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Giving a dancer a Christmas gift?
I'm a customer and I was thinking about giving dancer that I like a Christmas gift. Is this okay? I only ask this because I saw this question posted on another board and the majority of the responders basically said the guy would just end up looking like a fool. I know that not everything is real in the club, but I'd like to do something nice for her. Should I just save the money for dances instead?
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Yeah a Christmas gift would be great.. Especially when it is 2 Champagne Room dances . At the club I work at a guy can "shower a girl". He gets 100+ singles from the bartender and showers the girl with it. So far lucky me, I have gotten 2 early Christmas gifts this way. I personally would be weirded out if a guy got me a gift. But then again it depends on the relationship I have with him. If he is one of my regulars and he discussed it with me I wouldn't mind. As long as he knows giving me the gift does'nt give him any special priveleges or anything and the gift doesn't represent that he is my "boyfriend".
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It depends on the gift. If you give a dancer a token (literally a token, not the smarmy token) it's cool. If you buy something expernsive it's not really that you'll look like a fool, it's more that she probably would rather have the cash. One of my regulars bought me birthday gifts (two years) and he brought me books that he enjoyed and thought I would enjoy (he knew I was an English major). I appreciated it. But if he had bought me jewellery or some such thing I would have been freaked out. So a little thing that doesn't seem to place her under obligation to you is good. Anything more is a little creepy.
Jenny
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Sleepy, I do the simplest things for the dancers I like at Xmas time. I get a card and put $$$ in it. Every year they look forward to it (cuz I usually just give to the same 2 every year). Keep it simple.
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I usually don't accept gifts. (have returned some, jewelery.) I have around the holidays though. The guys who know me well keep it simple. A card! A little extra cash! Or a hug! Thats about all i need to make my holidays feel great with my customers!
Pamela
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I personally would be charmed if a customer gave me a gift. I give out little photo Christmas cards w/a picture of me to my good customers. I think it's totally fine to give her something at Christmas time, whether it be money, a gift certificate, or just something you think she'd like.
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Gifts, generally speaking, are creepy. If you want her to worry that you might be stalking her, giver her flowers or jewelry. The small gifts the other girls mentioned would be OK. The best gift I’ve ever received from a customer was a $100 bill with a Santa hat drawn over Ben Franklin’s head and a note in pen on the back “Merry Xmas Katey” (my stage name). It was actually payment for 4 private dances so it was only a $20 tip but it showed a little forethought and was a nice gesture. It doesn’t hurt that he was my favorite type of customer (older, cute in an old-guy way, funny in an old guy way but respectful and hands off).
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I have found over the years that gift certificates in a holiday card from Neiman Marcus or the local day/nail/hair salon/spa are usually the easiest to give and generate the least amount of uneasiness with persons that you are only casually acquainted with.
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Chocolates, flowers, money, gift certificates, and cards are fine. I personally don't accept jewelry. Basically anything you would give to a freind would be fine, anything you would give to a girlfreind would not be good.
Lena
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I would feel most comfortable receiving a gift from a regular. I would probably feel fine with jewelry from a regular also - I'm not they type to lie to customers so any of my regulars would have known not to expect anything "extra" by giving me the gift.
As far as non-regulars or regulars of the club itself - I like the gift certificate idea, a new outfit from a costume lady, etc. I remember "club" regulars giving cards to all the girls or lottery tickets.
I think it's a very nice gesture especially this time of year and would feel nice to be appreciated. :)
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If you choose to get a gift for your favorite dancer, I must agree with Q that gift certificates can be the best way to go. Don't forget the idea of a gift certificate tot he local stripper shop - most of us girls could always use a new work outfit. But department store, salon, spa, and jewelry store gift certificates are also good. I'd avoid chocolates unless she has a professedlove for it - some of us are very particular about our diets. Do NOT get lingerie - NO NO NO. Jewelry could be okay, so long as it isn't anything extravagant such as diamonds, etc...... One of my customers bought me a very simple gold cherub-heart pendant that was quite nice - inexpensive, sweet, and pretty. Ummm, massage gift certificates are always good; almost all dancers could use a good massage. I think you get the idea.
I would like, however, to add a little something here about manners. If you choose to get your favorite dancer something for Christmas, you may wish to make arrangements to present it her discreetly, where other girls will not be immediately aware of your specific generosity. I do not say this out of any concern that other girls may cause trouble for you or her, but out of concern for simple graces. Think about - it's like what they used to tell us in grade school - don't bring gumto class unless you bring enough for EVERYBODY. Someone else may feel a little slighted.
Just my two cents.
McCain
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My atf's favorite earrings by far are diamond earrings a customer gave her a few years back. Recently, a guy gave her some remote-control toy car, lol. I've gotten her small, inexpensive gifts, but that did show some thought. Don't think she liked them that much. I'm gonna get her chocolate truffles for Xmas, but I have a feeling she won't like them much either. I really think she likes expensive jewelry. :( In short, I think it depends on the dancer.
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i think that gifts are great from regular customers.
the gift that never stops giving is money. most of my co-workers receive an x tra tip (500-1800$) that's always a bonus near the holidays. impersonal or personal you chose. that's my opinion and i'm stickin' with it! ::)
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wine perfume (her fave of course)
massage or pedicure/manicure cerfiticate
extra $$$in a card is always nice...you tip your regular hairdresser,paperboy etc at christmas...why not your fave girl
just a thought
::)
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I find that flowers usually go to waste in that most girls won't bring them home and will give them to a friend or just leave them at work. Jewellery is creepy.
Something that she can use to pampar herself is great.
The best is a card with cash with a message to treat herself to something special!
Rebecca
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Rebecca i am with you! Sounds perfect to me. Nothing too personal to scare me off.
Pamela ;)
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rebecca
why don't you just give all your flowers to holly, you know i love them
your mom
holly
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As an ex-bf of a few strippers, I can confirm that anything you give them (strippers), whether they appreciate it or not, will also get you laughed at (if you're a customer). Just listen to all of the ladies' comments. What do they all have in common? The theme is 'anything that is for me ME Me' and has no obligation for reciprocation. Which is all good and fine in a a normal friendship, relationship, etc - because Xmas is about giving not receiving. However in the stripping world, this means, I could care less about you.. just give ME something, and YAH YAH it's Xmas who cares chump, just give me something. And on top of all that it gets you laughed at. Countless stories I've heard about customers giving them presents and they get together and laugh about it after the customer leaves (even during Xmas). So don't be a fool. Just keep it business and keep your dignity (or try). I can tell from your post that you're falling in love or crossing the line between 'business and personal life'. Don't do it, I know where you're going to end up already. Get ready for heartbreak, heard and seen it too many times.
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i know this doesn relate to christmas gifts but one time a regular customer on my birthday i got me a moose lamp ...nothing says i love u like a moose lamp
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Hi Sigma,
you have a good piont since this has happened to you many times. But read my first post, i really don't like recieving gifts from guys i dance for. A card, (what, cards are 1.99.) or a hug does it for me. Or a 'merry christmas'. I love the feeling of giving! Since me being a dancer i recieve all through the year. This may well be ONE DAY i don't want to recieve a gift, but give a little extra effort to my customers in the way of dancing or a drink on me!
Pamela
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Unless you know the girl away from her job and you have a legitimate friendship (as in you like her for being her, and not for being a dancer) I would not give a dancer anything that you would buy in a store, essp. the type of gift that many of us guys would normally purchase for wives/gf's etc. No lingerie, no jewelry.
But if you want to show some extra appreciation, stick with the basics and throw in a little extra money when you tip her, or buy an extra dance from her. Dancers need a little extra money to Christmas shop too!
If you went to the trouble of actually buying her something, not only does it look creepy and foolish, but it sends a message (whether intended or not) that you have an ulterior motive in giving that gift (i.e. you expect a little "extraciricular activity" in return), and thats something that she's most likely not going to give you, and for good reason.
Sincere polite compliments are always appropriate. A simple, "Have a Merry Christmas" and a hug after your dance is over, or before you're going to leave will make her day.
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Although I must agree with Dr. Catfish regarding general principles, I would like to take the time to point out - especially to Sigma - that it is not wise to assume all of us are out for me-me-me or that we laugh at customers who give us things. Certainly, there are a few girls who have that mentality, but I think you would find that it occurs only slightly more frequently than it does in the average human female populace. In other words, regardless of their profession, you will always run across women like that.
Some of us actually are appreciative of such gestures. I know I do not like being classified as one who would ridicule or otherwise be unappreciative ofa gift, simply because it came from a customer. And gifts come in all forms - from a simple card, to a bouquet ofpretty flowers, to new work outfits...If anyone wants to know why we do not return this generosity, first stop to think that most of us do not have the necessary budgets to reciprocate gifts with every customer that buys us one, on top of the poeple in our lives with whom we would normally share Christmas. Secondly, even if we did, do you not think it would be detrimental to business overall if we presented our gift-giving customers with gifts and not the rest of the guys? That would be an excellent way to alienate a large customer-base, as gift-givers are not the majority. What that comes down to is this: While many of us do appreciate gifts and kind gestures, simultaneously we are working and must keep our bottom lines in mind, just as you would with ANY OTHER BUSINESS... If we were all independently wealthy, how many of us do you think would still be working (at any job)?
Merry Christmas to everyone, and all I I will say beyond this is that everyone should just do what they feel truly represents them as a person and have fun.
McCain
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It's soo .....nice ......when men that hate strippers post on here........................ >:(
Anyhow, a girl I work with just recieved a card from her customer with a gift certificate for Borders Books tucked inside. She loved it, she said it was nice to be thought of as literate!
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Gifts from customers are really creepy... I would prefer that my customers just help me pay my bills and buy dances from me.
~Dawn (GCC)
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Sigma, since you state you have dated dancers I guess you have dated the not so nice ones. Granted, I only give a card with some money or just tipped above and beyond the dance fee (I dont shop!!!). But I know in my case, the 2 dancers I give them to, never tell a sole. In fact when I have run into other dancers, that I know are friends with them, they have no clue who I am. The dancers I deal with, all seem to be tight lipped about things and dont discuss that stuff. I think it is twofold: 1. it is nobody's business and 2. They dont trust their friends thinking they will move in on their customer and want a piece of the action. Remember, dancers dont trust each other either!!!