Guys that come into the clubs?
I'm just wondering how you all feel in general about the guys that come into the clubs. I am now getting divorced from a sex addict who would go to clubs and lie to me, look at porn constantly, etc. I don't have a problem with either one (although I wouldn't necessarily want my BF or husband frequenting clubs) but it was the sheer volume of how often he did it and how secretive he was with it all. I always thought the dancers were in there to hit on them (for real, not just fantasy), want to go home with them, etc. I now realize that was rather naive of me, but I had never been to a strip club before so I had no clue what it was like...
Since I am now a dancer myself, I have gotten the impression from the other girls in my club that they are pretty disgusted by most of the guys in there. They are NOT there to meet up with them outside of the club or get to know them etc, they are there to take their money. :) I'm sure there are exceptions, but from what I have observed, this seems to be the overall attitude...I'm just wondering how you all feel. Do you get horny dancing for a guy? How often do you give out your number or want to go home with one?
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I'm not disgusted by the guys that come into SC's, but I am there to make money. I do not give out my number or want to go home with them. I am engaged, but I don't think the situation would be any different if I was single. I keep it professional. I have made a few friends from customers, but not friendly enough to where I see them outside of the club. I try to keep my emotions outside of the club. Every once in awhile I find someone I connect with, not sexually. I have to know someone in a different sense than a professional relationship to connect with them like that. Does this make sense?
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Yep, that makes sense. I have to admit there are certain customers I AM disgusted by, not by the mere fact they are in the club, but because of other factors, if you get my drift. ;) Then there are those who I may feel some sort of chemistry with, but wouldn't necessarily want to create a relationship out of that environment, just because I'd be scared a guy I met there would turn out to have the same tendencies my ex does, esp. if he's a regular, so I keep it professional.
I guess it's more along the lines of, everyone I have seen so far is there to make money, and that's the extent of it. I love that aspect of it, it makes me feel powerful and respect the other dancers so much more than if they were just to hit on guys and go home with them.
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i'm just there to take your money the faster you give it the better for me...though some guys come there with the thought of buying love/friendship ::) ::) of course you gonna be my friend if you continue to tip me and give me what you came to give me sure ...we'll be friends
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I definitely wouldn't go so far as to say that guys who go to SC's disgust me. But alot of them act disgusting. >:(
Dealing with a weekend of dumbasses off a navy carrier this weekend almost made me snap. I can't even tell you how many guys I've slapped or rooted out in those few days!
Sometimes "not all men are disgusting" has to be your daily affirmation! HAHA! ;)
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Sometimes "not all men are disgusting" has to be your daily affirmation! HAHA! ;)
How true!!!
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And I feel the exact same way cash!! ;)
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I have to admit there are certain customers I AM disgusted by, not by the mere fact they are in the club, but because of other factors, if you get my drift. ;)
Oh yeah, I get your drift. I was actually going to say something to that effect, but forgot!
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As long as the guys who come in realize that this is a JOB and not a pick-up joint, I like them just fine. If it weren't for them, I would not be making $$$! So,I feel very appreciative of their patronage. However, when guys come in looking for a girlfriend, or ask me out to dinner, for my number, etc... I get VERY annoyed with them! I also keep it professional and no longer give my number out (i used to give it out so guys would know when I was working again, but they just got the wrong idea.) I have never wanted to go home with a guy I met at a club! That is just sleazy. :-X
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Well since I dance in NV and most guys that come in are from out of town & are expecting a lot more than what they get (being that brothels are 20 mins away and it IS Nevada) it is very annoying, but we get used to the guys being extra disgusting, disrespectful & horny, lol.
The only guys I keep in touch with are my true regulars who spend a lot of money on me & know it is my job. I have a seperate email address I use for business. I don't recall ever getting horny over a guy I danced for, but when I drink a lot at work, I do tend to get friendly, but not in a bad, slutty way. I have never gone home with a guy or wanted to either.
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I like some of my customers very much and others I only deal with because I have to. I have made friends with a few men who have been my customer for years.
Some guys make it fun and a pleasure to work and others seem to have a chip on their shoulder about women and come in to make my life hell. On a good day I have too many favorites to pick from to worry about the *ssholes.
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I will admit i let myself cross the line my first year dancing a couple times but that proved to be a disaster. So its all business for me now...what he pays for at the club is entertainment and fantisy and thats all.