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Though I'd be one of those "older" girls you talked about, I"ve noticed the same thing. My advice is do just like you said, accept it. You can't change people, no matter how hard you try.
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Worked around my share, and said good-bye. They never seem to last. The biggest "complainers" around.
Gets old real quick. Guess i just had a low tolerance to someone being of legal age, and adult...and acting like a 6th grade kid. They alos seem to be the ones to NOT take the job serious. Like meeting customers outside work, amoung many other activities, and get us all feeling uneasy.
Pamela
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Lets just face it, this is a job where you can walk in and get hired no matter if you are as dumb as they come, these girls will always be there.
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Amaya, you almost made me snort my coke out of my nose, now cut that out! LOL
I know what you mean, a dumb girl can make the money but only the smart ones end up with something when it is all said and done. ;)
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Oh totally, I don't know how many stories I've heard from dumb girls that started with the phrase "I was sooooo fucked up on _____ last night ....(insert debaucherous, degrading story here) ...." Some people have no self respect, and those are the ones that give a bad name to all strippers.
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In the old days I drank, smoked the wacky weed and other stupid stuff just like anybody else. But you get a little older and start to realize how dumb that stuff is.
Now I will be sitting listening to someone telling me how loaded they got and I know I am supposed to he impressed and instead I am thinking how dumb it is. If they only knew. lol
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I feel sorry for the young ones. Even though I kinda wish I had started sooner since the money is s good (I started when I was 25), I am glad I didn't.
It made me appreciate the perks of the job now. While the hours are great, I am used to working 40+, so it's no sweat to do that now. My money doesn't burn a hole in my pocket. I had time to sow my wild oats. I've learned that being liked by the popular girls isn't that important.
Those few years of making just enough to get by, having to budget, and just general personal responsibility puts it in a different perspective. I think that's the difference between the immature and mature dancers....not age.
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Ah yes.
The fight-pickers, the underage drunkards, the druggies. Some never grow out of it, some wake up and snap out of it. The survivors often become great friends.
I don't deal with them. I just ignore them. Any more would be a waste of time. So I could really care less as long as they don't step my way.
Hehehe I sound like such a snob.
Juliette de Sade
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I've always said that you have to be either really smart or really dumb to get in this business.
The smart girls make their money, and leave the business with something to show for it.
The dumb ones are still trying to figure out what the hell I'm talking about.
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Great answer Naughty, Sometime someone makes a comment that just leaves very little left to say don't they? ;)
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At my work gurls dont even talk to each other, there is soo much jealosy that that aura makes me sick. ..its sad
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I'm reminded of Einstein's famous quote - "only two things are infinite - the universe and human stupidity - and I'm not actually sure about the former" !
The immaturity and stupidity of some dancers never ceases to amaze me. I'd thought I'd seen everything, from rampant drug use in the dressing room, to a freshly fired cokehead dancer coming in the back door of the dressing room with a sawed off shotgun, to an underage dancer/runaway giving BJ's for $2 tips (yes, this earned her the nickname two dollar Tabitha), when something comes along which renews my faith in the infinite immaturity and stupidity of young dancers.
One particular apparently upscale club is set up with an upstairs dressing room with no windows that would open and rather poor ventilation. While working there for a few days, I noticed this strange smell which seemed to be getting worse every day. Some other dancers (experienced ones BTW) also noticed the smell, sort of like a mouse had died inside the wall or something. When the smell got really objectionable, we started a search and destroy mission.
It turns out that the source of the smell was a dancer's G-string which had been thrown in a corner and covered with other stuff. When we had a good look at it, we could see the source of the odor - there were "rings" of discharge left in the crotch so that, like a tree stump, you could count the "rings" to see how many days this G-string had been worn without being washed.
Then one of the youngest, newest dancers came upstairs, and walked into the dressing room. She was actually a stunningly beautiful girl, maybe just 18 but I doubt it, and as dumb as a box of rocks. While we were holding up the rotting G-string, she said "hey, I've been looking for that!". We answered back "Damn, girl, you really don't have to f#@k every guy that buys a private dance from you, do you ?" and "Haven't you ever heard of Summer's Eve ?" I thought to myself what this girl really needs a mixture of Lysol and Raid instead of Summer's Eve !
This girl had all of the tools needed to make a killing in this business, but she was practically giving it away for free. I don't even want to think about the health repurcussions both to this young dancer and to 1/2 the club customers who found her so "popular". Needless to say, I hit the road immediately and never went back to that club !
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Oh My God Melonie! That is so disgusting and yet I admit I laughed.
You should do a cover of that old Johnny Cash song, "I Been Everywhere Man, I Been Everywhere!" ;) LOL
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I find that the young ones are the ones who thrive in drama. They think it is high school. Or for them, maybe it still is...
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It turns out that the source of the smell was a dancer's G-string which had been thrown in a corner and covered with other stuff.
... - there were "rings" of discharge left in the crotch so that, like a tree stump, you could count the "rings" to see how many days this G-string had been worn without being washed.
Then one of the youngest, newest dancers came upstairs, and walked into the dressing room.
... While we were holding up the rotting G-string, she said "hey, I've been looking for that!".
[eek]Melonie, I think that is the most disgusting thing I have ever read about SCs. Cookies were almost tossed.
Just curious, do any of you ever share these occurences with the customers while in the club, or is that considered a dancer faux pas? Being a customer, I would like to know if a dancer has certain attitudes about cleanliness, or is so disgustingly casual about hygiene. I don't care how physically attractive she is that is a black mark in my book. Isn't basic hygiene still taught in grade school?
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Just curious, do any of you ever share these occurences with the customers while in the club, or is that considered a dancer faux pas? Being a customer, I would like to know if a dancer has certain attitudes about cleanliness, or is so disgustingly casual about hygiene.
I wouldn't say anything. It looks bad on us to talk badly about another dancer....seems petty and catty and may turn a guy off on us. it's better to keep one's mouth shut in most cases. There are worse offenses than poor personal hygiene.
There is a heroin junkie in my club...track marks on her arms that she covers up with makeup. Guys hardly ever see them. There's another girl that will steal money from their pockets. I will say something to my regulars about these types, but never to a complete stranger.
I take care of myself, but even I have my bad moments. I'm currently treating a yeast infection ....bet my customers would be thrilled to know that...but still gotta work!
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Over here in Britiain the dancers, and of course the customers are allowed to drink. We usually see the newbies waste their money on booze all night before they get their heads straight about the job...sometimes it hits them that they cant do the job sober and they leave.