Did I overreact with this photographer?
So, I reached out to this photographer that I actually met the model Mayham, but he’s now on my Instagram, about working together once the pandemic is over towards the end of this year. The conversation was going OK at first and then he proceeded to tell me that he liked the fact that I had a nice butt. He also kept calling me hottie in the conversation that we had. It made me uncomfortable and I just ignored him and didn’t respond because we probably wouldn’t be able to meet till the end of the year anyways if I decided that I wanted to work with him. I finally decided to reach out to him today about what happened and told him that he made me feel uncomfortable and like he wanted something more than just to collaborate and that I was only focus on collaborating and work related things with him. He apologized and tried to get me to talk to him but I told him that I was busy and that I excepted his apology, and that I would reach out to him if I was still interested in working with him in the future. I feel like I’ve worked with photographers for lingerie shoots before and they were more professional. They told me that I had a nice figure in a respectful way and didn’t call me names like hottie. But on other hand, I can understand if photographer reaching out to me like that because he does shoot lingerie work, and he does want to show off the parts of my body that have the most sex appeal. I don’t want to be overly sensitive but I don’t want to put myself in a bad or uncomfortable situation.
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
Block him and move on. He made you feel uncomfortable and you're not obligated to go through with a photo shoot nor interact with him.
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
Quote:
Originally Posted by
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
Block him and move on. He made you feel uncomfortable and you're not obligated to go through with a photo shoot nor interact with him.
I completely agree. Always trust your instincts and he knows that such things are crossing the line & didn't care. If he loses out on business because he failed to be respectful, especially after the "me too" movement then that is on him.
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
Be careful of photographers. Some of them are ok but some are looking to get more than photos. One of the main reasons why I quit glamour modeling was because of how consistently creepy, skeevy and predatory the photographers were. I agree always trust your instincts and intuition.
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
Thanks for your advice ladies. I figured I wasn’t overreacting. And yes, I agree that a lot of these photographers are sketchy as hell. I’m about to just get my own tripod and create my own set up like what was Recommended to me. I’m very grateful for my iPhone when I wish I took better quality pictures honestly lol
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
I agree. I typically stick with women or gay photographers just because of this & my comfort level. I don't trust men & being sketchy just comes naturally to them
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
I shoot with Madison Hurley or La Photography if your looking for gorgeous boudoir photographers, btw, that are SW, queer & women friendly! I can't say enough nice things about both little ladies!
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
Move on. I doubt he's anything special anyway, right?
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
I've heard several male photographers say they got into the business to get close to hot women they wouldn't have access to otherwise. Trust your instincts. He's probably looking for more than a working relationship. An important part of his job is to make the model feel comfortable and he's not succeeding there. It's good that you told him how he made you feel. Maybe he'll behave better with future models.
Re: Did I overreact with this photographer?
If anything you were being nice. Always trust your instincts.