Approaching a good- looking guy???
I've been dancing for five years; and, I still can't approach a handsome man for a dance. Like the other night I was sitting with a guy when a waitress comes over and says "uh about that water you ordered... come with me!" I'm thinking WTF? So she brings me back to the VIP where this absolutely amazing looking guy was asking for me. It was only my second night there. Anyway the guy was not only fine but part owner of a basketball team, wealthy, and very respectful. As usual I clammed up and when he finally asked for a dance I actually stopped half-way through and made up some excuse about not feeling like dancing. He did tip me well but I know I could have made more otherwise. Whenever a good looking guy walks up and asks me for a dance I usually give one or two really lame ones before giving the old "I'll be right back." I feel like I can't hustle unless I have "the upper hand"
Whats wrong with me? Anyone else out there like this?
Re: Approaching a good- looking guy???
I feel the same way, I sometimes am hesitant to approach a guy who is better looking than me b/c I also like to have the upper hand. But, I have never turned them down for a dance if they want one! If he specifically seeks you out for a dance, then dance for him, girl!!! The only reason I can think of that you might not want to dance for a hottie is that maybe you are afraid you will get turned on or something? I personally feel absolutely flattered when a hot guy wants to pay me to dance for him, esp. since some guys act like it is a privilege to dance for them b/c they are attractive. Obviously there is something about you that these guys like, so take advantage of it. Remember, you are there to make your money by dancing for guys, no matter what they look like.
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Sweetie, if he wants a dance from you, you *do* have the upper hand :-)
I generally sort of avoid good looking guys too... their ego's offend me. Of course, there are good ones, I just don't see many of them.
Lena
Re: Approaching a good- looking guy???
Good looking guys can be intimidating, as can good looking women for men. What you feel is normal. Try to get into a mindset where these "good looking guys" are just as the others, they are! The money is all the same, looks or not. And we are entertainment, he knows that. You will get used to it in time. As you are dancing (not very recommended) try to maybe do a dance with your back to him, or not look at his face for a long period of time. Look quickly and smile maybe. You have to reach your comfort zone. This little tip may help. Worth a try rather than passing them by altogether. Pamela
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I personally don't like dancing for people that I like. I mean like personally, not a like that you develop from a professional, dancy relationship. I think I'm afraid of being judged, whereas when you develop a relationship based on dancing you probably already have their approval.
If you know what I mean by that.
J.
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I feel very intimidated sometimes by very nice looking men.. Once they have tipped me on stage or have asked for me, I agree with Lena, you have the upper hand.... At that point it can turn my night into a great one, by giving me the ego boost of, "I am the one entertaining him "
It puts a bigger smile on my face, and more spring in my step...
Try using it to your advantage to feel good about yourself....... He saw something he liked in you....Run with it ........
Re: Approaching a good- looking guy???
::) I also get intimidated by good looking guys a avoid there tables and eye contact. I think some of the reason is I wouldn't mind knowing someone like that in my life, or their attitude stinks. But if they ask me for a dance I go for it!! It makes me feel damn good!!