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I am engaged and the Fiance does not mind it. He knows he has a good thing- that I am willing to work hard to make the money I do, and that nobody is getting into my pants but him!! Honestly he is also somewhat of a horndog so he knows I wouldn't need to get it from somewhere else even if I wanted to :D And what a misconception about stripping anyway!!
I find that men who actually go to strip clubs usually have less problems with girls who dance- because they know what REALLY does and doesn't go on!
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My boyfriend is very supportive but I try not to tell him too much that would bother him like if someone has bought me perfume, or about regulars that I had great conversations with. I danced for a psychiatrist who spent an hour telling me about his ear wax problem the other night and this of course I told my boyfriend- we had a good laugh. The only time I ever had problems with boyfriends who wanted me to quit where with guys I had met at the club, you have to meet someone out of the scene. A lot of my friends have been disapointed by the image some of these guys project, only to be cheated on or realize that sports car was a rental, I really haven't seen this work for any dancer who was looking for something serious.
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my boyfriend doesnt mind what i do but he doesnt want to hear about it either. he knows i was dancing before i met him and its my choice to do it. he also would find a way to take care of the two of us if i wanted to quit. he knows dancing is a job and nothing more.
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He sounds like a good one. There's a fine line in being honest and hurting the one you love with too many details about clients things that mean nothing, save it for your girlfriends.
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like it or love it he will have to live with it. My husband (or lack there of) is insecure. He is one of those guys who dates a stripper uses her money then gets upset when she is with customers supplying that money, at least that was his situation before I met him and something ID idn't know til after we got married. So well whatever. I am trying to get back into dancing to pay for a divorce so I could care less what he thinks. If he magically turns into a caring supportive non leech kind of guy I will be happy to give you the "he loves me he supports me" answer, but for now I am just hoping he gets distracted with his own work and doesn't monitor my income to closely(since I will be socking a good amount away eahc night)
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My boyfriend is really supportive about my starting dancing. =)
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My husband loves that I stip-it has expecially spiced up our love life! }:D
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I try to be very supportive to my wife in regards to dancing. Just like I would any other career choice. When she started we went together to buy outfits shoes etc. Ive been to her club once to watch and found it rather erotic. When she gets home she tells me all the good bad and ugly of things and we talk about it. I am constantly researching this board and a couple of other sights and printing things up I think would be useful to her. I am completely secure in our relationship. I have no worries of her straying or anything else like that. My major problem is the way men treat the girls sometimes. But I keep that to myself. Hey it comes with the territory (within means). You know yer always gonna have some jerk saying this or acting like that. But for some reason I do find myself needing a little more attention from her here and there on her off day's. I dont know why. Maybe the "fragile male ego"??? But its not like Im some kind of egomaniac either. But at the same time that has made our time spent together even more special on her days off. So far its been an interesting and fun, sexy experience...... Just my 2 cents.
Tim
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Well, since I met my boyfriend, I haven't danced, I've taken some time off, we've discussed me going back to dancing once i lose some weght.
First, he said he'd be okay with it, then he changed his mind
I finally brought it up again, i guess he thought i wasn't being serious, and was being rude about it.
I've finally made him realize that I would never do any extras and that i would do it anyways even if he has a problem with it, so now, he's okay with it.
If your man loves you, then he should support any decision that you make!
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Hey, My gf has been dancing for a couple years now and it's unfortunate that most guys always ask me the same thing..."Aren't you worried she's fooling around". It really upsets me that alot of people put dancers and hookers in the same category. I have met alot of her co-workers and they are all pretty cool and like any job, the're are always the bad girls. After drunk rude guys hitting on my girl all night she is happy to be home at the end of the night! I can understand some men being insecure but if your relationship is strong, it shouldn't be a problem.
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. He thinks if I'm going to cheat, I will, and where I work doesn't make a difference.
Wow, you have a really smart guy in your corner. By all means, treat this one well. They are hard to come by.
I know, because I found a great one too.
My man is extremely supportive and even comes to visit me at the club on Friday nights to pick me up for the weekend. Often, I'm doing dances because it's busy. The cutest thing he said to me once was, "I'm happy when I walk in and see you squirming away back there because I know you're making money.". He doesn't hog my time or get angry when I need to hustle. If it's slow, he buys me a beer and we hang out with some of the other dancers together and have fun.
I traveled a long, hard road and paid my dues to find a decent man. Others in the past have not been so understanding.
I had danced for a few weeks last year, and quit for a while until around Thanksgiving 2005. Before that, I was working a shitty job doing telephone movie surveys and making horrible money. I would cry and worry about my bills all the time, but my ex was completely insecure and couldn't handle me dancing or being a dominatrix, so I ended up quitting both for a while and just working "straight jobs".
One day I broke down with the current guy and explained to him that being a domme and a dancer is what I would like to do, but I didn't want to upset him. I was used to insecure and dysfunctional immature BOYS.
And he knew the whole conversation was coming, because he could tell I hated the normal 9 - 5 and it was really making me depressed. He said, "By all means, do what you have to do to make money. I really don't care as long as you don't sleep with anyone else.".
So I realize that I have someone who is not only secure that I will come home to him only, but I'm happier too because I don't feel like I'm forced to do something I hate in order to simultaneously make a living and placate insecure emotions. The ex totally wasn't worth it, but I did what I had to do at the time to avoid confrontation. I should have broke up with him when he gave me a hard time about it, but hindsight is 20/20.
I learned a good lesson in all of it and I'm glad I held out for someone wonderful.
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First, it always helps to understand I knew my husband since high school, and I have been dancing almost that long, so he is definitely used to the idea of it. As long as he has known me, I've never been in the habit of going home with customers, so that is not really an issue for him.
Now picture a guy in a paramedic uniform MOONWALKING (badly, mind you) across a garage full of ambulances.
Co-worker: Hey, O'Reilly, why are YOU in such a good mood today??
Husband: Man, my wife had an AWESOME night last night. She made more than you amke in two weeks!
Co-worker: Yeah, that's more than YOU make in two weeks, too.
Husband: Yeah, and she brings it home to ME!
Granted, his bragging is a little over the top, and he does not reallypimp me out and spend all my money. But the $$ I make dancing is about twice as much as I made teaching, and with a whole lot less stress. OUr lives are much better because I dance, and he understands that.
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My boyfriend thinks it's a turn on, especially because I think of him when I am giving lapdances.
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My boyfriend went to one of the clubs I am thinking of dancing at about a month ago with some mates. His friend was teasing one of the strippers and making her "work for her money" (holding out the tipping dollar then pulling it away and making her do more...) Apparently she went to quite an extreme for that tipping dollar and my bf thought it was disgusting and pathetic. He thinks I will end up like that.
I told him I would never compromise myself and do anything I didn't want to for a stupid dollar but all he said was "yes you would, you have to otherwise you won't make any money."
He's being a jerk I think, but I guess he's just insecure.
He hated the idea of me lingerie waitressing, but got over it after a few shifts. Hopefully the same will happen with dancing. If not, I dunno. I don't want to lose him over it (which he suggested might happen, even though we've been together for 4 years) so I guess I will just have to rethink the whole thing if it gets to that...
Oh well, we'll see what happens
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My husband has no issues with it. He knows I come home to him every night ;D
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...It really upsets me that alot of people put dancers and hookers in the same category...
Some are in the same category, unfortunately for the business--and women who want to strip without being regarded as or treated like hookers.
One such woman was recently praised highly, right here on SW, for having the tremendous courage to admit that she blows guys for the price of lapdances.
We have hookers working in my club, some of whom are my friends, even though I might not agree with what they are doing--not from any legal or moral objection, but rather because I see how much harder it makes it for the clean dancers to make any money.
Certainly it should be said that the higher the contact level, the more difficult it will be for the average man to accept what his wife or girlfriend is doing. Grinding lapdances with guys permitted to touch anywhere but the kitty--as is the norm around her--would be much harder to deal with than stagework and airdances.