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Tini - You're not a loser. I'm in awe of you. You have gone through all this stuff in your life, you deal with a lot of crap on a daily basis, and still you manage to not only feed and shelter your kids, but buy them presents too.
You may have lost a lot of material stuff, but you still have your kids, your sister, and your mother. You are blessed with all that love, and that could only happen because you are a special and wonderful person.
xxx wishing you happy days and happy nights
Claire
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I will be thinking of you.....and your wonderful kids. So lucky to have a mother who cares so much for them! You may not feel your best, but you have so much love. You will get through this. Don't give up!!!! There is always someone to talk to...
May you have a Merry Xmas and a wonderful New Year. A new year, a new beginning. ;)
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Hey you "STRONG WOMAN YOU",
You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. This is just a test of your faith. I'm not sure what your beliefs are, but i know it's a challenge for your strengths. and it sounds to me, that your doing it. your getting through all your test. Just keep striving. it will pass. I've been there. and i just keep doing what i think is best for me at that time. I know it gets like you dont know where any good is comimg, but it always does. you are the example of all that good. Your kids and everyone around you have this person who is doing all these wonderful things, for maybe their inspiration. It may be a blessing in the curse you think your in. just try to stay productive and know that you are worth every struggle of every situation. and you'll see that it was all worth the person you are becoming when you look back. Without any of all that you are going through, I will gaurrantee that you will find that you will be happy you went through it to get where you are going in life. keep your faith!!! Look out side what you would normally look at for help and you may find something new. just stay productive even though you feel you cant do anything. Do something!! with all that, Try to keep your head up and keep it moving!!!! sexyt
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TiNi,
Things will get better for you, maybe not right now, but sooner or later things can only get better. Tell yourself that, then take things one step at a time and soon you'll see things change for the better.
Why would you want a regular job when you can make more money dancing? Believe me, If I could go back to when I was your age, I would definitely have tried to become a dancer before taking a real job.
Whatever you do, don't give up. Remember, money can be made, but love can't.
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Hi Tini,
Check and see if your state has a victims of violent crimes compensation board or whatever your state would call it - most states do. You just get a copy of the police report and fill out their form and say that you lost your car and all you work outfits and have been unable to work, and they vote on it and give you some money for your car, etc.
Also check with your local womans shelter(especially if there's a House of Ruth). They might be able to help you with day care, jobs, or whatever.
When will you be able to go back to dancing?
Lena
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Hi TiNi,
sit down write a list of all your pros and cons. Then you see them in your face. Every day take one con on the list and try, it does not have to happen that same day, just work at doing something to 'rid it from your life'. Then look over at your pro's!!!! Children! What a gift. Family! WOW!!! Take a break from dancing if you are stressing right now and feel the need, nurture yourself! Love you!! Do something else for a time.
Write a letter about what you do not like in your life right now, read it, cry if you will...then throw it away!!!!
Write a letter about your beautiful children, read it, KEEP IT always!!! These tips are great motivators to help you through tough times! May sound trivial...but they work! Eliminate those con's! maybe be slow, don't rush it too fast. But little by little, they will start to disappear from your list.
Hope this helps you, Lotsa love.....Pamela ;)
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It sounds like you've had it very rough. I think you have done very well for yourself under your circumstances. May I ask if the drag you are feeling is related to dancing? Or if it is "just" the rest of your life? Perhaps you can stay with your mother or sister or a couple of months while you replenish your savings and, you know, stuff? Or maybe this is a good time to move somewhere else (people say here that NY is a rough city to work). Or maybe you can stay with your mother and sister and look for something else, something non-dancey if you need a break, or to quit. Or maybe (if you are not already) you can continue dancing and look into college or university (I'm going to grad school in NY next year, and there are some really good schools for women in and around the city). These are a few things that you have probably already thought about, and you know what would be best for you I'm sure. My point is just that you can pick yourself up from this and move forward. To me it sounds like you are a strong woman who can accomplish quite a lot.
Good Luck
Jenny
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Tini-
You have gone through some rough trials - and are still going through them! You are indeed strong to have gone this far while raising children, and dealing with domestic issues. Just remember that more people than you know are on your side. I have friends that have had rough situations ( some of them unspeakably rough - one of my friends was even featured in America's Most wanted as avictim of one of the most severe cases of abuse) and believe it or not, it has helped them through dancing. This one particular friend adopted the attitude of 'I can take this and make it", and this mind over matter attitude has helped her make enormous changes - all good. All you need is friends to encourage you and willpower. But don't give up.
Things go up and down in the dancing world, as we all know.Maybe you can start temping, or take a semester off from school (you mentioned you were at school in another thread) so you can replenish things and get things straight financially. this way you can also take a break from dancing and try another job like cocktail waitressing or temping - - - here's to hoping that things are prosperous for the new year.
We're rooting for you :)
j.
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this may be butting in and opinionated, but you mentioned in another posting that you are getting a breast augmentation in 2 weeks. maybe you should wait a few months and use the money that would have been used for the augmentation (that's a few grand, at least!) to get back on your feet, and save up. that way , in a few months, you'll be more financially secure and can resume in getting your boobs done! :)
it's a thought!
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Hey Tini, you mentioned that all of your clothes and shoes were lost in the car accident (or was I mis-reading?) Is this preventing you from working?
Maybe this is a little off-kilter - I know I have some stripper stuff I don't wear anymore if you want it....
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Is there any family you have that can help you out? My family is always there for me when i really need them.. Same with my inlaws.. Im very lucky to have such great inlaws.
Im sure theres somthing you can do.. You just havent thought of it yet.
Perhaps they have busses where you live? maybe take a bus to a local place? Put your dancing clothes in a duffle bag or backpack?
Just poppin up some ideas :)
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I dont any one to think I doing this for attention or anything so I deleted the first post. I just want to share the update of the domestic violence. And what is happening. :-[
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nothing wrong with sharing your life burdens with other human beings.
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I covinced myself of this and maybe it'll help u out too:
Life eventually will get tired of kickin my ass and move on to the next person or just leave me alone when it realized no matter what it does i'm not givin in cuz i don't have time 2 to right now. I take solace in the fact that the people who do bad or mean things to me will eventually get it back cuz thats how life works. I honestly do not believe life can't keep gettin its kicks outta btherin me if i jus go okay jus one more thing to deal with. I also feel like life can't have this much fun harassing me when there are people out there who truly need 2 have some things go wrong so that they'll be better people. Hope it helps.
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Hey Tini,
Feel free to share. I don't think anyone has thought anything but good things about you. Keep us updated.
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TiNi,
Always remember sweetheart! We can't ever change or control how a person behaves towards us. However we have the power with in US to behave how we react towards others. I have learned along time ago, when i chose a guy who was "bad" for me that if i start to work on myself (and i did) he would back off. Eventually he left, he was not going to win with me. I would ignore all the BAD from him, and except ALL the good from him only!!! Guess that taught him i was no longer a push over in MY life, not his. He's history!
It's YOUR life....Live it!!! Just by venting/posting you are making changes! I am watching Christina A's new song "Beautiful" as i type this, and thinking about you!!
Lotsa love...Pamela
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I'm calling up club trying to buy clothes I found only 4 and 1 pair of shoes. I am never carrying everything with me anymore. So I am getting there little by little. The insurance settled and I am planning on getting my boobs done still and buying me a new car or jeeps. Thanx for all your support girls. Hug and Kisses ;D
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i never bothered to post anything encouraging, Tini, cause i was sure you'd bounce back really quick.
;D
we all have those "downer" moments.