Establishing boundaries with a client
I have some issues with a client and its getting to be a bit much. He pays me well but he only sees me about twice a year and its usually for a few days. In between visits he sends me
gifts but wants to text everyday and and access to me. I feel like its bit of my own fault because i allowed this behavior, so how do I assert some boundaries after its been going on for a year or so now? Any advice is appreciated...
Re: Establishing boundaries with a client
He pays you only twice a year or he pays you regardless? I would tell
Him that if he wants 24/7 access to you (within reason) he has to pay a weekly
Or monthly fee.
Re: Establishing boundaries with a client
Charge more for those texts. He'll fuck off or pay up. Your time between meets is important too and not free gifts or not. It's not cash. Tell him you'd love to chat more but his texts are taking you away from other clients but if he'd like to pay for a text package you can pencil him in.
Re: Establishing boundaries with a client
Thanks for your responses! He pays me 2/3 times a year. For example he seems me for 2-3 days twice a year and pays a flat fee.But in between he sends me gifts that probably equal to 100 a month or something. So what would you charge for texting per week or month?
Re: Establishing boundaries with a client
So you’re giving him the GFE without the SD payment. Oh no, that doesn’t work for me. At the very least, your rent payment he should cover if he wants digital access to you at all times. And then tell him your “quiet hours”.
Re: Establishing boundaries with a client
Omg, I hated needy ones like that. You have to reinforce that time is money with that type. That type has tendency to believe that you have something more than a financial relationship with them. They actually think that they are your boyfriend, lover, and/or friend and that they are entitled to freebies from you. That's the most draining type of client. You will eventually grow tired of wasting your time and energy on him unless you set firm boundaries and he follows your boundaries. I will say that in my experience, that type will likely revert back to expecting free time, causing you to cut him off. Good luck!
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The power of silence works the best with these kinda guys. I got sick of one guy I'd always see taking advantage of my time and flat out cut him off. I only stayed over time because I was enjoying myself and once I was over it he decided to throw a hissy fit he didn't get extra time. Shocking to me like he felt as if he deserved extra time for free. I set an alarm for him now and blocked his number. He can only contact me through the website. I'm kinda really turned off by him now and only see him if I'm having a slow night.