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Approaching female customers
Hi I've been dancing for over a year now and I loved it, besides the aches in my legs and feet. I wanted to know if any of you dancers have approach female customers and asking if they wanted a dance.
I'm constantly gettin' hit on by dancers and female customers. They're are always feelin' up on me. I'm really shy around women but not men I dont know why. I couldn't make myself go up to a female customers unless their boyfriend or the female customers come up to me asking for dances. I would do it and and they are all like :P and asking for more dances. The thing is when I give them dances, I'm aggressive. The only way I could overcome my shyness around women is when I joke and act a little silly to make them laugh and not notice the shyness.
I even had couples or women askin' me to go home with them I'd laugh my ass off but kindly say no I can't u go home with your (husband or boyfriend) and f--- his brains out. What do you guys think? ;D
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I too have trouble approaching female customers, only for different reasons. My problem with them is that you never know just *why* they are there-are they curious? Were they dragged along? Or are they there being a watchdog? Other times I have no idea why they're there, it seems they go out in a group just to be catty. In any case, I don't like to approach because I don't know if I'm going to get my head bitten off or not...
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As a female customer, I love being asked for dances (because i'm too shy to ask for them.) But I also understand why the dancers would be leery to approach the female customers. If you have the time and want to ask a girl for a dance, maybe you could try keeping an eye on them for a bit to see why they are really there, if they look like they're having a good time then by all means you shouldn't be afraid to ask, but if it is obvious that the boyfriend/husband drug them to the club it is probably not the best idea to approach either of them.
Remember, they are in YOUR work place, the customers have to realize that if they go to a club, they are going to be asked if they would like a dance.
Good luck :)
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If I'm on stage I'll dance for the women first ("ladies first"). It's pretty obvious then if they're into it or not. If they are into it I'll completely ignore their boyfreind or whatever. A lot of guys really appreciate it when you pay extra attention to their girlfreinds. I don't know how many time's I've been getting off stage and had a guy come up to me and ask if I'll suprise the girlfreind with a dance. If the girl seems kind of shy (isn't coming up to the stage) I'll ask the guy if she's into girls. I don't hit him up for a dance, I act like I'm realy into his gf and try to get him to help me get a dance with her. Another tactic is to say "are you a dancer? oh, you should be, you're really hot" and see where it goes from there.
Lena
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I think it's 50/50 with me approaching female customers and female customers approaching me. Our club gets a lot of women as compared to others, so I guess we're all used to it. If I see a girl watching me while on stage or giving someone else a dance, I'll catch her eye and smile - that usually eases them some and afterwards I'll come over to say hi to her and her friends, whether they be male or female. I sit with the customer for at least 2-3 songs, because many times females want a little more attention and familiarity to warm them up - after that, it's quite easy - either they are easy to ask or the friend/boyfriend can't wait any longer and shoves money into my hand and says "give her a dance!". It may be a little easier for me b/c i do like women and am not shy about relations with them so it probably comes out in my demeanor.
If a girl seems to be there with friends and really not into the scene, you can usually tell by the scowl on their face, and they don't smile very much! or...they cross their arms a lot. In that case, I don't bother approaching.
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I agree with Summer and Jacqueline - you can usually tell who is having fun. We get a lot of younger girls who come in with parties and they are usually either uncomfortable or snickering at the dancers. Our club actually has a "ladies night" when women get in free, so on those nights we'll get a lot of couples (bizarrely, we had tons last Valentine's Day). Go introduce yourself to the woman first, sit down, do what Jacquie says - try to be flirty with her. Believe me, when I'm a customer in clubs, I love getting dances as much as and probably more than any man.
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Hey Thanks so much for replying this. There are times when I get asked by female customers to come over and they'll ask for couple of dances, that's when I loose up a little and flirt with the female customer rather than her boyfriend/husband. I can tell if they're into women by responding to me such as feelin' up on me and givin' me kisses.
There are some bizzare things that have happened since I've been working in that club. The other club didn't have many women there and the club I'm working now has so many women coming in. I've had women coming up on stage puttin money in my g - string ( in front of my g string ) and I had to stop her hahaha! cuz I didn't want the manager to kick her out and suckin' on my tits while I'm on stage dancing!!! ;D I tried to get her off me and she wouldn't! I thought it was kinda funny but I had so much fun dancing for women and teasin' them.
But yeah I do agree with u, I do watch women and see how they react to us or how they look at us. The funny thing is I wouldn't mind if women feel up on me but I DO MIND if men feel up on me cuz they go too far. And before I started working in that club I was being so naive thinking that men are a lot worst then women but now women behave like men sometimes! lol ;D
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I am so thankful that females are not allowed at the club I work without a male escort. This makes it so much easier to approach a couple versues a female alone. Most of the time the male buys the female a dance and then she in turns repays the favor. Also, from what I have witnessed the female thinks that the no touching rules don't apply to her. Why is that??????????
Tori ???
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I know exactly what you mean!! Our club allows female customers in by themselves, and this one woman would come in all the time either with her girlfriends or by herself...she would get dances from me and obviously thought that the "no touching" rule did not apply to her. Most of the time guys only try to get away with touching my leg, but this girl would try touching my back, sides, front, you name it. And this other woman, whose boyfriend bought a dance for her, tried LICKING me! ??? The few women I have danced for definitely tried pushing the limit more than most men do. I enjoy dancing for women but I still feel just as violated when they try touching me as when men try to do it.
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Interestingly enough, I have had the opposite problem in the club I work. I have more troubles with women, who come in as part of a hetero couple, attempting to become more "touchy-feely" with me. Yet, the women who regularly come in alone tend to be hell-raisers, but very respectful and careful to behave. I've never been able to figure this one out.
I did my first lap dance for a woman about a week ago - this woman comes in very regualrly by herself. Even though she was evidently VERY into the whole thing, she essentially sat on her hands and grinned that big goofy grin the whole time. I actually had more fun giving that lap dance than I normally do with the guys, because I felt confident that she would behave.
McCain
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We've found that the dancers like us. In fact, they frequently tell us how much fun we are. The women seem to have no problems coming up and asking me if I'd like a dance. Virtually every dancer will ask me. Rocky has never needed to ask them to offer a dance to me. We've had dancers ask Rocky to tuck the dollars into my cleavage and pants and then have them taken out by the dancer's teeth. I never grope them. I've also had dancers kiss me, lick up the side of my neck, and lick my cleavage. They have always been gentle, respectful, and we've all had a lot of fun.
Jackie
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I absolutely love seeing female customers enjoy thenselves like the above post! No groping, no cattiness, just good clean fun!
Too bad they're the minority!
There is nothing I hate more than seeing a girl who has come in with her boyfriend to babysit him to make sure he isn't doing anything she disapproves of. I'm sure everyone has seen this scenario - the crossed arms, tapping the feet, whispered shitty comments, and the sideways glare.... and they ALWAYS sit on front row at my club! ??? I have found that using the booty as a weapon works ;) I dance as close to the girl as possible - this either breaks the mood and makes them chuckle or gets this cranky woman off of my front row to make room for someone who is happy to be there! Either one works for me....
And as far as I'm concerned, a customer is a customer is a customer....
Women who grope are just as wrong as the guys. Maybe even more so, because they probably know what it feels like to be groped (even if they're not dancers!) Even though I have a bisexual point of view, I will put a female customer in her place just as quick as a man. (I don't care how cute she is!) ;)
Okay, I'm done griping now..... :-X
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Wonderful post kermit. I feel exactly the same way. If a woman is there to have a good time-then she makes it a lot easier on me to make sure she does have a good time.
My club gets LOTS of females, but unfortunately only a few fit the category of coming in just to have a good time. We actually get women that come into the club in a fairly large group. I haven't quite figured this out-nothing better to do on a Fri night than go make comments about dancers? Go figure. I did figure out one motivation one night for this however, they stayed until we were closing, and started exchanging phone numbers and flirting with the guys in the club (not cool!).
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I pretty much ignore most women customers that I see in my club. I always find that most female customers appear to be slightly uncomfortable. So perhaps I'm not helping them feel any better but it's normally a touchy situation with female customers.
They're usually a lot more touchy feely and or pretty intoxicated. I work in Philadelphia and I've never seen so many women going into a club as customers as I've seen in the club that I'm working now. It's as if they think it's a regular club. They usually try to start dancing for whatever guys they're with and or give the catty stares and they just give out a very negative vibe. Ofcourse I'm just speaking of my own experiences.
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PS TO Kermit
Using the booty as a weapon. I love it!! ;D
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Thanks Candice ::)
Power to the booty!!!!
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I also wanted to say regarding this issue, "never underestimate female customers!" For one, whenever I dance for a female customer, 9 times out of 10 it gets me dances from other customers - they watch and it draws attention - and they either want to buy a dance for themselves, or buy more dances for the girl I've danced for (I had one customer have me give two girls -strangers- 5 dances each after seeing me give them one dance that they paid for)...also, I had another female customer that I basically blew off (after she tipped me on stage) and started off for the rest of the room, until her friend grabbed me to give her dance. It was a slow monday night and she ended up dropping over 300 dollars worth of dances over a two hour period. It was totally unexpected!
ya never know.... ;)
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The last time I went into a strip joint as a customer instead of a dancer, I spent well over $300, and $250 of it was on a girl by the name of Cassidy.... my date that evening was quite taken with her...
McCain
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Yeah, he had lost his job and his home that day. I felt the need to take the poor chap out for a night on the town - figured it would be his last for a while.
McCain
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The club where I used to work didn't have very many women comming in, but we did get a few. I've had plenty of guys get more touchy-feely than the women, but for some reason it doesn't bother me when the girls do it. It's wild and fun, but I can't stand it when the guys do. It just makes me sick. I'm not sure why that is.
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All the clubs in Houston women have to be accompanied by men. This being said, what is the best way for a girl to approach a dancer for a dance, or would you rather the guy ask for the girl?
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I've been asked either by female or their boyfreinds/husband to give female a dance. A lot of females who were watching were fantanized how I dance on stage when female come up to tip me on stage or How I give them lap dances. Funny thing is when I'm asked to do a dance they ended up rubbin' on me and their husband/boyfriend would do the same. I sometimes do give dances to couples and they tip well!!!
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Although I don't avoid female customers, I find them to be sometimes difficult to deal with. For the most part, female customers tend to come in only two types; the haters who are pissed off and uncomfortable that they are there. They like to sit with other women and talk mad shit about the dancers. They give dirty looks. They sit at the stage without a god damned dollar in front of them. As they get intoxicated, they often want to start taking off their clothes and/or dance at the stage side, unwittingly revealing why they are customers, instead of dancers. A real challenge to even the most professional dancer's patience. Then there are the hornybitchs. Hornybitchs want the dancers attention. Hornybitchs want the customers attention. Hornybitchs want anybody's attention. They want to touch you. They believe that their lack of a penis means there is also a lack of rules for them. They want to kiss you, to blow their nasty alcohol-pickled breath into your face. They hump their chairs when you dance for them. They feel the need to partially undress, unbuttoning tops, undoing pants as to entice you to touch them....and the entire time, at two second intervals, their eyes dart around the room looking for that all-important attention. From their boyfriends, from their girlfriends, from the crowd.
Of course, there are exceptions to these two stereotypes. I find those exceptions to be very few and far between, however. The only almost definite exception, STRIPPERS. I have almost always had other dancers, whether from my club or across the country, be very generous, respectful, and complimentary. In fact, other dancers are possibly some of the best customers.
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Wow! Interesting thread. As a female customer (and newbie), I have found that the ladies that give me dances tend to enjoy feeling me up or taking my hands and rubbing them up and down their bodies!! Last time I was in Allstars, a dancer bit my breast (a little too hard, but it was sexy all the same!!!). Of course, I'm sure it's all for show, but I enjoy it nonetheless!! I honestly thought dancing for women would be easier...it's always interesting to look at situations from the other side of the fence...