Re: What are reasons to not date a customer even if he’s cute and you like him?
Yes this is one of most bizarre things. 95% of the time they ask you to quit it isn't because they are replacing that lost income either ! It's just " oh, I want to be the only one to see you naked " and then giving NO further thought to have a big income loss will fuck up your life or at least slow your roll.
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WendiStarr
Seriously, dating a customer typically doesn't work out. Aside from no longer being able to make money from him, while he thought it was cool at the beginning to date a dancer, he has a high chance of getting jealous and demanding that you quit dancing. He could become super jealous and controlling. If dancing is how you pay your bills and rent, it's better to just keep customers as customers, imo.
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I get it, even though it is hypocritical and illogical. When you first start seeing someone casually, it isn't a big deal if they're a sex worker, motorcycle rider, anything risky, whatever. When you fall in love with someone and your heart is with them whenever they're doing what they're doing, that's when it hurts. Even if that's exactly how they were when you met them.
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It's never been a healthy relationship and the guy ALWAYS had issues to the point it's pure business now. One who I liked drove this 90k car near the beach turned out to be into heroin plus other substances because his father locked him in the closet as a punishment and other abuse. I get we all have issues but that was too much for me having his assistant restock and organize his drug stock is not what I'd like in a man.
Another was a cheater and found out he was seeing other sex workers behind my back which is a no for me. Or the married one behind my back. Could you imagine if I stumbled into his angry wife on a date and I have no clue he wasn't single? Gave me the "leaving her" BS story. That man wasn't gonna move an inch after a few weeks and he'd prolly cheat on me if he actually left. I walked.
I'd rather find someone who is normal/wholesome to balance out the difference and someone who is appreciative/kind/doesn't need to go a strip club or see sex workers.
Plus you just lost your customer at the same time. One girl I met had a great relationship with a former customer, one married a dj, etc. This was just my experience. Works for some not for others.
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^^yes I’ve seen a few dancers marry DJs or bouncers!
Re: What are reasons to not date a customer even if he’s cute and you like him?
I've been remarkably lucky in that all of my boyfriends have been supportive of sex work. None of them have ever tried to make me quit. My current boyfriend has given me the OPTION to "sit on my ass and look hot". But he'd never try to issue a mandate.
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I agree with some other poster on here saying that a man who doesnt respect women in adult entertainment generally doesn't actually respect women period and fakes his respect. I would also add that they are hypocrites and POS. Any guy that acts respectful in normal settings then turns into a POS in the club is showing his true self.
I think that dating customers is usually a bad idea, but I don't like some of these judgmental posts. Like I think it is more situational. Sure if some girl regularly hooks up with customers that is terrible imo. Or some new stripper fucks a customer 1 or 2 weeks in is just beyond terrible. Let's be real here a lot of people irl date coworkers at regular jobs. Sure it is usually a bad idea but it happens often. It's like people at w2 jobs saying dating coworkers is horrible yet I think a supermajority of the population has done it at least once from what I have seen w/ people I know.
I just think it is stupid when I see some of these girls who are obviously looking for a relationship or a fucktoy in the club. But if a girl hits it off with one customer shit why not. I just think whether you meet your guy from shared hobbies, online, club, whatever just be careful. I feel as strippers when our relationship with someone goes sour we got more to lose and more bs to deal with than civilian girlfriends. I think stripping really helps the smart girls hone their intuition though.
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Better find out if he's single. That's my best piece of advice.
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In my opinion, most customers want to date a stripper for the bragging rights; see her outside the club, take her home, hang-n-bang. That's what men want. To live the dream.
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305gurl
In my opinion, most customers want to date a stripper for the bragging rights; see her outside the club, take her home, hang-n-bang. That's what men want. To live the dream.
I agree that there are so many guys for whom this is true. Probably similar to how lots of rockstars and celebrities feel. People want to sleep with them for the novelty factor, and potentially stick around to try to take advantage of their finances, but very few people have pure intentions.
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In my last two relationships I'm the one who did the pursuing.
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I dated a customer for 8 years. Nearly married him but am so glad I didn't.
Met my current bf at the club. He's not a customer...he worked security but we're both done working there.
A lot of these guys are married and won't tell you. Don't date them if they spend a lot BC once you date them, there goes your money, unless you specifically tell them yes you will date them but you still expect x amount every week.
A lot of them are predators. Or commitment phobes. Just use your discernment.
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My ex of 5 years was a regular at my old club, he would hit up all different clubs around LA w his friends, they usually would just throw stage money & party even while we were together which I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Everyone thought I was such a “cool girlfriend” for it, but he ended up being pretty abusive, cheated on me a few times w strippers — I forgave him — we finally split when he cheated/left me for another girl who, surprise surprise, after their 2 years together he is now dating another dancer — same story, trying to take her out of the club and making all kinds of extravagant promises like he did w me but only at the cost of giving up your entire life. I had to quit dancing & put off all my own goals for years to help him stay afloat, I don’t regret it but he still holds it over my head like I owe him for taking me out of the club, but I feel like had I not met him I would’ve eventually found my way anyway. I’m just now getting my legs back. The types of guys who frequent clubs even if at the outset seem totally put together tend to have a lot of issues beneath the surface that you turn a blind eye to because they’re spending money & it makes them look competent.
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Just don't date serious during your dancing stint(s).
No co-habitating, no entering a long-term relationship, no searching for a potential partner until retiring for good or soon to be.
Quality men do not want to know your stripper background and doesn't need to know while lesser men be thrilled to know of you being a dancer and will take advantage of your financial means(dumb friends of mine always with lousy boyfriends).