How should I handle this?
I know I'm a male, but, I figure this would have to do with here then anywhere else. Last night (Wed, Feb 19) went out to a small local club (was my b-day). Anyways figure I would go in the back the to the "champagne" lounge. The girl tells me there is some touching allowed. But I dont realy pay any attention to that.
Little side note, in MA there is a no touch lawie air dances, but, most ignore tht law. You can touch in the back, and basically grope, yes grope. I didn't, and wouldn't do that at all. I may go back....and I know they will want me to go to the champagne room. Is there anyways I can say "no, thats alittle disgusting and illegal, and I don't feel like going to jail", without being an a**hole?
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You bet ya! Happy b-day first!
Kindly and simply tell any dancer who wants you to touch her that you are not paying for illegal activity. I would "hope" any good dancer would respect and understand how you feel, and that you don't want jail time fines etc. Ask her if she does. I believe for every few "bad" dancer there are "alot of great ones! You sound like a very smart customer. Pamela ;)
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Happy b-day! :)
I think you should avoid using any references to the words illegal, jail, fines, arrest, etc. That may weird the girls out and make them think you're a cop. Just tell them that you don't need to touch them to enjoy the dance and that you prefer to just watch them being sexy. That will get your point across without causing undue stress or confusion, plus most dancers can appreciate that and many will even enjoy it.
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Why aren't all customers like you? :-/
haha.
I agree w/ Bridgette in regards to a diplomatic and honest answer.
Despite local laws, some clubs turn their heads to some (even low-grade) illegal activity - but that doesn't mean you have to take part in that - I have a few customers who like to go to the Champagne Lounge and won't even get dances - just to chat and socialize - you are paying for your time there, and shouldn't feel uncomfortable in the least.
..and happy B'day G_real - Pisces(and cusp Aquarians) rock! :)
..jax
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Just because u go back there with her doesn't mean u have to touch.......
by the way
HAPPY BIRTHDAY :-* :-* :-*
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well speaking from another male in MA who frequents strip clubs,,,, I can tell you that as soon as the girls know that u enjoy a good strip tease and dont require groping allowed, I have found that they can actually become so much more friendly and the whole experience changes and feels more like a date or something. I also love to be just teased, and I have made some great friends, there is nothing more exciting to me then to be friends with a hot looking young women who knows how to move. Now that that is settled, if we can just do something with these cheap guys who can hardly take out a dollar for these hardworking girls,,,,
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I know this is TOTALLY not what you wanted to hear, but your post made me think of the lyrics to an old Leon Redbone folk song from the 70's called "Seduced". It's a wonderful song to dance to, but most DJ's have never heard of it...... so sad....
I want to be seduced,
I want a woman to take me out to dinner for two
I want to see her eyes get-tin' moody,
Flirt-in' with the thought of what flirt-in' can lead to
I want to act real cool, have her think about gettin' little me in bed
Have a chat about Mag-na Chart-a, or Puer-to Val-ler-ta, or somethin' Gan-dhi said
I might demur politely, falter slightly, if she starts to fondle my knee,
But I'm relatively certain I'd compromise if I know me
I want to be seduced, I want a woman to talk to me suggestively
I want to hear her say she'll be with me tomorrow morning,
Drinking hot jasmine tea
I want her to make me laugh, make a point of touching me when she talks
Leaving all the jealous guys in the joint to mumble in their beer and gawk
I know it only happens, when I'm napping, nodding in my reverie
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me
I know it only happens, when I'm nap-ping, nod-ding in my reverie
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind se-du-cing
Start-ing from the moment that we'd been introduced
That I ever find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me
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OMG Open you sound like every dancer's dream customer! Lucky girls who get to dance for you ;)
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my gawd m_l
so graphic :o