Just curious. My wife wants to go to a club with me and get a dance together. What can she/we expect?
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Just curious. My wife wants to go to a club with me and get a dance together. What can she/we expect?
I love dancing for couples, especially when it is their first time getting dances together. I have danced for many couples and even have a regular couple. The dancer may have the two of you sit beside each other, then dance for both of you, or focus on one person at a time. Depending on where you live, there may or may not be contact. I work in Toronto, Canada where there are nude dances with some contact. What your dance will be like also depends on the dancer. Make sure she is comfortable dancing for women/couples, because not all dancers are. I usually ask the woman what she is comfortable with and then go on to give more of a sensual dance, rubbing her back, breathing on her neck, gently touching her stomach, etc... and doing somewhat the same to the man.
I also like dancing for couples, it is definitely a fun break from dancing for guys all night. As long as the woman is comfortable with it, b/c if she is visibly uncomfortable then it kind of puts a damper on things. I usually focus more of my attention on the woman b/c sometimes I feel like the woman is left out if I focus on the guy. (and the guy loves seeing his girlfriend getting a hot dance!!)
I totally enjoy dancing for couples. I find it alot more fun and erotic--especially when the woman is not really into it at the begining of the dance--if I can turn her on it really makes me hot too!
What are some tips for approaching and dancing for couples? Last weekend, there was a really cute couple at the club, but the girl looked a little uncomfortable. Couldn't tell if she just didn't want to be there, or was getting turned on (of course, I didn't go chat with her either so who knows!).
Amethyst
Here is a vignette of most couples that come to my club: couple sits in a back booth away from stage, has a drink or two, man watches the stage show, woman sits by his side, looking somewhat perturbed at the whole situation.
This is what usually happens when couples are at my club. Lots of couples some in on weekend nights, and I am not sure why. Often, the women don't seem to enjoy it. Granted, there are the really fun couples who will come in and get dances, but that seems to be the exception unfortunately.
Persoanlly, I think it's great when couples come to the club, because that means the woman is comfortable, or at least willing to put up with the environment of a strip club. I like dancing for couples, the women are definitely fun if they get into it.
Anyway, your question M. Jones about what to expect from dances....is your wife attracted to women, because if she is, then the dance will be more erotic. If she seems uptight, then the dancer will likely not want to make her feel uncomfotable, and thus less contact.
When dancing for women, I tend not to concentrate so much on grinding. It's a different dance, more sensual. I don't know how much contact is allowed at the club you attend (mine is high contact), but when I am dancing for women I will run my hands down her inner thigh, maybe the side of her breast, maybe light kisses down her neck if she is really into it....take her hand and initiate contact with me, etc etc. It really just depends on how comfotable she is with the whole situation.
Kudos to your wife for wanting to visit and get dances!!! You are a lucky man and I am sure you will have a lot of fun with the girl/girls you chose!
I am always very happy to see women come in the club, it forces the single guys to behave in a more gentlemanly fashion. I give them even more attention than the regular guy customers. I will try to find out what music they like, or if it is too busy, play more female vocal/sensuous type music, that usually works. If they are tipping the dancers I'll make a big fuss over them, unless they seem embarassed by it (most enjoy this if you do it right).
I think that the dancers generally (but not always--a few I know don't like it) can relax more and actually enjoy themselves and be more genuinely erotic when dancing for a woman, even if they are not bisexual, because they don't have to worry so much about getting groped, etc (although I HAVE seen this from women).
The best way to approach a couple is to just be relaxed and ask if you can join them for a drink. They will take it from there. Obviously you don't want to jump on the guy's lap and get his girl all pissed off, although I have also occasionally had a woman who enjoys seeing this. One couple would come in and the girl would regularly watch the guy get dances in VIP, but the vast majority of the time it is the other way around.
Djoser
I don't mind male-female couples going to GC's and having a stripper dance for them. It's part of the fantasy having a stripper get cuddly with another femme, as if part of a menage a trois. It's another thing to have female couple, lesbian/bisexual or not, going to clubs and have a dancer get close with them. There are girls-only clubs where they can get a female stripper to entertain them.
Thanks ladies. I am definitely looking forward to it (as is my wife). We are planning a big trip to Vegas where we know no one and this will allow her to be very uninhibited, and up for lots of yummy fun!! ;).
I sure wish you ladies were dancers in Vegas to take care of us, but maybe when we are in your town....
Dancing for couples can be really fun. Again, if the woman is uncomfortable, it will show and the dance will not be as good. I work in a low contact club and I have had an experience dancing for a women who tried to grope me LIKE A GUY WOULD and I explained to her that if the men see you doing this, they will assume it's okay for them to do it as well. She seemed to get mad, but she made me uncomfortable. For the most part, I thoroughly enjoy dancing for women.
I'm not sure what the agenda is if the man asks for the dance (does he want her to do it, or is she really into it?), so I feel more comfortable if the woman asks. Usually, the waitress can recommend someone who will give a good couples dance. Generally speaking, I prefer one-on-one dances. ;)
I sometimes feel odd about dancing for women only because I don't know what to do for them (of course I know what I would want if I got a dance from a girl but we're not allowed that kind of contact here) Women are pickier than men and much more critical. I mean not to bash guys but let's face it, guys are happy with breasts and ass and it doesn't take a lot more to make them act like giddy little boys...RIGHT? Usually the other girls here don't seem to ask the women too often if they want a dance. If I am feeling up to it, I will ask and usually get them because no one else has even botherd to ask. I figure, if they are in the club, they might very well want some entertainment too.
I HATE when women come into the club and then sit with disgusted looks and cut down the dancers. This happens far more than it should. As if they didn't realize this was a topless bar and there would be strippers. Every now and again I have to get snippy right back with these women and explain to them this is MY JOB and they are in MY BAR. I tell them " I dont come to the [gas station] you work at and give you grief.
Usually these women are just jealous and feel we are plotting for their men. To tell them plainly we could give a SHIT LESS about their men since I have a man of my own, they tend to calm the hell down...
:) Ok , done venting :)
I don't dance with other female dancers and I don't dance for couples. I'm a one on one type of girl and I don't like sharing the spotlight during a dance. I'm not good at sharing. He he!! Hasn't hurt my money what so ever.