nude in front of family member...
Hi,
I'm wondering whether anyone has had male family members who patronize their clubs and, if so, how they responded. I'm a 39-year-old stripper, and am told that I am still extremely good looking. I think I look about 29 or 30.
Several years ago, I kicked my now 21-year-old son out of the house--because of his drug use--sort of a tough love situation. We have not spoken since--it is a difficult situation. The current problem is that he, since his 21st birthday, has become a fairly regular patron of the club where I work. It is the only club for many miles around, so I can see why he patronizes it. He gives me a respectful distance when he visits the club--does not try to tip or get too close (he does tip other dancers), but it is still rather embarrassing being nude in front of my own son.
Anyone else have similar situations? How did you respond or deal with it? I don't want to make a scene or anything but just want to make sure that he respects a certain distance between us.
Thanks,
Alana
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He shouldn't be in there knowing you're working there. That is very strange. I know it's a different situation with your strained relationship, but you are still his mother! I would tell him not to come in there anymore, and if necessary, get the doormen/management to refuse to let him in when you're there.
Of course you could also take the opportunity to get in contact with him and try to mend the relationship - outside the club.
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Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62556#msg62556 date=1073946617
He shouldn't be in there knowing you're working there. That is very strange. I know it's a different situation with your strained relationship, but you are still his mother! I would tell him not to come in there anymore, and if necessary, get the doormen/management to refuse to let him in when you're there.
Of course you could also take the opportunity to get in contact with him and try to mend the relationship - outside the club.
Thanks, Bridgette. It IS strange. I think the way it came about--though I'm not sure because I haven't talked with him for awhile--is that he came in with his buddies and they don't know that I'm his mom. He doesn't want to admit that to them, and since they haven't ever seen me in any other setting, of course they would not know. Asking him to leave would seriously embarrass him in front of his buddies when I don't know that he has really done anything wrong.
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That's a consequence of your strained relationship with your son. In other circunstances it wouldn't mind as much, especially if nudity was natural inside the house.
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Originally Posted by CarlosPR link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62566#msg62566 date=1073950862
That's a consequence of your strained relationship with your son. In other circunstances it wouldn't mind as much, especially if nudity was natural inside the house.
Yes, this is true...although nudity was not common growing up and I didn't become a stripper until after he left home--quite late in life to become a stripper! I didn't start until the web came along and allowed me to pose nude and I became more comfortable with my own nudity--then the next step was to give stripping a try. I'm sure it is the first time my son has seen my breasts or pubic hair since he was an infant--so it would be somewhat uncomfortable either way.
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I think its pretty pervy that he would go to your club knowing that he will see you naked regardless of the state of your relationship. If yours is the only club in the area, he should go on the days youre not working.
Ponder your true feelings about it...make sure you arent subconsciously getting a thrill out of him being there (no offense intended but that shit does happen). Assuming you are in fact uncomfortable then follow Bridgettes advise and have him banned from entering when you are working. I'm sure the club management will back you up.
FBR
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Originally Posted by FBR link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62569#msg62569 date=1073952031
I think its pretty pervy that he would go to your club knowing that he will see you naked regardless of the state of your relationship. If yours is the only club in the area, he should go on the days youre not working.
Ponder your true feelings about it...make sure you arent subconsciously getting a thrill out of him being there (no offense intended but that shit does happen). Assuming you are in fact uncomfortable then follow Bridgettes advise and have him banned from entering when you are working. I'm sure the club management will back you up.
FBR
I think it is very pervy, but I do get some kind of a thrill from it--it is just a very cheap, slutty kind of thrill...
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(sniff sniff) Fee Fi Fo Fum, Tis a troll I smell, having some fun!
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Deogol LOL your right LOL and I fell for it. Shame on me
FBR
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Originally Posted by Alana39 link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62573#msg62573 date=1073953663
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Originally Posted by FBR link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62569#msg62569 date=1073952031
I think its pretty pervy that he would go to your club knowing that he will see you naked regardless of the state of your relationship. If yours is the only club in the area, he should go on the days youre not working.
Ponder your true feelings about it...make sure you arent subconsciously getting a thrill out of him being there (no offense intended but that shit does happen). Assuming you are in fact uncomfortable then follow Bridgettes advise and have him banned from entering when you are working. I'm sure the club management will back you up.
FBR
I think it is very pervy, but I do get some kind of a thrill from it--it is just a very cheap, slutty kind of thrill...
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Alrighty then, maybe you could offer him some extras without a condom and get yourself the son/grandson you never had. What a greek tragedy that would be!
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Ok I remembered the thread from the other 'lady' saying her son came in to watch her, but gave it the benefit of the doubt -- until I came back here and read the comment about the 'cheap slutty thrill'. :troll:
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LOL Disgusting.. I read the other thread before this one. These people need to stay under their bridges. ugh
::)
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I almost responded to this thread first (no one had yet) but I figured she was a troll. If you get a slutty cheap thrill, then why are you bitching about him coming into the club and why are you asking for advice? i am sorry to sound hostile, but that shit is just sick, and you need to get a life, lady.
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:troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll:
Who be trampin' on my bridge.....
:troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll: :troll:
Is that the best they can do? If you have nothing better to do, at least hone your craft. ;)
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Originally Posted by Alana39 link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62531#msg62531 date=1073942685
Several years ago, I kicked my now 21-year-old son out of the house--because of his drug use--sort of a tough love situation. We have not spoken since--it is a difficult situation. The current problem is that he, since his 21st birthday, has become a fairly regular patron of the club where I work. It is the only club for many miles around, so I can see why he patronizes it. He gives me a respectful distance when he visits the club--does not try to tip or get too close (he does tip other dancers), but it is still rather embarrassing being nude in front of my own son.
Anyone else have similar situations? How did you respond or deal with it? I don't want to make a scene or anything but just want to make sure that he respects a certain distance between us.
Thanks,
Alana
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Originally Posted by Diane38 link=board=1;threadid=604;start=msg9295#msg9295 date=1062206752
Hi,
I'm 38 years old and work as an exotic dancer in the New York area. The problem that I'm having is that my 21-year-old son comes and watches me perform. He is totally respectful but it just seems so weird having him watch me and spreading my legs in front of him. I've talked to him about it, but he says he is an adult and can do as he pleases. The bouncers say they can't do anything as long as he abides by the rules.
Anyone else dealt with family members or friends who came and watched their performances and you found it uncomfortable? How did you deal with it?
Diane
Hmm, almost sounds like our :troll: just took the original vile post and just changed a few details. Perhaps an IP address check might be in order. Somehow much like "Diane", I don't think we'll be hearing much more from "Alana".
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Originally Posted by Alana39 link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62573#msg62573 date=1073953663
I think it is very pervy, but I do get some kind of a thrill from it--it is just a very cheap, slutty kind of thrill...
Pathetic. People like this should be banned from the internet.
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I think it is very pervy, but I do get some kind of a thrill from it--it is just a very cheap, slutty kind of thrill...
Dear Trollish person,
If you are for real, then you definitely have some issues. Otherwise, please do a search for "incest" online. I am sure that you will find some sort of forum or website that is much more to your liking than this one. I, personally, think that stating that you get a cheap, slutty thrill from spreading your legs for you son is too twisted. That is not just pervy, that is beyond deviant. I'm usually really nice when posting here, but this disgusts me.
Ferrari
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im sorry but i cant keep from thinking:
"son do my tits look saggy?"
"son do i have to much celulite on my ass?"
"son which outfit should i wear tonight?"
eeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!
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all i can say is freakin sick! If i was ever in that situation i would get him banned from the club asap! and have a serious freakin chat with him
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Jerry Springer has to get material somewhere.
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Originally Posted by montythegeek link=board=1;threadid=5772;start=msg62807#msg62807 date=1074049387
Jerry Springer has to get material somewhere.
:laughing: Good one! :laughing:
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Monty. LMAO!
Apparently our troll is gone.....IMAGINE that!