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Behind the doors
Just wondering if any of you girls were virgins and also dancers. Do any of the non virgins out there abstain from sex? I am not a virgin, but I am not planning on having sex again until the next time that i am married. Because I am a dancer, it seems that my morals are contradictory.I look at dancing as just a job though..and sex is something else entirely. Do celebate woman not belong to be working in a strip club? Let me clarify that I do not think that it is wrong for others to have sex. Its just a personal decision that I have made.
Cheers!
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Re: Behind the doors
I have worked with a girl who was a virgin when she started this job, and has since gotten married and has a child now (she is no longer dancing). She wasn't a virgin when she got married, and didn't stay a virgin too long after beginning her career as a dancer.
As far as abstaining from sex while working as a dancer? It is usually not a problem. As a matter of fact most dancers date less than other women (in my experience), and have no tolerance for the dating "games" because that is what they do for a living.
The only real problem I could see is if you want to meet someone you wish to commit to. if you are happy being single and wish to stay that way, no problem. But If you are wishing to meet Mr. Right, you may have a real problem finding a guy who is understanding of your career choice AND your choice to remain abstinent until marriage.
But I think that you are right to decide to abstain. I am Married and have been throughout my career. I don't wish to go through some of the problems that my single counterparts have. I count myself as very lucky to have a husband who not only accepts my career, but enjoys the fact that I enjoy my job.
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I used to work with a girl that was a virgin. She was 18 and I don't think it's too unususal to be 18 and a virgin. To be 18, a virgin and a stripper is pretty unusual, though. But she was comfortable with herself and enjoyed dancing plenty. I certainly went through periods while I was dancing of not being sexually active. Your sex life is a part of your personal life, not your dancer life and I don't think it's contradictory at all to dance yet be celibate. Projecting sexuality and actually having sex aren't the same thing.
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OK, admittedly a LOT of girls who strip have other things going on that I might not do, and a LOT of girls who strip also turn tricks. Then again, a lot of secretaries and dental hygenists and kintergarten teachers ALSO turn tricks. I've learned not to condemn a whole group of people based on one thing in their lives.
AND ANOTHER THING..... why is it immoral for ME to dance topless or naked but Demi Moore or Nicole Kidman can do the same thing on screen and suddenly they're the Mothers of the Year?
Just because you dance naked does NOT mean you are any more immoral or indecent than the girl sitting next to you on the bus. However, if you dance naked, the odds are very good that you can afford to take a cab and NOT ride the bus..... LOL
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Susan, AMEN to that ;D
"Do any of the non virgins out there abstain from sex?
Abstain from sex? Would that be at work while dancing or our personal lives?
Of course I abstain from sex at work because clearly thats not something a dancer does. I have a boyfriend of 3 years and he is the only that I would ever think about getting intimate with.
"Do celebate woman not belong to be working in a strip club?
Again thats nobody's business !!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep your personal business personal. And if you are ever asked that question by management at any particular club then you probably don't want to work there anyway.
Tori
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I am celibate and I have never even thought about it being a problem
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Actually, I think this topic brings up a reason why many girls get so wrapped up in some of the things they normally wouldn't if they didn't work at a club. A think that a lot of the newer girls in the business have a hard time keeping their personal and professional lives separate.
If you choose to be celibate or if you are a virgin or if you have a relationship and are having sex or if you date several people and enjoy having sex with them all.......it really shouldn't matter when you are at work. As dancers we are there to do one thing and one thing only. Entertain the customers(OK 2 things-we make money too). Nothing that goes on in our personal lives in anyone else's business.
And the previous statement was right. If someone at work insists that you give them the intimate details of your personal life then that is not a place you want to work. If it's a customer you can always walk away. Never second guess yourself. If you want to be celibate and be a dancer at the same time then you go for it.
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It's good to know that not every dancer is out there having sex. I myself am practicing abstainence. For a time, I too felt that it was contradictory, but now I don't care. It's all about me and how I run my life. No one can be me but me.