Should I feel guilty taking this week of?
Hi i don't know if anyone eles feels this way but this war is making me depressed and i just don't want to be fake and happy at work. The war isn't the only thing bringing me down though. I feel a slight burnout coming on and i really don't want that to happen. I have been working my ass off for two straight months now. By working my ass off i mean giving 110% at work hustling very hard and trying to give customers this fun loving happy persona. Which is very draining on me mentally. It is not that i hate my job, but it takes alot out of me. I really fear that i sound like a baby but the last thing i want to do i work myself into the ground. Or even worse being there but only giving 10% of my energy and just really wasting my time and not getting the full money potenital out of the night.
I guess i am wondering if i have a right to take this weekend off. Managers were cool with it but i still feel kind of guilty!! I mean on one hand it is only three days but on the other hand i think of the money i am missing out on! Do you think i am being too hard on myself? In this buissness is it important to take a week off when you are feeling to stressed and overwhelmed? Or do you think i am being a baby and should suck it up? I can't decide, i mean i would rather be at work and give all my energy into it rather than just being there but not really being there, ya know! Do i sound like a nutty workaholic? Should i be feeling guilty or am i preserving myself for better money making energy next week and beyond?
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Don't Feel guilty at all !!!!!! If you can take the weekend off, and come back feeling yourself again, then yes by all means you should......
Wens night while I was at work we had our one TV on, to see what was happining with going to war....... After it started, all I wanted to do was go home to my family.....I know it hurt my money that night because all I could think about was how much my family means to me, and how I wanted nothing more then to be home and close to them...I think this weekend will not be up to par as it is....People are not going to be out like they normally are
Take your weekend off, and recoup yourself........ I am also thinking about not going in tonight, then I wonder will all the girls feel like this, and they'll end up with no staff tonight....
We need to feel our best when we are there......... If we are not, it shows through.......Take care of yourself first......... That's all we can do !!!
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There is no point in burning out because you will make nothing. I felt somewhat guilty about taking a week off (two weekends!) to go ona Caribbean cruise, but when I came back, I was so refreshed and feeling better about being there.
I can relate to what you are saying about feeling guilty when sitting idle, but you are trying to maximize your income and some "me time" does just that!
So Cyn - you think it'll be a bad weekend? I figured it might be good. Guys will want a pick-me-up or to get away from reality for a bit. TV is getting boring.
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Don't feel quilty i take 2 weeks off work at times. They say it's better me not be there when i am not going to be productive.
When i am rested, come back and make the $$$$.
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Emily, I do feel you will have the guys who want a break from it all..
What really pushed me to bartend more was right after 9-11....I was bartending one night a week and dancing thee other 3 I worked.....Right after 9-11, everyone was at the bar.....They all wanted to drink, but none really wanted to play the fanatsy game at all.....
Granted this is not at home as 9-11, but I do feel it will play a part in a guys mood this weekend....
Who knows I could be way off base, and they'll all be out to party hard this weekend.... Since I dance only one shift a week now, I am so happy and bouncy when I am up there...... This week though I just don't feel into it like I normally would be......Being home with my husband and kids is all I want right now, gotta feed those damn kids though too...... LOL
It can take only one guy to turn your night around, So I may give it a shot tonight.......I have another 7 hours to decide if I want to go in.......LOL
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OMG lilac
u need time off...just like anything u get burnout...i just worked a 2 week stint and yes. i got all my bills paid but i have to smashed knees, two infected ears and bronchitis because i pushed myself too much...now i'm forced to take time off.....i usesd toalways always always take at least a couple of days off a week weather i needed it or not...but since after christmas it's been slow so i've been working the extra hours, but i'm paying for it in other ways and so is my son for the less time i get to spend with him
take time off....you'll be fresher when u come back and you'll have more to talk about to your customers....just think about what the customers must think when your there ALL THE TIME....they must think ''geez,, she has NO life...she's here all the time'' at least when your gone sometimes they can wonder about you....
TAKE THAT VACATION.
have a bubble bath, go get a massage...have some fun girl...how can u enjoy all the money u make if u never go out and use it ;) :-*
Re: Should I feel guilty taking this week of?
Thanks for all the responses guys!! I guess i didn't clarify that i only work three days a week at eight hours at a strech so i do have days off in the week but latley it hasn't been enough for me. Between school and work and living out on my own it has all been becoming too much for me!! I have been dancing for ten months now and i like it but every two months i just start to really feel burnt out!! It is like i just go up to a customer and my mind goes blank! Ofcourse it feels really uncomfortable and that sale for a dance is shot and uggghh! I just get angry at myself for doing that! But it seems like i need a week off every two or three months i need a week off! I don't go on lavish vacations or anything and spend money i just get organised at home and feel better the next weekend. But still is that too much for needing breaks!?
I also debated whether taking this paticular week off with the war and everything was a good idea with people's desire for escapism but i was dead at the club and i just had to get out of there!! I think next week might be better because people will have a week to get over the fact that we are at war and the initial shock might wear off by then but what do i know? Just my thoughts on how buisness might be this weekend!
P.S. Pamala i just wanted to say you are so neat!You have responded to alot of my posts now and they have really helped me/assured me. I definatly see you as a pro in this buissness and look up to you! And thanks to all you ladies for responding! I value your opinions and insights very much. Thank you!!
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Girl, that is one of the main reasons why I dance! So I can set my own schedule! Take your time off and you will see your income go up next time you return to work.