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What a mess
I did move and as soon as I got to my destination I ran into that asshole. We went to talk and he doesnt want relations with me. This lead to a crazy back and forth conversation where I told him that I thought he was just using me to try to get married. He shook my hand and said Im smart. Then he admitted that the thought had crossed his mind about marrying me. He asked me what i thought the solution should be. When it became obvious to him that I wasnt going to marry him, he did nt want to date and wait to see what would happen. Then before he left he told me its better that i didnt get married and then have him leave me after a year. I told him not to call me or come around anymore, but I am still feeling depressed about this situation. Meanwhile, his friends are talking shit about me (over dumb petty shit) My roomates know what happened. (which sucks cause then it gets back to him that im upset) Do you think that he was pretending to like me for those few weeks?He denies that.....but I dont see how a man can go from wanting to be with you.....to wanting to marry you....to not wanting anything to do with you. Unless his friends just influenced him not to like me or he really just decided to not like me anymore. Anyway I just needed to vent -so what do i do now and if anyone could say anything to make me feel better..... :( Blaze
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Re: What a mess
Hey Blaze,
There are too many variable's involved to make this a story book romance. Even if he was to continue seeing/ dating you on the pretences that he didn't want your hand in marriage only to gain citizenship into this country. Now that it's out it will alway's linger above you like a dark clowd. Every argument will leave you wondering and doubting the relationship.
He is right to move on, out of respect for you, because maybe he really don't want to hurt you in the long run, but he also know's that he's not ready to commit to you.
Your in a new town, with new opportunities. Go out, explore and become part of it. Everything else will come to you eventually.
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Re: What a mess
Blaze,
I understand it hurts, but better now than later :/. Take this as another experience of life.... it's going to make you stronger. Go out there with your experience and live your next opportunity.... time will take care of your current hurting feelings. Sorry girl!! :(
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Re: What a mess
Blaze when you said you did not want to marry him and he wanted to stop dating, your reg flag should have "really" taken a stand then.
Move on. Be a friend in the future if you can. But for now take care of you. Not sure he could be playing on your feelings. Kinda sounds this way. It's been known to happen...alot. He may move on and find someone else to marry him, or just go back home. Time does heal. But it hurts for now.
Pamela
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Re: What a mess
Personal evolution takes many a turn. Good and bad. Accepting them learning from them and taking them with you in the education of life and those we share the world with.
You WILL be fine. Better even. You already proven you are smarter, right?
Deep breath, open eyes WIDE and discover your next adventure in the course of your life!
Live, Laugh and Love.