Re: HELP-major issue at work
Why is switching clubs not an option?
Anyway it sounds to me like you're not the one with power over her - but her crappy bf. If she's willing to take abuse from him and believe him over a friend she's been close with for 3 years, well there's not much you can do about it. I'd say she knows deep down she's screwed up and that's why she treats you so badly. I don't think it has anything to do with whether you did or didn't hit on the guy.
I really don't know how to handle something like this. Maybe just try cornering her and talking with her - like go to management and explain the deal to them, and ask to have a discussion with her and them together. They could serve as intermediaries and also keep a physical fight from breaking out, and if you go to them it shows you are trying to handle it in a responsible way. Of course whether or not that is really a good idea depends on the attitude management at your club. Are they open to solving problems or do they prefer that everybody just shut up, go to work and pay the tipouts?
I haven't had any problem even remotely close to this, so really can't offer much. Sorry you're having to deal with this!
Re: HELP-major issue at work
Your friend has serious problems. Counselor type problems. I don't see why you would even try to befriend her. Concentrate on the problem at hand. If management won't deal with it try to get or convince someone to get her to proffesional help.
Avoid her as much as possible and continue to fend off the bashings. Try to keep your head on straight at the same time.
Re: HELP-major issue at work
wow im going through something similar however not on that bad of a scale. i was close to someone at work, very close. she accused me of whispering to someone she doesnt like, i mean what are we twelve here? i in fact didnt like the girl in question either so i doubt i would be talking to her let alone whispering. the thing that is so bad is that night it was her birthday and i gave her a beautiful watch as a gift. and then supposedly stabbed her in the back that night talking to her enemy! it has been uncomfortable for me but we have sorta spoken. she says things like well you never called me and im like why should i ,I DIDNT DO ANYTHING. it is so wierd how you can go from being so close to really not speaking at all. we went away with our s.o 's for new years. among many other times spent togather. she isnt acting psyco or anything but she wont wear the watch!!! i think that is what made me the maddest. well i can only conclude as you should that she isnt the person that i/ you thought they were and chalk it up to a lesson learned. i have plenty of longtime female friends that are ive learned my real true friends.
Re: HELP-major issue at work
ok - i'm a bit annoyed now - there was a response to my original post earlier from another girl - and now it's gone...what happened? she didn't say anything off the wall or anything - i actually really liked her post - she was saying how after all this time, revenge would be the way to go... does anyone have an idea on what could have happened?
jen
Re: HELP-major issue at work
Probably got deleted by mods as inappropriate.
Re: HELP-major issue at work
It was from ML (long story) - I decided to let his previous ban stay and removed some of his recent posts.
Re: HELP-major issue at work
well i suggest the whole talk to her with management there thing as stated above