Regular compliments for wife from dancers
OK, figured this is the right thread to ask this. My wife and I occasionally go to strip clubs together. Both of us get some lap dances (separately) at some point. After learning she is my wife (they ask for our relationship), most get surprised and say things like "she doesn't care you get dances from girls? I explain no, that she actually encourages it. They usually say that is very cool, that she is very sweet, etc. But almost all of them also tell me she is very beautiful and tell me to tell her that. Is that regular protocol so they can get a dance from her? Sometimes my wife sometimes ask for numbers and gets them easily. Last time, she directly asked one if she was interested in a threesome and the dancer said yes. When we both talked to her and my wife brought up the topic, she reaffirmed (although said we could talk more after her shift so she doesn't get in trouble) but also said she wasn't asking for money for this and asked if we were cops just in case, before giving her number.
My wife hasn't texted her, I don't think she actually will (she is the spontaneous type, so she could have been up for it that night but not necessarily the next), but this got me thinking if they truly consider her pretty (don't get me wrong, not that I couldn't believe it, she is pretty! but find it strange for dancers to say so so often) and want her to know or if this is a standard thing when couples visit the clubs? Not sure if the yes to the threesome was genuine either, and if money is really not involved. She did look kind of freaked out when she realized we could be cops if we were asking for threesome (we are not).
Our experience before any dances are actually bad... I feel dancers avoid us, they don't look for eye contact to see if we want them to come over, etc. so I usually need to stand up and approach one to ask for a dance (then things change because they know we are willing to spend money). It's only after they talk to my wife than they open up, give numbers, etc. Is this also normal? Are couples generally disliked at first by default?
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Yeah, I get that. However, I think this is different.
We as a couple don't got asking for threesomes, my wife doesn't do this often, it was the first time and probably because the dancer approached her when she was coming from the restroom to tell her she was beautiful and would love to give her a dance. When wife asked if she was interested in the threesome... dancer said yes without hesitation and was very friendly with wife afterwards too. Again, this was spontaneous, not that she or we go there asking for that all night, as in your meme. She herself suggested we stay after her shift and offered her number too (something happened and we couldn't stay though, wife got the number but again... she is the spontaneous type, so I don't think she will text).
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She might be very pretty ( probably is ! ) .
This is also most likely part of the game ! I mean .... what would you expect them / us to say ?
This is supposed to be sexy entertainment. If I was purchasing sexy entertainment ( and I sometimes do on off time from providing it ) I would want that experience of feeling sexy.
Does that make sense ?
Basically ...... for a threesome these girls might offer something " more " .
There is a .00000001% chance that a stripper will offer this to unpaid.
You’ve got your odds ( by my expert calculation ) and use that info as you want to.
These girls are probably just offering you a good experience.
Enjoy it and then go home and fuck ( each other ) like bunnies !!! :)
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What you're being told by actual dancers, in a very nice way, is different from what you want to hear, which is, "Yes, the local strip club is an easy place to find single hot bi girls who will three with a couple after first meeting and no one has ever thought of that before!"
You have a choice to keep telling us why you're different and special and hot and cool and unique so the dancer really did want to have a one night throuple with both of you, or you can accept that she was building a beautiful illusion for you, so you can go home and fantasize together about the hot dancer.
Your dancer is at work. Enjoy her work, tip her liberally, have fun, be glad you have an attractive cool wife!
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I fawn over every guy's wife in the club, even if they look like Mrs. Garbage above. Sorry, it's just game.
Yes, we generally dislike couples. Girlfriends/wives are often there trying to be the cool girl but really they are super uncomfortable or else sit there talking shit about the dancers. I've yet to have a couple that didn't start trying to finger each other or some shit once we get in VIP, which is also a pain in my ass since *I* get the managerial side eye about it. Y'all need babysitting half the time.
Your wife is probably receiving burner numbers that we give to lots of customers. They go to Google Voice or crappy flip phones that may or may not get answered. Sometimes it's easier to give out that number than refuse and lose further sales from the customer in the club that night.
This girl may also be running a long game to get you back in the club. I know of one girl who does fuck customers, including couples, because it's a hustle to get them to come spend $500 on a VIP with her whenever she calls them. It's her really weird roundabout way of being a prostitute, I don't know why she doesn't just charge them $500 for the sex and cut out the club.
Needless to say, I don't think you want to sleep with someone who is doing the dirty with that many people anyway, so I'd be wary even if this girl does turn out to be willing to do it.
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Selina M
I fawn over every guy's wife in the club, even if they look like Mrs. Garbage above. Sorry, it's just game.
Yes, we generally dislike couples. Girlfriends/wives are often there trying to be the cool girl but really they are super uncomfortable or else sit there talking shit about the dancers. I've yet to have a couple that didn't start trying to finger each other or some shit once we get in VIP, which is also a pain in my ass since *I* get the managerial side eye about it. Y'all need babysitting half the time.
Your wife is probably receiving burner numbers that we give to lots of customers. They go to Google Voice or crappy flip phones that may or may not get answered. Sometimes it's easier to give out that number than refuse and lose further sales from the customer in the club that night.
This girl may also be running a long game to get you back in the club. I know of one girl who does fuck customers, including couples, because it's a hustle to get them to come spend $500 on a VIP with her whenever she calls them. It's her really weird roundabout way of being a prostitute, I don't know why she doesn't just charge them $500 for the sex and cut out the club.
Needless to say, I don't think you want to sleep with someone who is doing the dirty with that many people anyway, so I'd be wary even if this girl does turn out to be willing to do it.
10000% all of this. I would go way overboard on complimenting wives, for so many reasons. Even if i hated their perfume and thought they smelled like BO after a night in the bar, I'd tell them how sexy they smelled, etc. I wouldn't do it in a fake way, i would just 'notice' and 'discover' them in the way lots of women love being noticed. Pile up the compliments. $_$
Various reasons why:
1) I didn't want them to hate me or have a bad experience
2) If wifey liked me, hubby might spend more on me during this visit and future visits
3) The more i made it all about HER, the less i was expected to do during dances, and the less likely i was to be sexually assaulted by the wife (i would keep all of the focus on how sexy SHE was, touching HER body, etc)
4) I wanted them to leave the club with him feeling proud of his wife's appearance and lucky to be with her, rather than just fantasizing about me. It's a karma thing, i guess, kind of. Or a sisterhood thing or something, idk.
I'm guilty of sometimes avoiding couples, for reasons Selina mentioned. I found that i would pretty much always be assaulted by straight wives getting dances with their husbands in the room. Like 95% of the time, grabbed and groped by the tipsy wife, while wifey is trying to put on a show of dominance, control, and sexiness for her husband. And it's really, really hard to maintain boundaries with female customers without offending them. By contrast, the most respectful customers i have EVER had were gay women.
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charlie61
By contrast, the most respectful customers i have EVER had were gay women.
Omg, yes. I forgot about the few gay/bi women I've encountered. They came alone or with one also-gay friend, were super respectful and sweet, and tipped on top of the dance prices. Those women are always welcome!
I think I've had one couple where the girl was legitimately bi-sexual. Her fiance was whipped as could be and she was treating him like an ATM :rotfl: They were fun.
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Bahuba
What you're being told by actual dancers, in a very nice way, is different from what you want to hear, which is, "Yes, the local strip club is an easy place to find single hot bi girls who will three with a couple after first meeting and no one has ever thought of that before!"
You have a choice to keep telling us why you're different and special and hot and cool and unique so the dancer really did want to have a one night throuple with both of you, or you can accept that she was building a beautiful illusion for you, so you can go home and fantasize together about the hot dancer.
Your dancer is at work. Enjoy her work, tip her liberally, have fun, be glad you have an attractive cool wife!
This is also a wonderful point. If you've found a dancer who can make you feel like the connection is real, and you leave the club feeling confident, sexy, stimulated, and high on life, then you've probably been lucky enough to find a dancer who is great at what she does. Enjoy it for what it is, don't try to make it into something more. Even if the dancer *were* truly interested, playing that offer out could hurt your relationship and/or ruin the fantasy; not to mention, it could ruin a great club that you previously enjoyed visiting.
All dancers know that every customer and regular has an expiration date, after which he'll stop buying from her, start buying from a different dancer, or leave the club for greener pastures. Sometimes customers only last a night, and sometimes they'll come back many times. Dancers are doing everything they can to ensure repeat business, especially during tough economic times...just like every other business out there. Strip clubs are lie factories, in the same way that your favorite waitress may have a genuine fondness for you that will evaporate once the nice tips dry up, and in the same way that your credit-card company wants to make you feel valued to keep your business. Anyone in any customer-service role is 'lying' to us, in a way, which doesn't mean that they don't simultaneously enjoy us while they're doing their jobs.
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Selina M
Omg, yes. I forgot about the few gay/bi women I've encountered. They came alone or with one also-gay friend, were super respectful and sweet, and tipped on top of the dance prices. Those women are always welcome!
I think I've had one couple where the girl was legitimately bi-sexual. Her fiance was whipped as could be and she was treating him like an ATM :rotfl: They were fun.
Omg i just realized i spelled your username incorrectly in my post. I'm dying. I'm so sorry bb. Fixing immediately!
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First of all, thanks a lot for the responses! Hearing the "other side of the coin" helps having a better perspective of things, so I appreciate your time.
I guess the main point I thought was off was this particular dancer just mentioning she was up for the threesome and making specific that money was not involved. However, it might just be because at some point she thought we could be cops. Again, we are not and we live in a small town where I don't think these sort of operations are regular, but it would make sense for her to say it if she really considered that option at some point.
To be honest, my wife can be very chatty and expressive with new people. E.g.: she does get social accounts or numbers when she enjoys chatting with some other girl at bars, she has made friends with waitresses and invited some home, etc. What I gathered from our conversation is that she is basically treating the dancers as any other women she meets. What I get from here is that even if dancers are indeed just regular people technically doing customer service related work, the nature of the job itself requires faking things in a way that stimulates the customer fantasies. While I'm familiar with that from the female dancer & male customer point of view, things are so different when my wife enters the game.
In the past, the only "unique" experience I remember was just this dancer asking her where she got her boobs done because they were amazing and assumed they were not natural because she is thin. When I got a dance with her, she asked me for the surgeon (we told her they were natural previously, but she didn't believe it) and when we left, she asked her if she could touch them, which my wife agreed to. Lately, I think she is becoming more interested in a girl-to-girl experience and she is projecting that even to strip clubs, but she is having the wrong mindset in this situation because this is not a regular place for socializing but rather for fantasizing and just enjoying your time. In general, I just don't want to do things as a couple that makes us hated lol, especially when are already going be disliked more than liked just for going as a couple.
With that said, I know she texted at least one dancer once in the past and they got a children play date! They did not stay in touch for long though, but this is the sort of thing that just defies whatever I think I know about how things are in this. I will consider that as an extraordinary case and not the norm though.
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That's the spirit. You're already doing better than many of the folks coming in here with a "does she really love me" story.
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For the record, I had some positive experiences with couples in the club. The key for me was to find women who have a bi side that they’ve never really explored and then just make the experience all about them. So they are exploring a fantasy and don’t feel like they have to be alpha with you to prove something to their husband. It doesn’t hurt that I could charge double in the champagne room for a couple!
But yeah the bad behavior scenarios that charlie and Selina described are more the norm than the exception and that’s why a lot of strippers are wary of couples.
Sorry about the meme but it’s been saved in my phone for years and you gotta admit it’s on point!
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lurkingtitties
Fucking Hilarious!^
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lurkingtitties
For the record, I had some positive experiences with couples in the club. The key for me was to find women who have a bi side that theyÂ’ve never really explored and then just make the experience all about them. So they are exploring a fantasy and donÂ’t feel like they have to be alpha with you to prove something to their husband. It doesnÂ’t hurt that I could charge double in the champagne room for a couple!
But yeah the bad behavior scenarios that charlie and Selina described are more the norm than the exception and thatÂ’s why a lot of strippers are wary of couples.
Sorry about the meme but itÂ’s been saved in my phone for years and you gotta admit itÂ’s on point!
All good! I also have memes saved in my phone, waiting for the right time to use them. I have to admit this was a good chance to use yours lol.
After reading all comments here and in other threads, I understand why couples are generally a pain and empathize with you for all the crap you need to deal with. At least, my wife does enjoy lap dances and doesn't talk shit about the dancers, so it seems whatever else we might not be doing right is fixable. One thing we do when getting dances is either we have them alone, or we get 2 dancers when possible (one for each, rotating after first or second song) if we enter vip together. She doesn't even look at me during the dance but I do occasionally look at her (cause I think it's hot seeing her enjoying herself during the dance), but we have never sexually touched each other for example, I have read it's not uncommon, looking at other threads and cringe just thinking about how uncomfortable that must be for the dancers. Like... Shit, do they tip very well when they do that at least?
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Danni, it seems like you really get it! Well done, for real. It's nice to have a blue who actually takes the advice, integrates it, self-reflects, etc. And i would say that if you and your wife are interested in a threesome, dancer or not, have a discussion about that beforehand, in the cold light of day. If she's spontaneous in the way that she only likes the idea after a few drinks, then it's possible she'd have major regrets afterwards, if it actually happened. It's best to discuss that sort of thing sober. And if you ever do have a dancer who is interested (hey, it's not likely, but it's possible), then it could be useful to discuss that specific theoretical possibility with your wife beforehand as well - again, not in the moment, and not after a few drinks. As i mentioned before, it ever really happened, it could hurt your relationship and ruin a club that you enjoy. Some things are way better in fantasy. And tipsy threesomes with a couple who has never experimented before can go very, very wrong once reality hits afterwards.
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charlie61
Danni, it seems like you really get it! Well done, for real. It's nice to have a blue who actually takes the advice, integrates it, self-reflects, etc. And i would say that if you and your wife are interested in a threesome, dancer or not, have a discussion about that beforehand, in the cold light of day. If she's spontaneous in the way that she only likes the idea after a few drinks, then it's possible she'd have major regrets afterwards, if it actually happened. It's best to discuss that sort of thing sober. And if you ever do have a dancer who is interested (hey, it's not likely, but it's possible), then it could be useful to discuss that specific theoretical possibility with your wife beforehand as well - again, not in the moment, and not after a few drinks. As i mentioned before, it ever really happened, it could hurt your relationship and ruin a club that you enjoy. Some things are way better in fantasy. And tipsy threesomes with a couple who has never experimented before can go very, very wrong once reality hits afterwards.
That is in fact solid advice. Thank you.
While we have already had a first talk regarding this, we haven't really talked about expectations in that scenario yet, I don't want either of us to be left out in the act or afterwards if we go on with this for example.
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you are a very lucky man brother... I hope one day I will be in your place XD