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He doesn't "do" security for a private d
This guy propositioned me on Blackplanet saying he saw my page and he wanted me to dance for him privately. I told him I was 6 months pregnant and he said it was ok, that it might be something new. He was paying 150 for a 30 minute dance, 15 minute lad dance and 15 toy show. I said ok but I would, of course have to bring my security and there would be no sex of any kind. Then he said that he doesn't "do" security because he doesn't trust my security and he has never had a problem in three years blah blah blah. He said he was willing to deal with the 6 months prego thing but now I'm making demands and we should be trying to help each other out but he guesses that we can't make a deal so never mind. I explained to him that my security would be outside the room and that it was strictly for my protection, not to harass him but I don't think that it'll work out if I can't feel safe. Why was he so against my security? I don't trust a man who demands that you come alone to his house and dance naked. If he was really an upstanding guy, he would have tried to prove to me that there were no ulterior motives and allow me to have my security right? Am I over reacting or was I right to bow out of the invitation? He said there would be no sex so what's the problem? ??? ??? ???
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Of course you was right to 'bow out of the invitation' Once he said "no security" alarm bells should have started going off! also you met him on line so he could be anyone!
To be honest even if he had agreed I don't think it would've been a good idea to have your security outside the door anything could still happen....
Besides you have your un-born child's safety to think about not just your own.
Don't worry hun you was right to say no. Your life is worth more that $150!
~Seraya
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Im totally new to dancing but I would never ever ever go anywhere that I was not protected, YOu just never know. If he made it a point that he "doesn't do security" then theres probably a reason... like last time just when he was gonna rape his beatiful little private dancer that stupid security gaurd walked right in and interrupted his whole nite..anyways maybe not but theres a reason he doesnt want you to be protected plain and simple. Be careful and listen to your insticts! :-*
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Oh honey, he's a freak for sure! My god you're right to bow out of that situation! Especially if your security was outside the room in hearing mode only ( though I still wouldn't do that). Do not trust a guy like that. You would have been in danger for sure. Something's shady with that situation!
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Stay far far away from anybody who refuses to allow you to bring security. "I've never had a problem" my ass. $150 seems to be on the low side to me, particularly involving toys. Is that standard in your area? Do not feel bad at all. There was something weird about that guy...
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On another note, Miss L, what are you doing thinking of meeting up with a guy you just met on the net???? Security or not, that's absurd! Please be careful!
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well, I'm sure the internet can be a goldmine for attracting new clientel. But seems like it would be difficult to screen. obviously his refusal to allow security said a whole lot about him anyhow.
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Sure.. That's what websites are for- reaching out to new clientel. BUT, the most important thing is that you protect yourself- to hell with the dude. He could rape and kill a girl, and be on the next one before anyone even FOUND the first one. Trust me- I did parties for 3 years, the majority of clients were off the net, and I never had a problem, BECAUSE I scgreened, had a safety net (friends that knew precisely when and where I was) usually when the guy that was arranging the party would first contavt me, I would have them meet me in a publci place to discuss arrangements- usually my home club, since there was mannnny people around plus it worked for them, cause they could get a good visual of what I was about- and I could get a physical description of the dude, plus see how serious he was. It wasn't any of the guy's business if I had security, I would show up with it regardless. The large parties never cared, they just ignored him for the most part and had a good time, the one-on-ones probably didn't know, because I went to the door without and never mentioned him. All I cared about was being safe, you do the same, Little Mama!!
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I know you were looking forward to earning a bit of extra cash, and I'm sure you are feeling disappointed now; but basic instincts should be taken for what they are... basic. Don't try to over-analyze the instinct's that warn you of danger, just write this one off and move on.
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He said never mind! Ha. I wish you beat him to those words hun. No security...BS
Pamela :)
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you were right for wanting to take our own security ...seems this guy had somthing else up his sleeve ...else why would he be threatened by you having security
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I do private dances for customers I have known a long time. When it is someone I don't know as well I do bring a friend to wait for me. I think you were right to think something was "wrong". You are in a much more perilous situation especially being six months pregnant than any man could be. Why wasn't he interested in making you feel secure? :(
I think it is really good you are using your intuition and intelligence when regarding your safety.
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Miss_Luscious, I think all the girls have said it. No security, no dance. 'Tis true, remember that you have two people to protect.
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Please tell me you didnt do this? You herd the rest but no way to no security!
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Hmmmmm...that is strange...I've never heard of anyone turning down a private dance because of security. I am glad that you didn't go...and please promise us that you will NEVER do a private party without security!!!
Take care of yourself (and baby)!!!
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Yeah ladies, I think my insticts were right. I would never do a private dance w/o security, especially with another life inside of me, that's not smart at all. Of course since I'm not making stripping money right now, that xtra $150 a few days a week was very tempting but it's not worth my safety or the well being of my little one. My boyfriend (who is also my security) was appalled that the guy would even think I wasn't going to be protected. He was like, "Alright, we're going to get you a gun and you are not doing private dances anymore......so on and so on". It was kinda funny that he went all out like that but he worries about those weirdo's too. I'm sure that there is another man in this world that would love to have me shake my pregnant ass for him (besides my boyfriend ;)) and let me be safe too! I'm glad I trusted my insticts though, I don't want you all to here about be on the news or anything.......
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If he doesn't 'do' security, he wants something more than dancing!
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always, always listen to your inner voice. it is NEVER wrong. from the energy your message had, it was obvious to me that this situation made you uncomfortable. follow your instinct and you will be safe. drop that idea like a bad habit. next!
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As most everybody else here has said, if someone doesn't want you to bring a security person with you, then he has ulterior motives. The club I work for provides private dance services, and the girls are given the option to bring security along or not.
There have been a few customers who have stated up front with our booking agent that they will flatly refuse service if a dancer shows up with security. A few more turned dancers away when they realized the lady wasn't alone.
There have been a few instances where girls had problems with not bringing security along. One time, a girl got robbed. Another was pressured into doing things she didn't want to do. The most frequent problem girls with no security seem to have from customers around here is the no sex = no payment for services. One time, a couple of us had to go and "extract" a dancer from a bad situation after she managed to make a call to the club asking for help.
Bottom line - do NOT perform private dance services without some sort of security back-up.
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Good advice..Dave..I have gone throug similar problems..with guys not wanting my driver..with me..what the hell are these guys thinking..definately not with the head on their shoulders..ewww..mental picture..ahhhh
Holiday
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PLUS..with the 2 other outcall services here doing ...sex...the legit girls get all the freekin problems when they say NOOOO.
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This guy propositioned me on Blackplanet saying he saw my page and he wanted me to dance for him privately.
Hey Luscious, first off you should already know not to mess with any guys on BP! Over there past couple years there have been "modeling scouts" and "photographers" abdducting women that they meet online. Don't do it! It's so not worth it. I mean why else do you think he doesn't want security?? If he cannot accept your terms, then let him go off and pick up some other unsuspecting young girl.
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Usually the stuff I get on Blackplanet I just delete but it thought it was an interesting idea till he said no security. HE hasn't wrote back anymore so I guess that situation is over (thankfully!) and I hope he forgets my name too. The thoughts of what he may have wanted with me w/o security are quite disturbing.... :-/
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Yes love, I hope that is over with. Hopefully you can put that behind you and just keep it moving...I'm curious, what do you plan on naming the baby?
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Over there past couple years there have been "modeling scouts" and "photographers" abdducting women that they meet online. Don't do it! It's so not worth it. I mean why else do you think he doesn't want security?? .
Seriously ladies- somebody that refuses security probably has something more in mind than
FS or a BJ- scary shit :o