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OK~he's now in jail!! He has a no contact order against him & is no longer
allowed in the home or allowed around me or my daughter!! To be extra
safe~i'm going down to file either a no tresspassing warrent or domestic
violence injunction against him. I fear he might try to harm me when he gets
out. I hope they keep him for awile.I completely cleaned everything out of
his room~scrubbed down my house~AND I ACTUALLY GOT TO HAVE MY
KIDS spend the night @ my house for the first time in a very loooooong
time!! I always had to take them to my moms or a hotel.......I also installed
a chain slider inside my door and will be replacing the doorlocks probably
today. He says he lost his keys but I do'nt trust him. Anyways~I hope to
God this stays this way and he just leaves us alone forever!! *MASSIVE*
SIGH*OF*RELIEF*..........I hope you all are doing well yourselves!
As far as the hubby goes~he has deeply apologized to
me for being such a schmuck.....
he says he knows it should have been done sooner
but he was'nt strong enough to do it.....
He says he actually feels relieved too and is glad to
finally have our house back and know
his daughter & wife are safer now. As far as the nephew
goes~I told my husband I would leave that
choice up to him~we can keep him here temporarily &
see how it works out~maybe try & get him some
help(counseling~meds for his A.D.D.~special classes for school) whatever he needs. He's eligable for Social
Security~so this would help a great deal with his care.
If it seems like he's going to still be the same
(Destructive~disrespectful~nasty~slobbish like his dad) then he will have to go into foster care.
I hate to do that to a kid but I'm not dealing with that
nonsense anymore~he's not even my responsibility
and I'll be damned if I have to deal with it.......I do'nt know if he's going to be allowed with his dad when
he gets out or not. :) ;) ::) :P :-* ;D :DANYWAYS~I am very happy & relieved~the police officer said because
of this I dont even have to evict him!! YAAAAAA!!!!! Thank you~all of you for your awesome advice and
for listening!!
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Ana Im very proud and happy for you. Being that Im in a domestic case myself. A.D.D program forget let him stay in jail. I tried counseling for my ex, it dont really help alot of people They would turn back to whatever they been charge with. Also dont pick community service that not really teaching him a lesson. ;D
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Thanks Tini!! Yes I fully agree with you~The bondsman actually had the nerve to call me and ask if I had any plans to help bond him out!! I said "HELL NO!! He's not even supposed to be around us!!" His bond is set at 20,000.!! Everyone seems to think he'll at least get 3-5 yrs.~GOD that would be a dream come true!
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I'm so glad to hear that your sicko brother-in-law couldn't post bond! But don't let yourself relax until this sicko has been convicted and sentenced. Remember that YOU have now become the focus point of all of this guy's problems in his own sick mind! I would also highly recommend that you let someone else deal with your nephew, because having him as part of your household will be constant reminder and constant source of tension for everyone involved PLUS giving your brother-in-law a further focus point to possibly extract vengeance when he's released!
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The best Christmas to you!!!!!! Merry christmas hun! What better present. You and your loved ones are safe!!! WAY TO GO!!!! :D :D :D
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Thank you all very very much~Happy holidays to you also.........Yes Mel I agree with you~I ca'nt completely relax~Im going to get a restraining order just incase~but he's just sick enough to not even care about a restraining order......as far as the nephew~I do'nt know what else to do~we might see about hubby's sister or mom taking him up north for awile......I dunno~we just have to go day by day and see what happens......BIG GIANT HUGS TO EVERYONE~for all of your support!
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Right on !! That is so great that you got this all taken care of and can now have a more peaceful holiday season!! Now that the ball is rolling you can tie up the loose ends and feel completely safe soon!! I am happy for you!
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thanks alot for letting us all know the outcome ;D i cant tell you how many people at my house who were following your story...it was like a soap opera only sicker! i'm so glad for you and your family, especially your kids
i still think you need to have some kind of talk with your husband so this never happens again...
a safe and wonderfully happy christmas for you and your
peace
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WOW!!!! I feel famous now!! YES~I now have a restraining order against him! I am still petrified though. We had to go to court this morning and see him.....for temp custody of his son......oooohhhhhh the glares I was getting. Then when it was over the case worker came to talk to us and told us some of the things he said in their 45 min interview.......OMG~he said he did'nt think what he was doing was wrong......he did'nt remember Ashley being there~but also did'nt care either. I lost it~I damn near passed out at that point~then I started hyperventilating~looked at my husband and started to cry~It really creeped me out~I looked at hubby and said his name.......he hugged me and said, "shhhhhhhh~it's ok~go outside for a minute....."then he and the social worker came out to talk some more. He started spilling his guts out about His brother to her and all the sick shit he's gone through and done. Then he admitted he was a complete failure to me & Ashley and could use some counseling for not being as strong as he should be and some of the things he's gone through in his life too. He told her that his brother is very mentally ill and needs alot of counseling and A.A. and a good drug program~BUT I do'nt think even therapy would help him. He's waaaaaaayyyyy out there. Another thing he does is stalk the Tampa Bay Bucs fanclub. He writes to them on a weekly basis and calls himself Ike rubber band man.......WTF?????!! He insists that the movie Waterboy was his idea and was stolen from him~ETC ETC ETC~the list goes on~can anyone say JERRY! JERRY! JERRY! Anyways~so hubby & I get in the car and he seriously apologized for not being there for me and Ashley and explained reasons why which some I can deal with. THEN~it gets even worse. I got a page from DETECTIVE ROZZI(THE WONDERFUL HUMAN who actually cared and believed me and arrested this asshole) She told me more details of things he said~Are you ready for this? That psycho said things like~he fully admitted to everything he did. He was very attracted to me......and very determined to make me want him. He likes clean classy women~He does'nt like dirty prostitutes and wo'nt pay for sex. He gets these fantasies in his head and cant control himself~he wants to act them out with me. He said locking myself in my room and telling him no were'nt enough to convince him that I did'nt want him. He felt it would'nt be disrespectful to me or his brother if I had sex with him. He said the kids were not the focus of any of this but he did'nt care if they were there or saw anything. AND THIS PART~*SHIVER* he said he was very close to raping me or hurting me really badly if I resisted him. He said if he kept at me I would eventually give in and have sex with him and realize I wanted him too. She just went on and on~I am sooooooo scared~whats a piece of paper gonna do to stop a wacko sick bastard like that? I know he'll try at least once when he eventually gets out. BUT the good thing is~the detective has this all written down and not only are they charging him for Ashley~but for me too. Also he's on a bond for 20,000.00 which I do'nt think he'll be getting anytime soon. I'm hoping for at least a couple years......hubby thinks he'll just get probation and counseling~they said within 72 hours of release he gets visitation with his son~BUT supervised and the social workers will pick his son up and take him to his dad. IS THIS JUST THE CREEPIEST SHIT OR WHAT??!! I knew he was sick~but I had absolutely no idea that it was this deep or sick. ACTUALLY stalking me in my own home. I told the officer that it was always creepy~but there was something different about it Weds. night. I felt that if I had'nt gotten out of the house when I did~it would have happened that night. The detective was very fearful for me and feels he is a very dangerous threat to me. I'm gonna buy that woman a beer and a Christmas gift for saving my ass. I might have been in the hospital right now if she had'nt cared. WOW~that was loooooong eh??
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hopefully this guy is some other guys "bitch"in jail right now and is getting it up the ass , today , tomorrow and every day for a long time
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LOL!!! Ahahahaha true~true~I hope so too!!