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How to quit....
soooo.... the time has come and I am pretty certain that I should quit my crappy day job. My question is how do I do it without damaging my professional reputation.
here is some background info: Today is the last day of my first (2 week!) break off of work in two to three years. I have been wanting to quit this job since August, but I have been trying to stick it out.
My boss is an uber-biatch, and my job has caused me much emotional stress and trips to therapy! She has no respect for me, puts me down and uses me, among other things. The thought of going back to work is makng me so distressed, it is insane!
My question is this: I teach children dance (ballet,tap, etc.) and I love the kids, and feel horribly guilty about leaving them half-way through the year, but I feel that the need to take care of myself is more important at this point. My boss is also, shall we say, not well liked in my community- AT ALL! However, she does have a lot of connections.
I want to get out asap! How do I do this without getting myself into a bigger mess, or will it even really matter given her reputation?? Do I just screw it and tell her that I quit, or do I give her two weeks and let her make my life miserable? (She has certainly never shown me any courtesy....)
I have done my financial research, and I have found that it would actually be cheaper to buy health insurance myself (our company is very small), and I could save $100 a month by buying my own policy. In addition, my club earnings are more than what I am making now, and even on slow weeks I can earn equal to what I was making at my day job.
any and all advice on how to approach this situation would be GREATLY appreciated :-[ :)
Thank you all!!!
Portia
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Re: How to quit....
something my dad used to always tell me is to try to never burn down any bridges. i have had my share of jobs that have driven close to insanity but i always tried to keep the line of comunication open and friendly. you can tell her the truth about how you can't work for her because you think you have oposing views on how things should be done. and tell her that you are giving her the curtosy of telling her two weeks in advance so that she will have time to hire someone else. the two weeks will be awkward reguardless of the excuse you use but it will also be pleasant and stress free because you have nothing to lose. i think you should talk with her and tell her what's on your mind before leaving so that you don't cary any animosity towards her and later have regrets. i don't know. good luck and cudos for realizing that you need to get out.
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Its like my husband always said.. Shit only slides down hill... So dont do anything youll regret.. Try to take it 1 day at a time when you decide on a quitting date. And I think shes probably jealous of you or somthing you have..
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Re: How to quit....
Portia, if your boss really is a big a be-otch as you say...it doesn't matter what you do, she is going to determine the way she treats you...not you. *sucks, I know!*
Professionally speaking, give your two weeks notice, and maybe you should try to make her connections YOUR connections.
Just a thought
MissB
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Re: How to quit....
Hi Portia,
I would just say something like "I've used my time off to rethink where I am and what I need in my life and this job is something that I don't want in my life right now." I would give her the courtesy of a two week notice, because I would not want to be known as a person who didn't give notice or left kids hanging. I would think of a straightforward professional way to let your classes know that you won't be working there anymore, give them your # or whatever and tell the kids you'd love to hear from them and let their parents know that you'll be available for private lessons.
Lena
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Re: How to quit....
Hi Portia, for the sake of the kids who you must adore teaching to dance i would give proper notice. The kids will want to say good bye. Maybe throw a small going away party for you. Bosses get notice of job changing all the time. I would not stoop to the boss's level. Give 2 weeks notice. hang in there. Think about how many children may want to say good bye to you! You will have to be replaced anyway. 2 weeks will go fast...hang in there. Pamela
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Re: How to quit....
i was going tom say never burn your bridges but ariel already did
but i would her two weeks notice
what if for some reason u needed a reference from this woman?
be as sweet as we all know u are for your two weeks and then your done withthe bitch ;)
good luck portia
life is way to short to be unhappy
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Re: How to quit....
Good advice from everyone, I like Lena's line.
I've burnt too many bridges in the job force in the past, and now I'm finding it impossible to find a 'day job'. Maintain your self respect, and get a big calender to tick off the fourteen days!