F*** that was me last night...TWICE mind you! >:(
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I've always had the mindset of 'hustle men who tip well, if they dont tip then they arent worth asking' BUT my VIP customer last weekend put it in perspective - he said he doesnt want to waste his money on passing out one and two dollar bills, he wants to spend his money on quality time with the right girl. Well if I was walking into a club with plenty of money and the intention to spend it all, I might think the same way too.
In an ideal world, I would definitely agree with the OP that going up to every guy in the club is the most effective way to make money; however, in my situation, I have to go about things differently. I'm very shy and social interactions drain me. If I forced myself to talk to every single customer all the time, I'd end up hiding in the champagne room in full meltdown mode before the day was over with. I get tired of having to kiss everyone's ass and pretend how everything is all perfect by being super smiley and friendly. I have to conserve my energy by picking men I think already like me (using eye contact as my indicator). If I don't see anyone I like, I will take a quick break at my locker, and then go and stand at the edge of the bar and make myself available looking if someone wants to approach me. Many of my customers approach me first. Its much easier for me than facing the frequent "no's" from using the old "Wanna dance?" routine around the room.
I got a book of motivation from my mother in law and my favorite one I say over n overin my head "every no is that much closer to a yes" it keeps me going
This is such a motivational post, THANK YOU! I have worked in a club for a year and a half, and I still have trouble going up to people. (I think it carries over from rotten self-esteem just a few years back)
Since reading this post, and going up to people, smiling, etc. my earnings have increased enough that I feel comfortable. Seriously, cannot thank you enough :)
I will just say that ignoring a customer because of his looks or "wierdness" is bad unless he was rude to you in the past. The one you ignore could be the biggest spender there.
Every time I talk to a customers, the majority of them have come to tip me on stage. I think I'm good with convo, I just have to idea how to ask them for private dances and lap dances. The ones I've had so far (been dancing a little over a month now) - customers have asked me from either seeing me on stage or conversation. I have done 1 lap dance, and 3 privates. Mind you, I have only asked 1 or 2 customers since I started. I just need help on how to ask without being to forward!!!
I think it depends on the overall supply and demand of whats going on in the club at that time.
If it's busy, guys are buying, and there are more customers than dancers...then by all means...just start asking.
If the club is slow (like most are nowadays...this thread is REALLY old) you are going to have to do as Lucia Wilde suggested.
Make sure you approach everyone and make them all feel welcome. It's been dead in my club last few weeks but I've had a few guys give me their freebie dance token and/or cash tips on their way out, when actually I was hating them cos they were all the 'just here for a drink' types! Worth not getting mad over they might surprise you.
(tips are super rare where i am in the uk so this is always a very welcome surprise lol)