is it cheating or not? what's your thought on it
If you have a boyfriend and you decide to go to another city to work and also decide to sleep with one of the customers, would that be considered cheating or not? you don't have a ring on your finger and you are not engaged or married to this guy. also if things aren't going well. bcuz i was thinking about it and i talked to a few other girls and they said that it would almost be like relationship i was having with the new guy. bcuz if you think about you're really not suppose to have premarital sex in the first place. so all i really want to know who's done it; what was the outcome and was it worth it and maybe some of your own personal opinions.
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can't say that i have done it but if you have a boyfriend and you go out and sleep with someone else i would think thats considered cheating unless you broke it off before you leave and you knew the relationship was over with
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First of all, the whole, "not SUPPOSED to have premarital sex in the first place" is a matter of religious beliefs, and should not even have a place in this topic if you're already a sexually active woman.
Secondly, if things aren't going well between the two of you, work it out or break it off. Why would you even be dating someone in the first place if you ponder the fact of sleeping around is cheating or not? It is cheating. You commit yourself to a relationship (married or not) to be with that one and only person. You're really not being fair to him. If you're out to just have random sex with whoever, then do not become involved with anyone, only to later question your behaviour.
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if you sleep with someone other than your s.o. then it's cheating....married or not....
what do you think you would do if you found out your man was sleeping around on you....would you be cool with it, or would you be hurt and leave?
then on the other hand....i've heard of some people having what is considered an 'open' relationship where each person can see other people....i wouldn't do it 'cause i think if someone wants to be out there like that....then why be attached to a bf/husband?
just my 2 c-notes [alien]
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Why are you sleeping with customers? Wouldn't that make you an escort/prostitute and not a dancer? Plus yes..if you have a boyfriend..its cheating..unless you plan to go home and tell him.."Hey baby..I had a customer and screwed him..it was great!" and he says "Wow..honey good for you!" "How much did you make?" ...I think a customer is a customer..once you give one the "goods" that's just one more guy who thinks he will get laid by the next dancer he sees and the next, and the next. I think you will be creating too much drama in your life if you do this.
Holiday
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If you have a boyfriend and you decide to go to another city to work and also decide to sleep with one of the customers, would that be considered cheating or not? you don't have a ring on your finger and you are not engaged or married to this guy. also if things aren't going well. bcuz i was thinking about it and i talked to a few other girls and they said that it would almost be like relationship i was having with the new guy. bcuz if you think about you're really not suppose to have premarital sex in the first place.
I sure hope you've convinced yourself, because it still smells like a bunch of BS to me. ::)
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Cheating for sure.
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If you have a boyfriend and you decide to go to another city to work and also decide to sleep with one of the customers, would that be considered cheating or not?
The "zip code" rule isn't really real, it's just a saying.
Did I just say "really real"? Does that make sense? I need rest.
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Unless you have an agreement to the contrary (like an open relationship you BOTH agree on) it's cheating. Period.
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Thank you for all of your input. But just make the air clear I never said I had done it, I wish commenting on it that i was thinking about it. THere are tons of options here and i thank you all. But if I really was to do all of this I would probably not have the boyfriend bcuz you could cause a mess. Please don't think bad of me for thinking such things :}
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I dont really see how you need an answer to this question. YES, OF COURSE having sex with someone other than the person you are in a relationship is cheating. If you didn't think this was the case, you woudlnt' question it at all! If you are not fully ready to committ to the person you are with, then sweety you dont need a boyfriend.
And anyway why are you trying to have sex with your customers? If you wanna go trick, then go do that. But dont' use the club as your "coverup" in getting more clients.
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Is it in a different zip code?
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But if I really was to do all of this I would probably not have the boyfriend bcuz you could cause a mess. Please don't think bad of me for thinking such things :}
I certainly don't think "bad" of you.
If you dump your boyfriend, it's not cheating.
If you have a boyfriend and have sex with someone else, it's cheating. By definition.
I looked at this thread because I thought it might have some insight on whether the lap dance experience is cheating. I'm conflicted on that one, myself. I didn't expect a question with such an obvious answer. But I still wouldn't think "bad" of you. :) (Nor should you be concerned whether I feel bad of you.)
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I guess some people don't really know if it is cheating or not if they feel like they are not in a real relationship. At least that is what her thread sounds like to me. Wow! I thought i heard it all, but guess not.
Yes hun it is cheating, and it hurts people. Break off with this guy friend or BF first. Then go and do whjat you want.
Play safe, try not to hurt others, and stick within club rules.
Pamela
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Is it a situation that you're faced with now, y'know, thinking about sleeping with a customer whilst still having a boyfriend?
Your question is shaped in a way which reflects that this is the case. In any case that this is true, please take the advice given before doing anything because it IS classified as cheating and noone wants to be a cheat, right??
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Heehee, KOBI.... really real! You're rediculous! Get some sleep!
As for the situation at hand. HELL YES it's cheating. AND it's prostitution and that's illegal in most places so be ready to be hit with a DOUBLE WHAMMY if you have to explain yourself to him.
Careful..... that's all I'm saying. :-/
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Lana, did you make any agreements as to each's sexual fidelity? You shouldn't assume there is if you haven't . Cheating means that you break some tenement that is established between the parties involved. If he says nothing about your sexual liberties then you haven't violated any contract. It's safest to inquire first before indulging. My partner engages in sex with other partners but I understand that it is part of her job to do so. She is not cheating on me. She also grants me the same liberties.
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I think that was a bit much from soybeangirl but I am more forgiving than the average jaded entertainer.
As for if it is cheating or not........absolutely unless you are getting paid up front and its by the hour!
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It depends also on the depth of the relationship. If you and your boyfriend live separately and only go out on dates....if that is the whole relationship-and monogamy issues haven't been discussed, I don't think of it aas cheating. As a single girl, you have a right to play the field.
If you have taken the relationship to another longterm level, like having "the Talk" or moving in together, it IS cheating.
Juliette de Sade
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