Just wondered what the general response would be, and why.
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Just wondered what the general response would be, and why.
Couldn't access the poll so I won't answer.
Socks- I don't think males can start a pole on this site. But here's my answer.
NEVER.... not any more. I used to until I finally figured out that If you go into the club knowing that the ladies are there for your entertainment and nothing else, and you only spend what you can afford, you'll never leave a strip club feeling used.
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NEVER.... not any more. I used to until I finally figured out that If you go into the club knowing that the ladies are there for your entertainment and nothing else, and you only spend what you can afford, you'll never leave a strip club feeling used.
I agree once you get to that point it makes your experience much better. In the beginning I would feel used occasionally, but know I go just looking to enjoy that short time and I usually do.
Hmmm, I don't know if this is what you mean by 'used,' but sometimes I've left a club and felt hustled to the point of feeling 'burned.' Happened the other night- got a 3-song private for $50, ended up tipping $95 because she kept asking for more.....man, I am a sucker! It really sucks since I've gotten many dances from her and I always tipped generously, so she just kept asking for more and more $$ each time. I guess I finally learned my lesson, but it seems like a foolish way to try and get a long-term customer. Now my money will go elsewhere (at least I hope, she sure can talk me out of $$ fast).
-lestatdl1
lestat--I've had similar bad experiences. Some dancers will take good manners for weakness and whine until you "cave" and give them money. If you don't have the guts to tell her to just go away, then you are stuck with a problem that can only be solved by shelling out money. That is a dancer using you and taking advantage your good manners. In a few instances I've seen dancers tell a bouncer that the customer did not pay for all of the dances, when, in fact, she wanted a tip, didn't get it and sicced the bouncer on the customer--who then paid up and left. Do not ask this dancer for a dance ever again. Best to let her see you spend money on someone who is nicer. That'll fix her.
Thanks SuperDude, sounds like good advice.
It was actually my shortest SC visit ever! (about 25 minutes) I had planned on getting more dances from another girl but was too broke after her.
-lestatdl1
Have to agree with Chuck-never. I get up and leave before then.
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NEVER.... not any more. I used to until I finally figured out that If you go into the club knowing that the ladies are there for your entertainment and nothing else, and you only spend what you can afford, you'll never leave a strip club feeling used.
I couldn't agree more, you really need to take it for what it is, great entertainment, try to have fun with it, and don't expect more, you'll have a much better time once you do this.Quote:
I agree once you get to that point it makes your experience much better. In the beginning I would feel used occasionally, but know I go just looking to enjoy that short time and I usually do.
"Here's a place for dancers to talk about customers. Customers looking to talk about dancers check out http://www.stripclubjunkie.com " ~ Pryce
psssstttttt... hint, hint ;)
You're awesome, Richard Head. You're not some stomped-on, PW-ed stripper-ass-kisser but you're also not a bitter, misogynist stripper-hater, like some others. You are in perfect balance. A true gentlemen. :) :-*Quote:
I couldn't agree more, you really need to take it for what it is, great entertainment, try to have fun with it, and don't expect more, you'll have a much better time once you do this.
You gotta lighten up babe, :) I think this is an appropriate question on the pink site, it will give you ladies an insight into your customers and what they are thinking.Quote:
"Here's a place for dancers to talk about customers. Customers looking to talk about dancers check out http://www.stripclubjunkie.com " ~ Pryce
psssstttttt... hint, hint ;)
You've all got to know that there are a lot of vulnerable guys out there and if you lead them on, they will feel used and probably never return or if they do return, they will avoid the "users".
Now that I've answered the poll, I'll say about half the time. I do not wish to elaborate though, just that although I realize the dancers are in the club to make money and that's understandable, I've felt that on some clubs some dancers do not project themselves as enjoying their job. It wasn't that hard to tell, therefore I realized on those occasions I've been used, so to speak.
sure, i agree that it gives a good insight into customers and what they think, i just think it should be in the appropriate forum. there's not much going on in the blue site forum, and this is just the kind of question that the reason for that site's existence was intended - for customers to talk about dancers.Quote:
You gotta lighten up babe, I think this is an appropriate question on the pink site, it will give you ladies an insight into your customers and what they are thinking.
very good point. it definitely is something that dancers should be aware of. i just think it would be more appropriate for it to be on the appropriate board for the sake of orderliness. dancers can read the blue site just as easily as this one, and if they're smart, they would. i'm guessing that the forums were divided into specific sections to provide orderliness and less confusion, especially the more people post, so it just makes sense to follow those guidelines so moderators don't have to move posts later... after all, what's the point to having the blue site or even separate forum sections here if people just put a post anywhere?Quote:
You've all got to know that there are a lot of vulnerable guys out there and if you lead them on, they will feel used and probably never return or if they do return, they will avoid the "users".
incidently, the poll here isn't all that useful for dancers seeing as without voting, you can't see the results of the poll.
Your right, I wish more dancers would read and contribute to the blue site, but only a handfull do, after all customers are looking for imput from dancers. After all isn't that why we go to stripclubs, for input from dancers ;DQuote:
sure, i agree that it gives a good insight into customers and what they think, i just think it should be in the appropriate forum. there's not much going on in the blue site forum, and this is just the kind of question that the reason for that site's existence was intended - for customers to talk about dancers. dancers can read the blue site just as easily as this one, and if they're smart, they would.
I wish guys would stop starting threads on the pink site. But if a thread is started I guess it's fair game for anyone to post. I think that as long as threads are in somewhat good taste and posts are kept civil, why can't we all just get along :-*
The problem is that the blue site is SO dull compared to the pink site. The pink site is so much more active since it's where the dancers mingle therefore it's only evident that us clients mingle with them. I mean, it's like when we're at the club, we interact and chat with beautiful, intelligent exotic dancers!!! I personally think that the blue site should be shut down and the pink site reoriented so that it caters to both dancers AND clients
You have a good point Carlos. I like to be where the ladies are :D if I didn’t, I’d be going to SPORTS BARS ::)
There could just be a separate section on the pink site for customers. That wouldn't illuminate guys posting on the ladies threads but it would illuminate the need to go back and forth between sites and make it eaiser for the ladies to post their comments. Besides, many of the threads are repeated on both sites anyway. Sorry pryce, we are getting off topic:-[
It does seem that us guys are over here more with the ladies, maybe a joint effort would be better?
I think when a dancer works for a while and guys are coming into the club that are constantly looking for an angle to "score" or manipulate the dancer eventually the dancer will see her work as a "game". I really think this was started by many customers who do not value what the dancers are providing for them. At the end of the day some genuinely sweet customers have been taken advantage of by dancers who thought they were just playing the game.
I don't mean to come off the wrong way, but by asking the customer for a tip and then the customer * voluntarily * gives it, why would this be considered being used? I guess where I am coming from is that if I don't ask I definitely am not going to get the tip, but by asking for the tip, the worst thing that could happen is that the customer would say no (no worse off than not asking).
I have to tip out staff members every time I work, and they have no problem asking for the tip from me. I don't feel "used" by the dj or the bouncer or the waitress or the bartender or the Valet or the door girl or the house mom (the list goes on and on), and they certainly have no problem asking me for more money either. If I can't afford it I will simply say so. I don't have to say "I plan on tipping the bouncer a lot more because he helped me earn a lot tonight" I just simply say that is all I can tip today.
Hey Paris- I think sometimes it's not so 'voluntary', like in SuperDude's stories above. (refuse a tip, dancer lies to bouncer, customer now in deep doo-doo) I've never had that happen to me, fortunately...but I do feel guilty saying no, which sometimes makes me choose between feeling guilty for saying no, and paying an outrageous tip (like in my original post, I ended up tipping her 3 times and paying $145 for 3 songs). The 'feeling used' is a result of having to make one of those bad choices. That being said, I don't see anything wrong with asking a customer nicely for a tip, so long as it doesn't play out like my story or SuperDude's.
-lestatdl1
I would've sent that dancer packing after the first song, lestat! Unless you had "something else" besides the dance she sure made you feel used >:(.
I've had the experience of having one dancer tell me it was an extra $20.00 for fondling her breasts during a private dance, once I had my hands on them! Arggh, why didn't she tell me beforehand. By the way this occured at a club in Yauco, Puerto Rico.
There seems to be two separate interpretations of feeling used.
I interpret feeling used as, used emotionally. Such as when a lady says she’ll be back to talk to you after you spend a lot of money on laps and never returns or when she tells you there’s only two ahead of you so you wait, turn down other dancers and she never comes back. Things like that are all part of the strip club game.
The other issue posted about the amount of money for laps and tips I consider as being “ripped off” not used.
It's not a good idea to let the dancer tell you she'll be back or actually expect her to, since after all she has to tend to as many clients as possible in order to make money.