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taming the shy guy
Does anyone have any advise on dealing with my “shy guy” regular? Here is my situation. I have one semi-regular customer (a definite club regular but not MY regular) who gets along very well with most of the girls and who I see conversing freely with almost everyone.
However, when I talk to him he turns deep purple (doesn’t stutter just blushes really deeply). He usually buys a few dances but I think he buys more from the girls he is more comfortable with. He doesn’t appear to be uncomfortable with the other dancers (and some of them are better looking than me IMHO).
How do I put this guy at ease?
I realize it might be because I look like his sister or something, but I think I could benefit from some general advice in this area.
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Re: taming the shy guy
Yeah, you're definitely overwhelming him in some way -- you remind him of a sister or something like that.
(Ewwww.... I just had a couple of thoughts... ewwwww....)
Anyway, just chat with him. Why not ask him? Get him to buy you a drink and just talk. Can you sit in their laps at your club? If so, ask him if he can buy you a drink and just sit in his lap and talk.... see if you can get him to open up.
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Re: taming the shy guy
Hi there, People blush for many different reasons. You say he gets his fun on with other dancers. But does not much with you? It could very well be : 1) he is attracted to you, and is 'shy', for some reason towards you. Break that mold, because if thats the case, this guy needs to feel comfortable with you by just talking to him a few times to feel him out.
And 2) He may not want your company and only like a certain crowd that you see him buying dances from.
Both are normal patterns of human behaviour. I am to the point when it comes to money and my job...i would approach him again being very freindly, ask if you can sit a moment...and talk. If the conversation goes no where, (seems you do all the talking, only,) or he does not seem to want you there (eyes roaming all over the other dancers,) you will pick up on this. Could work both ways for you. Well worth a try, because this is a guy who is getting his share with other dancers.
Keep the claws in and meow your way to his lap! Lotsa luck..Pamela