Semi-Voyeur Stripper Etiquette
Before covid I would occasionally (but rarely) visit strip clubs in search of something very specific. My erotic template is around the joy of watching or being with women who are pleasing each other women. While there have been a few times where I sought to find strippers who were genuinely bisexual or lesbian that I'd seek to hook up with others for dances, etc -- it always felt a bit contrived, which is understandable given the circumstances.
Ultimately I found a solution to something a bit more authentic (somewhat) was to visit a club on a weekend night and wait for the possibility of female customers who would come in and get a dance or two from strippers within view (often they were in a group with other females are along with their boyfriend/husband). Now that said, I didn't want to just "get a free show" as it were, so I would:
(1) Offer to tip one of the many dancers that would approach me as I sat waiting to feel free and take a break and sit with me if they wished. I'd explain my motivation and that while I wouldn't be buying a dance from them, I'd be happy to pay them to chat with me and buy them a drink. Generally, I'd pay around $10 per 15 minutes + the cost of the drink, which seemed fine for everyone. This way I wouldn't waste any time of the other dancers to approach as it would appear I was taken, and for some who joined me it made for a nice kickback moment.
(2) If I did get to watch what I was looking for with regard to a dancer making out with a female customer, I'd approach that dancer when she was next available and tip her $75-100 with my thanks.
Now where I'm at there may be some clubs opening back up again soon and I was planning to up my tips by at least 50% given the economic difficulty everyone's feeling. But I did want to get a gauge on whether this level of tipping seemed appropriate and fair.
Thanks in advance for your input, ladies! :)
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You could have more consistent success if you pay the dancer in advance and tell her the money is for her to go dance on a female customer while you watch.
$100 is fair for her to go do a couple dances with you watching-she's entertaining two people at once so she deserves to get paid double. $10 for 15 minutes of convo seems wicked cheap to me personally.
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^appreciate you answering the OP's question! He seems genuine and reasonable- i was afraid he might just get snarky responses.
OP, where are you located, approximately? And do you frequent a dive or high-end club, or mid-level? More info would be helpful for context when talking about the money side of your question.
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Thanks for the tips, lurkingtitties
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lurkingtitties
You could have more consistent success if you pay the dancer in advance and tell her the money is for her to go dance on a female customer while you watch.
This actually came up a couple times in a place I had revisited. A previously tipped stripper had recognized me and offered that solution up, but I'll concede it felt a little less organic the handful of times she tried it. I think I'd still want to lean more toward watching the customer who is initiating the experience for herself in the first place. It does mean waiting more waiting patiently, but I think it's worth it and it doesn't rush anything.
Also – and I hate to say this, but I think it's worth mentioning – I feel like some female customers might be uncomfortable with a narrative of some guy buying dances for women in the place (particularly if he has specific ones he's prefer over others). With her being the one to initiate *and* fully aware if she's doing so in view of the main room, it feels a bit more respectful of her consent.
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lurkingtitties
$100 is fair for her to go do a couple dances with you watching-she's entertaining two people at once so she deserves to get paid double. $10 for 15 minutes of convo seems wicked cheap to me personally.
True. Though it's usually offering up the drink that hits me hardest in the wallet. Maybe I should offer to pay more for the minutes but not offer to cover the drink while she waits...?
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SapphicBlue
Also – and I hate to say this, but I think it's worth mentioning – I feel like some female customers might be uncomfortable with a narrative of some guy buying dances for women in the place (particularly if he has specific ones he's prefer over others). With her being the one to initiate *and* fully aware if she's doing so in view of the main room, it feels a bit more respectful of her consent.
Actually I think some female customers might be uncomfortable with the idea that a random ass customer is getting off on watching them enjoy themselves/specifically there to seek out that fetish. Paying for it in advance makes it more consensual IMO.
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charlie61
^appreciate you answering the OP's question! He seems genuine and reasonable- i was afraid he might just get snarky responses.
OP, where are you located, approximately? And do you frequent a dive or high-end club, or mid-level? More info would be helpful for context when talking about the money side of your question.
Hi Charlie61 – ironically, I just submitted a picture to your amazing sexy pictures thread earlier.
Thanks, I don't want to discuss where I'm located exactly because it's a bit too identifying if I put it out there (small town). But I can say I'd be likely visiting strip clubs around the LA area when covid calms down. There are some private clubs (illegal) ones nearby that are a bit more mid-tier, but I'll probably pass on those for now.
I'm considering something more online for my spending these days given we're in this pandemic, but I'll concede it's an uphill battle as what I'm looking for isn't much of what I find. But that's a bit of a larger topic.
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lurkingtitties
Actually I think some female customers might be uncomfortable with the idea that a random ass customer is getting off on watching them enjoy themselves/specifically there to seek out that fetish. Paying for it in advance makes it more consensual IMO.
Yes, I think your point is very well taken.
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lurkingtitties
Actually I think some female customers might be uncomfortable with the idea that a random ass customer is getting off on watching them enjoy themselves/specifically there to seek out that fetish. Paying for it in advance makes it more consensual IMO.
I've bought a few dances for girls, but in the club I generally go to, that's all in the back. They have rooms back there. They don't just do that in front of God and everybody. I think the Club has Cameras or something to prevent extras. So I didn't watch, wouldn't have wanted to anyway. Two Girls does nothing for me. Even in Porn. I always feel like a peeping tom.
Nothing against you SapphicBlue, if that's your thing then go to it. It's just not mine.