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How do I become successful enough to get invited to parties?
Why do I wanna shake my ass? For money? Sure, money is a good reason. But the main reason is so that I can have an exciting life. Get invited to stuff. Not to specifically to perform, I might just because I'm among friends if I'm good at it. Someone somewhere said that you should make friends with strippers because strippers know where the best parties are and have access to them. I wanna be that stripper. I wanna fill my Instagram with pictures that make people say "She and her social circle seem to be really living. I'd like to be her friend." And then I'd say something like "Come be friends with me and mine, let me introduce you to my social circle and the world we belong to."
Where do I start? What steps do I need to take? What is it in the game that gets you these things? Some dancers/cammers/etc. are partying with millionaires and looking at Las Vegas from the penthouse of the MGM Grand. I don't necessarily need to eat that well, I know that's very rare. But I'd like to get as deep into that as is reasonable. And I'm willing to branch out. I'll dance, I'll do OnlyFans, I'll do everything in the typical portfolio.
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You do realize that Instagram literally lets people curate what you see of their lives? A huge amount of it is completely fake or the circumstances surrounding it are omitted. These IG "models" who are posting lavish photos in exotic locations? They're being flown around by some millionaire who they are definitely sleeping with and probably having to indulge his extreme fetishes as well. Super dangerous way to accomplish looking 'cool'...
In my experience from years and years of dancing, the strippers all go to the normal ass nightclubs that Joe Schmo can also get into, and any parties are pretty much also with normal people. Maybe there's a few who can tell you what customer slings coke on the side but that's about it. If you're hot enough and go galivanting around the Vegas club scene in a tight mini dress, you'll probably get invited to plenty of parties ::)
I think I speak for most of the dancers here when I say, it's just a job, not a lifestyle. Money is not a good reason, it's almost the ONLY reason. Buy your own night in the MGM Grand penthouse.
I think you are asking for trouble of all forms with an attitude like this. This chasing of bullshit 'social clout' is just going to open you up to all kinds of unsavory people, being robbed, being raped, being kidnapped, having topless or naked photos/video of you on the internet that are not in your control to remove, alcoholism, drug addiction, etc etc etc.
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Re: How do I become successful enough to get invited to parties?
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Selina M
You do realize that Instagram literally lets people curate what you see of their lives? A huge amount of it is completely fake or the circumstances surrounding it are omitted. These IG "models" who are posting lavish photos in exotic locations? They're being flown around by some millionaire who they are definitely sleeping with and probably having to indulge his extreme fetishes as well. Super dangerous way to accomplish looking 'cool'...
In my experience from years and years of dancing, the strippers all go to the normal ass nightclubs that Joe Schmo can also get into, and any parties are pretty much also with normal people. Maybe there's a few who can tell you what customer slings coke on the side but that's about it. If you're hot enough and go galivanting around the Vegas club scene in a tight mini dress, you'll probably get invited to plenty of parties ::)
I think I speak for most of the dancers here when I say, it's just a job, not a lifestyle. Money is not a good reason, it's almost the ONLY reason. Buy your own night in the MGM Grand penthouse.
I think you are asking for trouble of all forms with an attitude like this. This chasing of bullshit 'social clout' is just going to open you up to all kinds of unsavory people, being robbed, being raped, being kidnapped, having topless or naked photos/video of you on the internet that are not in your control to remove, alcoholism, drug addiction, etc etc etc.
I see. So how can you get connected enough to know where the fun parties are? The ones people think dancers know how to get into?
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Not that hard to do if you are hot. Team up with another hot gal, go out to dinner at a nice place. My bestie & I used to get all dressed up, go out to dinner somewhere expensive. Rarely did we ever have to pay for our meal & men would buy us drinks, get invited to parties, clubs, limos and such. It is good to work as a team.
You do have to dress a bit sexy, classy and good jewelry helps.
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Sam38g
Not that hard to do if you are hot. Team up with another hot gal, go out to dinner at a nice place. My bestie & I used to get all dressed up, go out to dinner somewhere expensive. Rarely did we ever have to pay for our meal & men would buy us drinks, get invited to parties, clubs, limos and such. It is good to work as a team.
You do have to dress a bit sexy, classy and good jewelry helps.
The "fine dining" scene. That could be fun. But I'm looking more for like... okay, there's this girl, I won't say her name but she did a thing and she's kinda famous on the Internet for it. Yadda yadda yadda, now she's partying with Waka Flocka Flame.
I don't expect to get to party with Waka Flocka Flame. But I want to get in on that sort of thing. If I can't party with Flame, I'd like to party with, like, the "local celebrity" version of Flame.
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Then you need to go out & network. Go to the hottest clubs, the finest dining establishments. Dress upscale, be upscale. Good manners also helps.
But understand there are lots of predators & many of those celebrities are predators too. And since they have money & a team of people to protect them, if you get harmed.. there will be no justice for you. The police will not help you at all. Every drink or drug could be a trap, which is best to have a female buddy to do this all with you & watch each other's back.
Then there is social media & becoming a thirst trap. Simply follow every celebrity you can on there while posting hot but safe for work pics, GIFS & vids. They will pop into your DMs.
A lot depends upon how sexy, smart & ambition you have. It takes work, but totally doable.
All it took me was big tits, pretty face & a hair flip to get into any VIP room in a night club. My bestie & I when I lived in Vegas merely just walk through a casino & men would invite us to VIP rooms, ask to party with us & they pay for it all. Managers begging us not to leave because then the celebrities partying there would follow us anywhere.
It comes down to looks & attitude, then being in the right place at the right time.
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Sam38g
Then you need to go out & network. Go to the hottest clubs, the finest dining establishments. Dress upscale, be upscale. Good manners also helps.
But understand there are lots of predators & many of those celebrities are predators too. And since they have money & a team of people to protect them, if you get harmed.. there will be no justice for you. The police will not help you at all. Every drink or drug could be a trap, which is best to have a female buddy to do this all with you & watch each other's back.
Then there is social media & becoming a thirst trap. Simply follow every celebrity you can on there while posting hot but safe for work pics, GIFS & vids. They will pop into your DMs.
A lot depends upon how sexy, smart & ambition you have. It takes work, but totally doable.
All it took me was big tits, pretty face & a hair flip to get into any VIP room in a night club. My bestie & I when I lived in Vegas merely just walk through a casino & men would invite us to VIP rooms, ask to party with us & they pay for it all. Managers begging us not to leave because then the celebrities partying there would follow us anywhere.
It comes down to looks & attitude, then being in the right place at the right time.
So it's the right connections. And those connections are found at the "good clubs." Those connections are the high rollers.
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This and the other thread scream troll to me.
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You've been given some great advice in this thread, and I understand the desire to party and have a more exciting life. But, you really need to differentiate between stripping as a job (which is all it should ever be, you don't want a "stripper" lifestyle) and partying for fun. Like Selena said, you can't simultaneously work and party without asking for all types of trouble.
The customers are NOT your friends and they don't have your best intentions at heart. You are an object to them.
If you want to have a good time partying with rich men, Vegas is an easy place to do it. Like Sam said, look hot and it's easy to do. Play the penny slots at the casino, walk around the hotels, grab a drink, go for dinner. I stayed at Aria and I couldn't walk from dinner at one of the hotel's restaurants back to my room without several different men stopping me and asking if I wanted to party with them/if they could get my number/buy me a drink, so on and so forth.
Here in Miami, if you go to upscale clubs and restaurants, you will see celebrities all the time and they're easy to talk to if you're pretty.
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Yes, Miami & Vegas it is super easy. Hell, I've had celebrities hit on me at stop lights & went to have a drink with them. Hung out for a bit, but not into fuckin celebs.
Posting pics on twitter or instagram has celebs trying to hit me up in the dms. Although, never picked any of them up in a strip club.
Since it is so easy, either the OP lives in the middle of no where, is a troll or not that attractive. Then there is the type of female that is too desperate which runs off money & the type of men this person is seeking. You do have to play a little hard to get and make them chase you.
It was easy for me even before becoming a porn star.
If you don't have all eyes on you the minute you walk in the room of a club, casino or fine dining then might be time to rethink your look
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Leucippat
I see. So how can you get connected enough to know where the fun parties are? The ones people think dancers know how to get into?
:banghead:
I see I completely wasted my time typing that response.
Be insanely hot & go be visible where the rich guys hang out. That's literally it. Good luck sorting out the actual rich guys from the bullshitters though.
Do you not have friends or something? Why do you want so badly to look cool on Instagram and get invited to parties with complete strangers?
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Selina M
Why do you want so badly to look cool on Instagram and get invited to parties with complete strangers?
I wonder about this too. I suspect that OP is very young and probably hasn't done much partying. I don't know anyone past the age of 22 or so who would be impressed by seeing someone partying on Instagram. There's nothing cool about acting sloppy and getting a hangover.
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Sam38g
Yes, Miami & Vegas it is super easy. Hell, I've had celebrities hit on me at stop lights & went to have a drink with them. Hung out for a bit, but not into fuckin celebs.
Posting pics on twitter or instagram has celebs trying to hit me up in the dms. Although, never picked any of them up in a strip club.
Since it is so easy, either the OP lives in the middle of no where, is a troll or not that attractive. Then there is the type of female that is too desperate which runs off money & the type of men this person is seeking. You do have to play a little hard to get and make them chase you.
It was easy for me even before becoming a porn star.
If you don't have all eyes on you the minute you walk in the room of a club, casino or fine dining then might be time to rethink your look
I don't live in Vegas or Miami, maybe I do live in the middle of nowhere, so what places should I consider relocating to? Besides Vegas and Miami.
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Leucippat
I don't live in Vegas or Miami, maybe I do live in the middle of nowhere, so what places should I consider relocating to? Besides Vegas and Miami.
What state do you live in? Any major city. LA, NYC, Boston, Chicago, Houston, Dallas, etc. Google "richest cities in US" and start frequenting the closest one near you. Rich men and nightlife are everywhere. Wherever you live, there is bound to be at least one rich neighborhood. That's where you want to be.
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Small town gal here who once dreamed of a big city life & did it. Location can be everything. Life in big cities can be very expensive, so come prepared.
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Is this really that easy? If most girls could do this, wouldn't most women have pictures from cool parties on their Instagrams? Or rather, no one would? Because it's so easy and therefore not impressive? I can't speak for how pretty I am, but from what I can tell it's actually pretty impressive for rappers and stuff to invite you to things.
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Leucippat
Is this really that easy? If most girls could do this, wouldn't most women have pictures from cool parties on their Instagrams? Or rather, no one would? Because it's so easy and therefore not impressive? I can't speak for how pretty I am, but from what I can tell it's actually pretty impressive for rappers and stuff to invite you to things.
It’s not impressive. Literally everyone is echoing that it isn’t that hard if you have the right look. Do some thirst traps but it is pretty meaningless in the grand scope. Sounds like you need to see that for yourself
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It is called living in the moment and now I am convinced you are a guy and a troll. I rather be having fun than taking pics of it. And recently a celebrity was sued for posting a pic at a party with others in it. It is the fans that are behind the legal action and not other celebs.
Half the stuff you are talking about with rappers is called MARKETING, they hire models to come in & make it all look way more fantastic than it really is.
If you really are hanging out, dating or fucking a real celebrity, pics & video of it isn't allowed. Then there is NDAs & stuff. You are coming off really like a guy and a troll at this point.
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Leucippat
Is this really that easy? If most girls could do this, wouldn't most women have pictures from cool parties on their Instagrams? Or rather, no one would? Because it's so easy and therefore not impressive? I can't speak for how pretty I am, but from what I can tell it's actually pretty impressive for rappers and stuff to invite you to things.
It really is that easy if you are super hot, with the right attitude and in the right location. You can be a drop dead gorgeous 10 but if you're in the boonies of Iowa, you'll probably never meet a celebrity let alone party with one. Like I said earlier, I live in Miami and meeting celebrities is common here, as they live and vacation here. Working in upscale strip clubs I've met my fair share of A-list rappers, athletes, personalities, actors, and the list goes on. I've partied at Lil Wayne's house a handful of times because I was acquainted with one his friends. I don't have any pictures on my Instagram from those nights. It wasn't a big deal to me and bragging about whose house I was at is distasteful.
There are basically three ways to get into the kind of circle you're trying to get in with: being extremely rich, extremely popular, or extremely hot.
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TRustFundKiller is right, except about the being from no where part. Mostly because I think she hasn't been there... :) I've been in the middle of Arkansas & still managed to convince a couple of guys to take me to another state to dance in their private plane. Although, my friend and I had to be topless for the flight. There are always people in any city of decent size with money & contacts with celebs. Once dated a guy with 5 Ferrari & was a song writer for major rock bands in Little Rock.
Some people just have no game. And even if you are in a small town in the middle of no where, rich guys & celebs will dm you on Twitter & Instagram.
She is right about discretion. People in those circles don't like when a gal is taking selfies with them & posting all over social media. Acting like a fan rather than a good person gets you uninvited very quickly.
If the owner of clubs & resteraunts aren't introducing themselves to you, getting into VIP room with a flip of your hair. Might not be hot enough or good enough game. When at concerts, if you are not picked out to meet the band behind the stage & go to the after parties, then might not be hot enough.
Honestly, if you can't pull them on social media... then either you are a troll/guy or not posting hot enough pics & vids. I have my DMs shut off, because been there, done that & too tired to listen to their bullshit. Then there is TMZ hunting down those who follow me on social media and try to make a thing about it. At 52, I prefer to live a quiet life also in Miami.
Sadly, to say to the OP, sounds like you got no game. Or at the very least if you are a female that you need to up your game.
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Leucippat
Is this really that easy? If most girls could do this, wouldn't most women have pictures from cool parties on their Instagrams? Or rather, no one would? Because it's so easy and therefore not impressive?
You're being intentionally obtuse now (or, like everyone is saying, trolling).
"Most" girls are not an 8/9/10 AND in the right places at the right times. If you are an 8+ AND live in a big city with areas rich/celebrity men like to hang out, THEN it is easy.
A lot of women literally do not care about partying or looking cool. I sound full of myself now, but I fall into that 8+ camp physically, and I actively avoid any sort of scene like where you need to be for these men to find you. Just not something I'm interested in. I suspect there's a lot of women that are the same.
IME strippers are the least likely to care about this stuff, or even whether some guy is famous. I've seen an entire team of NFL players be ignored by every one of us dancers because they weren't spending enough. Not one girl wanted a photo with them or to sit there drinking for free. Nobody wanted to go back to their hotel room. Etc. The players were legitimately complaining to management that "the girls don't want to party with us". So yeah.
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Selina M
You're being intentionally obtuse now (or, like everyone is saying, trolling).
"Most" girls are not an 8/9/10 AND in the right places at the right times. If you are an 8+ AND live in a big city with areas rich/celebrity men like to hang out, THEN it is easy.
A lot of women literally do not care about partying or looking cool. I sound full of myself now, but I fall into that 8+ camp physically, and I actively avoid any sort of scene like where you need to be for these men to find you. Just not something I'm interested in. I suspect there's a lot of women that are the same.
IME strippers are the least likely to care about this stuff, or even whether some guy is famous. I've seen an entire team of NFL players be ignored by every one of us dancers because they weren't spending enough. Not one girl wanted a photo with them or to sit there drinking for free. Nobody wanted to go back to their hotel room. Etc. The players were legitimately complaining to management that "the girls don't want to party with us". So yeah.
That's what I'm saying. This use of the word "easy" isn't accurate. You have to be exceptionally pretty, well above average.
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Leucippat
That's what I'm saying. This use of the word "easy" isn't accurate. You have to be exceptionally pretty, well above average.
Given how much time I've seen you spend on this site the last few days, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you're not a troll, but genuinely trying to learn and see if this path makes sense for you. Yes, if you are exceptionally pretty, it's easy. If you're not, then you need to work on your looks or you're unlikely to have success. Some people have more of an advantage in looks than other people. But, there are very few women who are truly unfortunate looking. I'm a big fan of the Helena Rubinstein quote, "there are no ugly women, only lazy ones"
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The weirdest part of this thread is that this type of thing is being posted in 2021 and stuff like this is considered “successful”
When I think of a lot of parties I think of the likes of Weinstein. Women would go and be glamorous sure, but also suck dick to get into Hollywood. And thanks to YouTube and TikTok you don’t need smug gross gatekeepers to be a part of content creation and get accolades. Just have to connect with your audience and not be too offensive and get shadow banned on social media. (Which btw if you’re an obvious sex worker there is a big risk of that happening)
Throw in the additional scandals of Epstein and a lot of the predators want to be more subtle now, and won’t throw the same ostentatious parties for that purpose anymore.
Thanks to economic inequality and increased tensions, a lot of the wealthy in the past few years would prefer to avoid both media attention and government sectors who may take away a bunch of their wealth. Yes there is Musk and Bezos and that other guy doing their dick measuring contest with rockets. And Bill Gates with his moral crusades. But they just simply get lots of attention and a lot of it is very negative. Others are no doubt taking notes and hiding under the radar. A lot of them already take pains to do things like have their homes not able to be google searched, for example. Many would not be interested showing off beautiful women too publicly, sure there is some but not to the same extent as years past.
Finally, who wants to be the a-hole throwing large parties when there is concerns of a delta variant? The celebrities who were partying during the pandemic got pretty shamed for it as it is. And if it wasn’t for that, it was for stuff like saying “we are all in this together” from their mega mansions.
https://www.insider.com/celebrity-in...andemic-2021-3
A thread like this would have been WAY less odd like 10 years ago. If you want to be that girl who gets attention (and from the sounds of it, you’re motivated by attention), then just get involved in something either political, especially “woke” OR something creative OR something others find helpful. Follow what is trending on those platforms, insert yourself in when something is emerging but not widespread just yet, and keep riding the wave up and upping your follower count. I can only keep it general because I am not a content creator nor trying to be. Just saying how the world works now.
Get success, then throw your own parties however you please.
The good news is that there is more paths that way. And in my opinion, it’s more fun. And it doesn’t matter as much whether old white men find you conventionally attractive to get there :) And you don’t have to be a personal assistant to Paris Hilton either (like Kim Kardashian was back in the day)
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Your words are inspirational, but I feel like there's a difference between certain people inviting me to the MGM Grand vs. me sitting alone in the MGM Grand telling myself "Welp, I made it." It's not the MGM Grand itself that I want. It's being the fun and connected girl. I guess time will tell if I've got the right stuff.