Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
I've been considering dancing and what I've been doing is actually going to the clubs and just watching the girls dance: on stage, lap dances, walking around the room, etc. It's been a great help so maybe that will help you as well. Good luck.
Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
I've heard from several men that often dancers SIT on their balls, trapping them in a painful position! Be careful not to do that.
Lap dancing is easy (apply pressure) but NOT TOO MUCH. This requires strong leg muscles, mainly the quads. A good exercise to strengthen your legs is leaning with your back against the wall with your knees at a 90 degree angle (sitting on invisible chair). Once you can stay in this position for 5 minutes, your legs are in good enough shape to survive a lap dancing club. :)
The goal of the lap dance is to get the guy off. Or so he thinks... Move your butt back and forth. If you can feel his dick through his jeans you might even be able to squeeze your butt cheeks where he can feel it. Always watch his face. This way he feels like he's getting your complete attention and you can see how he's reacting. If he looks like he's going to come, I back off a little. Before the song ends I start doing it again. I usually end up doing at least 2-3 lapdances in a row for each guy.
Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
A lot of guys at my club seem to want more of a fantasy than just a good lap rub. I often start my dances by sticking my chest near their face and lightly whisper something sexy into their ear. Then I'll move my head down to their groin area (which seems to drive them wild). Then I turn around and give them the "grind" so to speak. But watch how much pressure you apply and make lots of eye contact. Some guys like when you talk sexy to them -- others prefer for you to say nothing. Then right before the song ends, I'll turn back around and do what I did when I started. The key to making his experience enjoyable is to make sure that he thinks you are enjoying it just as much as he is -- whether that be by making the right eye contact or breathing heavy or whatever is natural for you.
Hope that helps a little!
Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
Hi Lola,
Lapdances vary greatly in different parts of the country. Everything from a dry hump in a bed type couch to no contact at all.
In general though... stand in front of them (between their legs) and twist your hips a little, bend over so your boobs are in their face, turn around and wiggle your ass very very close to his crotch, brush it a little, tease him. Face him and bend over like your going to give him a blow job, then drag your hair over his crotch (yes, he can feel it) then flip your hair up and squat down. Smile at him and say "you look like you need a blow job" and blow on his crotch (yes, he can feel that too even if he's wearing jeans). Put one hand up on his shoulder and sort of rub up him with your boobs, slipping your hand behind his head and tickling the back of it or playing with his hair. Breath on his neck like your having sex. Let your hair make a curtain and look into his eyes and smile. Then sit down in his lap and grind a little bit... arch your back so your heads on his shoulder..
As far as cool moves... do a headstand between his legs, do the splits upside down in his face, then put your feet on the back of the couch and slide down a little bit so your ass is in his lap and grind a little bit. Then do the splits again and bounce on him a couple times and roll out of it :-)
Or, step up on the couch and dance with your pussy in his face, then turn around so your ass is in his face... put one foot up on the back of the couch behind you and put your hands on the floor and the other foot on the back of the couch and just pretend your doing floorwork there... then slide down a little bit and grind.
Lena
Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
My first posting failed, and when I reattempted, I think I may have put it in the wrong section. *duh* If you're interested in this guy's observations of what works, check out the thread "New Dancer~VIP?"
Re: How To Give a Lapdance?
I've had dozens of lap dances, and I'll say that there is no textbook technique for doing one, nor should there be. A lap dance is an expression of yourself. Just get some info on what is and is not accepted at the club, and watch the girls already working there. Its really not all that complicated.
I've had dancers give soft sensual dances, and I've had them practically bang me in the chair. I prefer the former, although discussion with my friends suggest I might be in the minority on that one, but to each his/her own.
Needless to say, regardless of how soft or rough it was, or whether the dancer was on top of me for three minutes or thirty, I've never had a "happy ending". Which is fine in my book. At the end of the dance, I'll remember the dancer's enthusiasm more than how aroused she got me. A little eye contact sometimes outweighs a lot of groin contact.
That's just my two cents. Best of luck to you. ;)