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Gifts from customers are really creepy... I would prefer that my customers just help me pay my bills and buy dances from me.
~Dawn (GCC)
Proof of concept. I'm just giving guys hints on how to try to keep their dignity. I hear so many sad stories.
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i know this doesn relate to christmas gifts but one time a regular customer on my birthday i got me a moose lamp ...nothing says i love u like a moose lamp
??? What is a moose lamp? something Canadian I guess... eh? ;D
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I get alot of offer which I would love to take. But then I get the saying "So what are you going to do for me" which I think alot of girls on this board probably heard it before. ;)
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Ok, I'll accept that some strippers, such as yourself, are sincere about being appreciative of gifts. But let's be honest, how many % is that ? C'mon, let's be truthful to the poor saps out there. The MAJORITY of strippers could care less. Strippers like Dawn are the norm. You other ladies are the exception.
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If I have a regular customer who I spend a lot of time with, I am flattered and more than happy to get gifts! It's not creepy, it's nice! Jewelery, clothes, costumes are all great. Especially for me, I find I will not splurge on these things for myself so in these cases it is nicer to get the gift than cash. All I will do with cash is pay bills. Why do customers have to be creepy? Customers are good! We need them!
;)
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Sigma I agree totally and I understand where you are coming from. :D
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Alexa I also agree, I feel special but I dont take gifts. I get alot of money from my regulars so that's all i need. THE MONEY. Even though dont dont work the time cuz of siituations my regulars still call me on my cellphoe which is my business phone. To see when I coming back. So I am very happy;D
I thinking right now of a song.
" I want money, that's what I want, lots of money"
LOL
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Well TiNi,
pack up and head my way! I just had an offer tonite to do 2 girl 3D in cage dancing in front of at least 1,300 people weekends!!! I need a female partner. Lol.
MONEY BABY!!!
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Florida hun....sunny warm Fl.
Hugz TiNi
Pamela ;)
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You know Jason I was thinking of that. But I wasnt creating problem just stating my opinion which I think was fine.
Pamela I would love to go to Florida. Haven't been there in awhile. You know all the hot places to go. ;D
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Ok, I'll accept that some strippers, such as yourself, are sincere about being appreciative of gifts. But let's be honest, how many % is that ? 2% of the stripper population?
Actually I think this board is pretty representative of the stripper population. We don't pass an exam to get on here - we're all just dancers who found it. You have a wide cross section of ages etc. The bottom line is: most strippers LIKE most of their customers in the same casual way that any sales person likes one of their customers. The waitresses at the places I go to frequently know me well, remember me, and are very friendly (I'm a good tipper, and I go the same places A LOT). If I gave one a Christmas card and jar of cake or an extra big tip for Winter Solctice she'd be cool. She would not go home dreaming about me, thinking "God she's so thoughtful. I ought to have sex with her." (Unless I have very much mistaken our relationship, in which case shame on me). She most likely thinking, "Oh, how sweet" and then largely forgetting about it until it became pertinent again (it would probably go under a "good customer" file in her head. If I bought her jewellery, she'd be freaked. Dancers have a more intimate relationship with their customers, so there can be a little more latitude with the gift. But by and large, they do not want to be placed under gifty obligation, they are not going to dream about it but they will certainly appreciate it. And I think that it is safe to say that is the majority (the vast majority) of the stripper population.
Incidentally, I may be touchy because I was offended by your comment before (rightfully I still think) but the implication that we are a small percentage of the stripper community is pretty backhanded. Like what "you guys seem to be somewhat intelligent and articulate, you can't be representative of the community which is by and large immoral, stupid, whores?" Does it make you feel better about dehumanizing and degrading us then?
Jenny
PS I don't need to relax. You are just offensive.
Okay, I do need to relax. It's five to two in the morning and I'm on a message board. Way too much coffee. But not about this. This is just offensive.
Jenny (again).
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Damned. I liked my last post. Oh well.
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sorry...don't want thing getting too off topic.
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I still believe that getting gifts from my customers is creepy. Save your Christmas gift giving for your friends and family. Customers should never get to attached to their "all time favorites."
~*~Dawn (GCC)~*~
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As an ex-bf of a few strippers, I can confirm that anything you give them (strippers), whether they appreciate it or not, will also get you laughed at (if you're a customer). So don't be a fool. Just keep it business and keep your dignity (or try).
I disagree with most of the other posters, especially Sigma. I would rather get a gift than a cash tip. Why? Any customer can give me extra cash. Within a week or two I'll forget (unless it's in the thousands). Buying me something you know I want means a lot more because it means you paid attention to our conversations and bought something personally for *me*.
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Buying me something you know I want means a lot more because it means you paid attention to our conversations and bought something personally for *me*.
Uhm, I think this is the worst advice you could give to the poor guy that started this thread. You just basically told him to get a personal connection with a stripper. The ultimate bad idea. Business should remain as business. Sara, are you saying you like to get personally involved with your customers?
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Sara, are you saying you like to get personally involved with your customers?
What do you mean by "personally involved"? Am I dating them? No. Am I on a friendly basis? Yes. I do well enough that I don't need to waste my time talking with customers I don't find interesting. Stripping is a job, but you can't pay me enough to sit and be bored. If I can't connect with a guy on an intellectual level, I let the other dancers have him.
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on the flip side i gave my good regular a nice christmas gift this year. he came in to see me and i had a wrapped gift for him. not only was he happy and surprised but i know it made him feel good. it's also a good way to keep a good regular!
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on the flip side i gave my good regular a nice christmas gift this year. he came in to see me and i had a wrapped gift for him. not only was he happy and surprised but i know it made him feel good. it's also a good way to keep a good regular!
That's very sweet of you. Wish they were all as nice.
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By all means, give her a Christmas present. I, for one, LOVE receiving presents. Hey, saves me a trip to bath and body works or wherever. Plus, not to sound ungrateful, but I simply ADORE receiving presents! It makes me feel special. So if you feel she's extra special, give her a present. Just don't make it lame, like a fake pearl necklace (hey I'm just being real here) MAC certificates or other gift certificates or cash or jewelry are always appreciated by my friends and myself! MErry Xmas!!!!!!!!!!
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I have this customer, a 33 year old chinese nerdy guy who lives like 400 miles away, and sees me like twice a month and pays me a lot of money to sit with him. I get weirded out that he only buys dances from me.
~*~Dawn (gcc)~*~
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Why Dawn, if you don't mind me asking? They are the guys i LOVE!! Thats what the business is about! repeat customers for you. You are probably fulfilling a fantasy for him! But watch your back hun...always have a red flag up for your safety if you feel weirded out.
Pamela
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Yea Dawn if you feel uncomfortable keep your distance from him. He could get more attached to you. But maybe he really thinks your beautiful. Some you have to question that if you want to keep him as a regular which means money to you and no other dancer or tell him to back off.
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But watch your back hun...always have a red flag up for your safety if you feel weirded out.
This is excellent advice! I hope you were paying attention. ALWAYS trust your instincts. That's what keeps you safe in this business.