I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/rebrand
3 years ago I was on the verge of starvation bc of an abusive relationship. I wanted to be a camgirl but I didn't even have money for a Lovense or sexy lingerie, so I turned into Femdom that was easier since I could do humiliation or sissy training with my -few- sexy dresses without needing a lot of props.
I worked very hard and managed to build a mid-tier fanbase. The problem is that I feel that I am burning out and the lie has bled in all aspects of my daily life.
In reality I am a very boring woman, you could say old school even. I see sex as something I want to do with a man after we are mutually attracted and share interests and preferably start as friend (no offense to anyone who disagrees, you do you).
I am getting sick and tired of the "would you date a sissy" questions or "would you want a live in slave" (HELL NO) questions and having to lie and fake and pretend I am into them.
Is "gender equality" a thing in relationship? That's what I am into. Neither sub nor domme.
Long story short, I changed my name to one of my clip selling sites and started selling more normal content and 2 of my subs immediately found out and started talking about it on a live stream and asking me why I did it.
I don't want to tell them I was a fake out of poverty, but I don't want to continue living a lie either? How to get out of this hot mess in a peaceful (ok most peaceful) way possible?
Please help!
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
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Originally Posted by
Ourokronos
3 years ago I was on the verge of starvation bc of an abusive relationship. I wanted to be a camgirl but I didn't even have money for a Lovense or sexy lingerie, so I turned into Femdom that was easier since I could do humiliation or sissy training with my -few- sexy dresses without needing a lot of props.
I worked very hard and managed to build a mid-tier fanbase. The problem is that I feel that I am burning out and the lie has bled in all aspects of my daily life.
In reality I am a very boring woman, you could say old school even. I see sex as something I want to do with a man after we are mutually attracted and share interests and preferably start as friend (no offense to anyone who disagrees, you do you).
I am getting sick and tired of the "would you date a sissy" questions or "would you want a live in slave" (HELL NO) questions and having to lie and fake and pretend I am into them.
Is "gender equality" a thing in relationship? That's what I am into. Neither sub nor domme.
Long story short, I changed my name to one of my clip selling sites and started selling more normal content and 2 of my subs immediately found out and started talking about it on a live stream and asking me why I did it.
I don't want to tell them I was a fake out of poverty, but I don't want to continue living a lie either? How to get out of this hot mess in a peaceful (ok most peaceful) way possible?
Please help!
Well these customers were subs right? Treat them like one when they try that bullshit. Tell them not to bother you and to pay you for trying to top you from the bottom. Block them if your site allows.
You can and only have to do what you are comfortable with. Plenty of models have transitioned into another role throughout their career.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
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Originally Posted by
Ourokronos
3 years ago I was on the verge of starvation bc of an abusive relationship. I wanted to be a camgirl but I didn't even have money for a Lovense or sexy lingerie, so I turned into Femdom that was easier since I could do humiliation or sissy training with my -few- sexy dresses without needing a lot of props.
I worked very hard and managed to build a mid-tier fanbase. The problem is that I feel that I am burning out and the lie has bled in all aspects of my daily life.
In reality I am a very boring woman, you could say old school even. I see sex as something I want to do with a man after we are mutually attracted and share interests and preferably start as friend (no offense to anyone who disagrees, you do you).
I am getting sick and tired of the "would you date a sissy" questions or "would you want a live in slave" (HELL NO) questions and having to lie and fake and pretend I am into them.
Is "gender equality" a thing in relationship? That's what I am into. Neither sub nor domme.
Long story short, I changed my name to one of my clip selling sites and started selling more normal content and 2 of my subs immediately found out and started talking about it on a live stream and asking me why I did it.
I don't want to tell them I was a fake out of poverty, but I don't want to continue living a lie either? How to get out of this hot mess in a peaceful (ok most peaceful) way possible?
Please help!
Think of yourself as being an actress, and you're entertaining people.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
You owe no one an explanation. Ignore or block the 2 subs if you find them to be bothersome. Women can rebrand themselves in the cam world at any time for any reason. You may lose some fans but you will gain more. Being a camgirl is similar to being an actress. Sometimes you play a role that you're not. When I first started camming I pretended to be a virginal college student. Once I got pregnant and cammed, I attracted all the pregnancy fetishists. Now I still get customers who remember me from when I was pregnant and get disappointed that I'm not pregnant anymore. I guess some guys think women are pregnant for 16 months straight or something. Don't worry about explaining to anyone about poverty and faking anything. I doubt the opinions of those 2 subs pay your bills and rent.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
I rebranded because I was sick of vanilla and prefer domme play. It's not that hard to rebrand. I still do some vanilla but mostly prefer domme.
No reason to stress, just do it and block the ones you don't want to play with.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
LOL, BLOCK. How is it their business that you changed YOUR business?
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
When the curtain comes down and the lights go out the actors wash off the greasepaint and go home.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
Easy: If you want to just leave, just don't log on, people do that all the time. If you want to rebrand, people do that all the time too, create a new account and log back on. Your fans will know just by your face (If they can even find you), but no-one else will know.
This is the Internet, you can always change your face.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
^^More awful advice from a guy who's never been in the business.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
It's these stupid Subs that have a problem. Dommes also live " normal " lives hahahah .
Wtf ?
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
Hey, she said she hates it, read the title!
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
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Raziel
Hey, she said she hates it, read the title!
Yeah, and?
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
It sounds like you let these guys guilt you when they saw a more vanilla side.
You could try to just switch back into Domme side . If they are pains ( too little $ for too much hassle ) just block them.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
Oh, good lord. I just can't win with this girl at all. Back to Ignore you go. You lasted a DAY!
Ourokronos, take my advice or don't. No-one's forcing you. You can do as YOU like. Admittedly, I don't know much about camming, but if you hate it just refuse to log on and get another job. You should never work a job you hate. That's SOUL crunching, makes you really depressed.
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
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Raziel
but if you hate it just refuse to log on and get another job..
Again, such great and practical advice. :sarcastic
Re: I faked being an online Domme bc I was broke and now I hate it. How do I exit/reb
Somewhere some lady is saying, "I want to get out of [stripping, escorting, webbing, etc.] and I want to become a femdom domme, but, I don't know where to start or how to build a clientele."
Can you take on an apprentice and have her take over your customers? You could even make some money at it by having her work for you or you can sell her your business. Just be sure that if you hire her, have her sign a noncompete and nonsolicitation agreement so that she cannot steal your customers. Sell her the clients instead.