First night, don't feel great about it.
Hi, I just had my first night yesterday! The club I was at was very nice, all the staff and other dancers were friendly and helpful. But my night still didn't go very well.
The club was pretty empty that day so there weren't a lot of people.
I talked to one older guy who was sweet but I didn't know how to make the conversation flirty or fun or anything. It was kind of like chatting with an acquaintance. He agreed to a dance but only because it was my first. Honestly the fact he was so nice and sympathetic to me kind of made it worse?
In my area all the clubs have a lot of contact. I was fine with the nudity but someone grabbing my boobs, made me feel kinda shit.
It got a bit better as the night went on. I got to do a table dance, no touching. But still one of the staff had to help me sell it because I just didn't know how to bring up dances and again I was still just so awkward.
Overall I don't think I'm very good at this, socially. And I'm not sure if the money is worth the touching. I'm going to one more shift in a few days but not sure if I should stay honestly. I've always been pretty bad with people. I read so many tips on here I thought I could just fake it but it's so hard. Even just thinking about my next shift is tiring. I wasn't expecting it to be 7 hours.
Re: First night, don't feel great about it.
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HannahNewbie
And I'm not sure if the money is worth the touching.
Breaking your own personal boundaries is never worth the money. The vast majority of strip club customers will expect to be able to touch you. If you are uncomfortable with physical contact, stripping is not the job for you.
Congrats on having the courage to get hired and work a shift. That's not easy! And I wish you luck in whatever path you decide to take.
Re: First night, don't feel great about it.
If touch is standard in your city and you are upset by it don’t do this job.
Or try a non-touch / light touch city.
Re: First night, don't feel great about it.
I intensely disliked boob touching and would find ways around it. (Positioning, and telling them I only allow it in VIP)
But for a newbie it’s better to be at a club that doesn’t allow so much touching-it can take a while to get that assertive.
Honestly though it sounds like stripping might not be right for you, and that’s okay.
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Originally Posted by
HannahNewbie
Hi, I just had my first night yesterday! The club I was at was very nice, all the staff and other dancers were friendly and helpful. But my night still didn't go very well.
The club was pretty empty that day so there weren't a lot of people.
I talked to one older guy who was sweet but I didn't know how to make the conversation flirty or fun or anything. It was kind of like chatting with an acquaintance. He agreed to a dance but only because it was my first. Honestly the fact he was so nice and sympathetic to me kind of made it worse?
In my area all the clubs have a lot of contact. I was fine with the nudity but someone grabbing my boobs, made me feel kinda shit.
It got a bit better as the night went on. I got to do a table dance, no touching. But still one of the staff had to help me sell it because I just didn't know how to bring up dances and again I was still just so awkward.
Overall I don't think I'm very good at this, socially. And I'm not sure if the money is worth the touching. I'm going to one more shift in a few days but not sure if I should stay honestly. I've always been pretty bad with people. I read so many tips on here I thought I could just fake it but it's so hard. Even just thinking about my next shift is tiring. I wasn't expecting it to be 7 hours.
I've never worked in a club where intimate touching was allowed - i honestly don't think i could do it (just personally couldn't handle it - zero judgment of those who are fine with it). The most touching a club I've worked in has allowed was leg / back, like if i were sitting on his lap, he could rest his hands on my legs, etc.
Like you, the first club i worked in (a dive) had 6-8 hours shifts, which is LONG... like, crazy long for this kind of work.
As for the conversational and social skills, those come with time. I had none when i started, and that was reflected in my earnings. Looks alone won't suffice. Now i could make a rock talk.
I'd look for a better club, honestly, even if it involves a little bit of a commute. Are there any other options nearby? Or is high contact the norm where you are?