you outside the club. If it makes you anxious and uncomfortable, I d tell him you are not comfortable and see how he responds. Or continue to accept gifts and money until the point he offers to take you out and mentally prepare for his expiration date. I bet it's only a matter of time before he asks to meet outside your work.
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AChildOfBoredom
I have a serious issue with this. I really don’t like it. I don’t like to ever be in a position where someone may feel that they have any sort of leverage over me or that I’m in any way beholden to them.
Exactly. That's why I prefer to work at clubs where new people come all the time so I don't have to depend on establishing regulars. Most times, regulars start expecting more once they feel they have some leverage over you.
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I don't see the issue. It's normal for guys buy gifts. Foot guys can be good customers. Sounds like he just wants to worship your feet. Let him, let him get you shoes and pedicures and worship your feet just make sure your charging him enough. All regs expire in the end enjoy it while you can be sounds easy.
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chanzep
I don't see the issue. It's normal for guys buy gifts. Foot guys can be good customers. Sounds like he just wants to worship your feet. Let him, let him get you shoes and pedicures and worship your feet just make sure your charging him enough. All regs expire in the end enjoy it while you can be sounds easy.
Thanks for responding. I think it was just my worry that he's buying the gifts because he's expecting something MORE. But so far he hasn't asked for anything more.
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A lot of guys do expect more of course but you just put them off until they get fed up of your excuses. If he has not said anything great. Get the shoes and pedicures and model them for him, get that money!
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He has a foot fetish. He's buying his favorite pair of feet heels. I see no issues here.