Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
99.99 of sex workers do not have time to do shady stuff like this.
Yes, use google voice if you want surety of not having a dancer easily be able to Google your number.
Then you have that surety.
We just reach people to tell them when we will be at the club.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
He'll be fine unless she could that .01 % crazy ( very unlikely ) .
If she reaches him , he can even ask to use an alternative way of contact or simply block her number if needed.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
I gotta say I've never heard of a guy giving a dancer a burner number.
But I have definitely known some girls who would not have been above blackmail. However, what can you do with a phone number? That doesn't give them your wife's number...
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
Explain to your friend that the dancers are for in club viewing only and not a dating pool
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
I would never do that, but people are crazy. Unless you screw her over, I wouldn’t worry too much. Just be careful of what you disclose, and don’t do anything that would give you bad karma.
I use google voice. it’s okay to not tell her personal information. We don’t really care too much if your lying to us as long as we are getting paid.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
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Selina M
I gotta say I've never heard of a guy giving a dancer a burner number.
But I have definitely known some girls who would not have been above blackmail. However, what can you do with a phone number? That doesn't give them your wife's number...
The whole burner phone thing is big on one of the escort-oriented customer sites that I check in on from time to time (it also has club intel). Apparently Google Voice doesn't work for their purposes since Google cooperates with LE requests by providing IP details. But I agree 100% that I don't see most ordinary club hounds tracking two phones just to have a separate line for dancers - I certainly don't.
There is no consolidated directory for cell phone customers, so finding a person's full name using only that number is hit or miss. There are services out that that purport to do this, but they are only successful when that person's cell phone is used somewhere online or in public records. I've run mine several times against search databases over the years (which I use for other purposes) and they never got it right.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
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Joe_Shmoe
The way he told it to me, my friend is worried because he asked hypothetically about a bachelor party with a thousand dollar budget outside the club, to see if she seemed open to something outside of the club, and also implied that maybe it wouldn't be a bachelor party but just him...
Because he said that, and because we have known this dancer to be extremely demanding in wanting us to buy additional VIP dances right after the one just ended, etc, directly giving unsolicited financing suggestions on how to pay for it, etc, he is worried that she's going to feel like he IS screwing her over by not following through with the outside the club thing they were vaguely talking about. Because he pretty strongly implied he's got a thousand bucks he could spend.
The reason he's not going to follow through is because when she asked for his number after this conversation, he rather absentmindedly gave her his actual number, and he doesn't want anyone to know his actual name blah blah blah.
So I guess the definition of screwing somebody over is kind of subjective... Does a dancer feel screwed over if a customer implies he has some money he wants to spend on her, but then ghosts her if she reaches out via text or whatever?
So it's your belief that she's going to start all of this nonsense simply because he had a conversation with her about possible outside activities and because she's been hustling to sell dances? Do you know how many OTC events she's likely been solicited for just in her past several shifts? Do you know how many numbers she has likely received over the course of any week or month?
You're being way too paranoid. The reality is that most girls don't want extra drama any more than most club customers because the club is where they make their bill $$$ and most of them have SOs themselves. Believe me when I say that she likely stopped thinking about him the moment she walked away.
But even in the exceedingly rare chance that this girl doesn't care about any of that and fixates on one particular customer's hot air, what exactly does she have for evidence? He will of course deny it and so long as he isn't foolish enough to engage her by text then that is that.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
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Joe_Shmoe
The way he told it to me, my friend is worried because he asked hypothetically about a bachelor party with a thousand dollar budget outside the club, to see if she seemed open to something outside of the club, and also implied that maybe it wouldn't be a bachelor party but just him...
Because he said that, and because we have known this dancer to be extremely demanding in wanting us to buy additional VIP dances right after the one just ended, etc, directly giving unsolicited financing suggestions on how to pay for it, etc, he is worried that she's going to feel like he IS screwing her over by not following through with the outside the club thing they were vaguely talking about. Because he pretty strongly implied he's got a thousand bucks he could spend.
The reason he's not going to follow through is because when she asked for his number after this conversation, he rather absentmindedly gave her his actual number, and he doesn't want anyone to know his actual name blah blah blah.
So I guess the definition of screwing somebody over is kind of subjective... Does a dancer feel screwed over if a customer implies he has some money he wants to spend on her, but then ghosts her if she reaches out via text or whatever?
Exactly it is subjective.
Unless you do something really bad I wouldn’t blackmail anyone unless i had to in order to protect myself or maybe if I guy didn’t something non consensual. I personally don’t even associate with toxic people-even customers. They’re not worth what they cost me. I have pretty firm boundary of in the club only. My phone number is google and it’s only for small talk and to let customers know when I’m working. I’m also an older dancer, so I handle my business like a business. I don’t constantly text my customers as I find that annoying. I might say I miss see you at club. Come see me tonight.
I would say it’s less about do sex workers blackmailing people so much as setting boundaries with people in general and appropriately disclosing personal information. I don’t even tell strangers my name in real life. People are crazy and with google anything is possible.
I’ve never heard girls in the dressing room brag about making money by threatening to tell their wife or employer, or anything like that. We’re pretty discreet about our business. I guess there’s Stormy Daniels, but I’d say it’s the exception not the norm. We wouldn’t be in business long if we couldn’t be discreet.
Re: Is a dancer threatening to blackmail a customer an actual thing that happens?
the best is to avoid takin any risk, specially if you are in a relationship, and just like going to the clubs from time to time, avoid giving your number of having any exchange with a dancer (texting, social media,...)