Lots of questions, need advice desperately please!
Hi there, yup I'm gonna ask for your help...okay well I've just started doing a bit of topless waitressing and a bit of stripping. My boss says that I'm at the level of a stripper that's been doing it for bout 3-6 months (guess I'm just naturally talented at taking off my clothes hahaha), so I'm doing all right considering I've only been at this job for about a week. I want to be great, not stay at this level for the next 3-6 months though, so I could really use some advice on becoming 'fabulous'. Also, my biggest problem at the moment is getting guys to tip me while I'm waitressing. I don't really know what I'm doing at all, just walking up to guys and going "Can I get you a drink?" blah blah blah, and bout 60% will send me off to get their drink and not tip me at all. I know I'm sposed to be chatting to them a bit more and that, but what do I say? And I don't mind doing lapdances and nipple shots and all that, but how do I let guys know in an eloquent way that that's what I do? Same with the dancing, I'm not to sure what to do when I finish my set and have to circulate around getting some tips. Because I'm not working in any one club and travelling around, a lot of the guys we're performing for aren't familiar with the protocols on tipping and charging and what they can ask for and what to expect, what would be the best way to clue them in without sounding greedy or pushy? I'm basically a nice, friendly person, I don't want to come across as a real wanker or whatever haha. Sorry to bombard y'all but I mainly came here to maximise my performance and income and I've been looking through the message boards and you all seem like the best source for info. Thanks!
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Well, when it comes to being "fabulous", speaking from experience, I do well in my club by standing out in any way I can. I try to do something to make myself distinct. I once work this huge fluffy purple feather boa, or once I work a wool cap with knee high combat boots and camoflauge bootie shorts and a wife beater and danced to Eminem ghetto-style :) I once wore a bindi and dressed up like a belly dancer with tons of bangle bracelets and the eye make up and everything... just do something that people will comment on and notice. Whether youre waitressing or dancing, it'll work for you. I have plenty of ideas for you, if you'd like some, feel free to email me at [email protected]. Take care, girly!
Love, Lola
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About getting the guys to tip while waitressing, many waitresses build in a tip into the price of the drink. Say the drink charge is $5.50 many cocktail waitresses simply charge $6 instead. Find out the club policy on this because you don't want to get in trouble for "ripping off" the customers.
There are other things that you can do to get their money while waitressing. Like wearing a scarf around your shoulders that covers your breasts, and when the guys tip you you remove the scarf and give them a good look at your chest. Another idea is (if your club permits it) is to offer them their change back and put a bill in the guy's mouth so that you can remove it with your breasts.
You also might try wearing a short skirt and a garter, and when you approch a table with drinks, put your foot up on as guys leg (or an unused chair) and hold the garter in such a way to show that you expect the guy to place a tip in the garter.
I hope this helps!!
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Well one way i break the ice with guys while working a floor (because i am a stage dancer, so it was once kinda tough for me.) is to walk up to a table of friendly looking guys or one, and put both hands on the table, stick out my ass, and ask if he/they like the atmosphere. Say to someone, (pick any guy) 'you look familiar, ' have i seen you in here before? Guys love to talk about themselves, so i then usually have the ball rolling someplace! I ask about my shoes...'do you like this color' or would red look better on these long legs'? Now my foot is up on his chair, better if his legs are spread. It's just the fine art of flirting!!!!! I then tell a guy/ guys i would perform any type dance up close and personal on stage if they follow me (up to the floor, with me right above them on stage.) "pick a song guys." If i don't have it i come as close as i can. But on stage i get in their faces on fours with hair and tits going. Legs spread at times in faces! I lay on my back arch up and moan! All the while looking like i am having sex!!!
This is how i behave when i work the room wanting new guys. Other than that i am on stage grinding the pole in my crotch while going up and down! They love it!! They come up to the side and put money in a garter, g-string, shoes, anything they are allowed within the club. It's all about behaving in a very sexual manner while you are working. Look horny!! Look turned on!!! Be SEX!!!! That way alot will come to you! You have just turned them on to you! Try it.
I do good for a no contact girl. But i am selling myself. And in order to sell myself i have to sell sex appeal!!
I admit alot see me as a bitch in the club (other ladies) thats fine. But if your going to get dressed up, do your hair, makeup, nails, workout, and so forth.....you better be number one in your book. Behave that way and you will be!!!! PS never look bored or just hang around, aproach them with attitude!!!
Sorry so long again.....Pamela :P
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Wow what awesome advice from y'all, thankyou for that, I'm so apppreciative. I can really see where I was going wrong, I've got a show on tommorow night and I am definitely going to put all that info to good use. I have a much better idea of what to do with myself, with costume and working the floor, so tommorow I am going to "be sex" haha, but really I am going to do much much better, I've worked out my weak spots. It's really good to get some outside help, thanks again. It's also been interesting browsing the rest of the forum, heaps of good information there. I'm really liking my job and it's cool to have a good resource to come back to. I'll let ya know how I get on, ahh the long road to utter fabulous-ness!
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Hi Eve,
Like Lolita said, capitalize on a feature. Drunk guys are not going to remember your name. They probably won't remember that you're the waitress. They may remember that there's a blond waitress. BUT if your the girl with long hair over your boobs, or the girl with blacklight sensitive glowing flowers painted on you, or the girl with blinking shoes, or whatever, they will remember you, notice you, and tip you.
Asking for tips depends on the kind of club your in. I worked in a club once where the waitress would just stand there and smile rudely until tipped, or say "you can tip me now." and that worked for her.
In more classy places sometimes just saying "is there anything else I can get you?" will prompt a tip.
Lena
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Hey,
I've tried to read all the reply's and everyone has really good advise. try to think what worked for you on a really good day and use the same thing. also, sometimes and most of the times it is not about the outfit or boa you wear. its what ever you wear and work it!!!! feel confident in what ever you have on.
but not errogant. men will respond to whatever you give them good or bad. just flirt the best way you can, they'll get the hint. and sometimes be bold! they do. they have no problem showing off in front of their friends and saying and doing what they want. just be a good sport on what ever they say and dont take it personally. Men are easy! Say something like,"Where do u want to stick it in?" they'll respond to something dumb, but just play with it. then say, "No the money" or the five dollars. Ask for what you want. you'll be suprised that they will give it to you half the time. if not the whole five or ten dollars, it'll be more than a "Dollar."
and when they do tip you big, hold a short conversation about them coming back to see you again. and keep flirting all night long. Have fun with them. And i bet you they will tell their friends and they will be back just for you. ask them questions about them and try to remember their name. they love that shit! keep saying their name throughout the flirting and i bet you'll get what ever you ask for. also, on the appearance tip, i dont know what you look like. but Think "Pameala Anderson" Every guy loves a look like a playmate. you dont have to be blonde but have the paymate look. I know cuz, i have it alot harder but i read men very well, i think and i do well in clubs. be a people person. Make sure your teeth are clean and white, and maybe done. make sure your toes and nails are done. Look in "Victoria Secret" magazine on hair/look tips. (they look like dancers sometimes) just make sure your clothes are simple and to the point, so your the focus. and most of all the "Body" is on point! and you dont have to have a boob job, but it helps even though they say sometimes that they dont like them. its all on you.but it will increase your cash flow in this business. I tried to cover some tips to help you but if you need more help, i'm here for you. Theres enough cash for all of us. Sexyt
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When i waitressed if people didn't get the idea to tip after awhile I would just say, is nething wrong with my service and when they said no, i would say, oh, okay i was wondering why u didn't tip me b/c i thought that was the reason. I have 10 variations of that i used 2 use depending on the customer. Some customers truly 4get or don't know that the tip isn't built in etc. I did realize that sometimes they were distracted by having some busty chick sittin half-naked on their lap.
Do remember though that some guys are simply jerks so evry1 may not tip. I had some off duty cops come in three minutes b/4 my shift ended. Manager is friendly w/cops. Let them drink/eat free etc, well one guy oreders 4 evryone and says bud for evry1. Well, ebry1 did not want that so after spending 20 minutes making returns and getting evry1 what they want. One table gives me the tip 4 the bartender, and they tell one guy at the other table to give the tip 4 me. He asks me why he should ti p me 4 just bringin them beer. Sixteen beer to be exact. I smiled at him, and took evry drink off the second tavle and threw them in the trash and told hime that prevention of that woulda been a good reason, but that i was now off work and if he did not like it 2 tell my manager on me.
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When i waitressed if people didn't get the idea to tip after awhile I would just say, is nething wrong with my service and when they said no, i would say, oh, okay i was wondering why u didn't tip me b/c i thought that was the reason. I have 10 variations of that i used 2 use depending on the customer. Some customers truly 4get or don't know that the tip isn't built in etc.
Divyne makes a very good point. Diplomacy is the key, but there's nothing wrong in innocently asking a customer if the service he recieved was bad or something - it's your right to question that b/c you make your money on tips. It's the same way for dancers. If I go to the lounge with a customer and he's made me dance a lot up there, I do let him know that a tip is nice (for working my ass off! :/ )- unless they are completely out of cash, they always apologize & tip on top of that -
Of course, we have some waitresses in our club that aren't as diplomatic and will just stand there waiting for a tip or blatantly asking a guy "do you plan to tip me", or " if you want to get the beer yourself, then go to the bar - if I bring it to you, it's customary to give a tip". Of course, this is new york so people aren't as nice all the time - but hell - it gets them their tip!
. But if you ask like Divyne, in an innocently sincere tone, then there is nothing wrong with that. Use those womanly wiles, girl!
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You Go Eve......Sell yourself YOU ARE SEX!!!
Ps be thinking about ya! Do GREAT!
Pamela
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If you can do lapdances and nipple shots, TELL THEM! They don't know what they can get if it's not offered. Just let them know, "You know, as a waitress here I can do a lot more than just get you your drink . . . " and tell them what else you can do.