How can I get paid for talking instead of dancing?
There are a lot of guys who just want to talk to me without buying any dances. I don't mind talking to a guy in lieu of doing a lap dance, but I do need to get paid for my time.
Is there a polite way to say this to a customer?
P.S. -- At this point I try not to spend more than 15 minutes with the same guy unless he buys a dance.
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You should generally ask about lapdances after 2 or 3 songs at most - that is plenty of time for the guy to know if he wants to dance with you or not. If he says no, just excuse yourself. If he says he's enjoying talking with you, just smile and tell him you're having a good time with him but you still have to make money and you'd be glad to hang out with him instead of working the floor if he could tip you for your time. Something along those lines. If they want you to hang around and are willing to pay they will get the hint and do so. If they are just not interested in spending money, they will let you know and you can move on.
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Be very friendly, but try cutting the talk time down to maybe 7 minutes. That may be plenty of time for some guys to know if they want you to dance for them. ALWAYS come back to them later just to see if they do want more than your great conversation skills.
PS Kinda push the issue a little. Let them know you have others who will be waiting on you. Even if you have to go to the ladies room for a few minutes and walk back out. It works, you are outa site, and it makes some guys wonder where you went. Sparks the interest in some guys. Flirt, give a "tease test" by moving the hips slightly and smiling.
Good luck. ;)
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do u mean on the floor or in the v.i.p. room
i usually don't waste too much time on the floor...either they want to see me or they don't...in the v.i.p. i have never asked for money to talk.......
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I am talking about working the floor in an attempt to get customers into the VIP room.
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Just work it into the conversation. Learn to listen for little cues like when he asks 'what's going on back there' or 'why are those people going upstairs' or 'where are all the girls'. That is a perfect opportunity to answer with something like 'all the guys back there are with hot sexy girls getting sweaty/naughty/whatever' or 'most of the girls are off in the VIP being naughty'. Say it with a wink and a sly grin, and he will practically beg you for more - and you've practically got him right there, just keep the schpiel going and reel em in.
Or if he doesn't give you any lead, as you're chatting, comment about a song or dancer or move you like, then wink at him, squeeze his knee and tell him you'd like to take him back and show him some of your own naughty/hot/sexy moves. Sometimes I will sit and chat a few minutes, joke around a little, then poke him teasingly or squeeze his knee and just straight out ask him 'when do I get to take you upstairs and play naughty with you' or 'so are you gonna come be my boyfriend for the night' - always in a teasing flirty playful way. I have an extremely high success rate with these tactics.
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if he says he just wants to talk,tell him your time is money and tell him if he wants to talk it'll be 10 bucks a song or 200 an hour.
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What works for me is saying, "It has been GREAT talking with you, and I really don't wanna leave you now, but I need to make money..." If they're really there to spend money and if they have been enjoying your conversation, 9 times out of 10 they will take this hint and take it from there...
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Actually 5 min on Fridays and Thursdays assuming your club is busy.
Reason: Lost opportunity time. If the guy you're with doesn;'t buy a dance... another guy in a busy club time will.
Monday through Wednesday maybe 10 minutes. Obviously if nobody is around you can talk as long as you want to. On a non busy night its better for your image to be at a table talking with a customer than sitting at the bar with the other dancers.
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I have found that thinking to myself. Give me 20, or 50 or whatever works!
It's like you project vibes to the guy and your body language does a lot of the work for you. W/ some guys once the convo gets flowing I'll ask if they would like to chit chat for a while and have some drinks and just tip me while we talk. That way I still get my $$...a good portion of them will and the few that don't (I generally can already sense that they aren't willing to spend the cash) usually aren't worth the effort for me.
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There is only one sure way to get paid for talking rather than dancing...
Become a psychotherapist ;)
And most dancers here would make pretty good ones, too.
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Most shrinks just listen while the patient talks. Wanna get paid for talking....customer service? ATT phone operator?
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As I've said before my club is pretty empty and I don't think any of the girls charge for chit chat but I want to make money. I will sit with the same customer for up to a half an hour, sill I look like a bitch if I charge and no other girls are, or will I start a trend and make us all more money? I can't ask guys to but me drinks cause I'm only 19, we are non alcoholic bar, and dancers get free beverages...how can I be compensated without seeming greedy?
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Why don't you use a line like "I'm having such a wonderful time with you, but why don't we make this a show and tell type of conversation. I'll do a little show for you while you tell me what's on your mind." So that he won't think that your just wasting your time listening to him and you can still make your money.
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If you are a great conversationalist use it to your advantage. If they want you to stay and chat a great line to use is "my time is very valuable and I do have to get back to work". It sounds so much like less of a hustle than "I need to go make some money"or 'TIME IS MONEY"type of ending to a conversation.
A customer that I met that did sales training advised that I use this approch instaed. I take constructive critalism and it has made me money 2 out of 5 times used.