a girl at work said something that hurt me
I was at work and I was talking to two girls that work with me and we were talking about boobs. Mine are real and they have implants. I was saying that how implants have a slight advantage in that they are kind of supported and look good under clothes. But I really do not think one is better then the other. I love my boobs and to me they are perfect. One of the women asked why I didn't get a boob job. I was kinda shocked but played it off like I wasn't hurt but I kind of was. MY breasts are 36C and like most boobs that size are not as supported like implants but by no means saggy. She said because I've been dancing a year and a half there is no reason I should not have implants. I know alot of women in this industry choose to have breast implants and that is fine for them but I never really wanted them. All of a sudden I feel so ugly and self concious. Why do I feel so pressured to conform to the norm? I know this women was not trying to hurt me but then she started taking my boob and telling me how great the implants would make me look. I felt like my shape and size was always beautiful but after this comment I feel like crying when I look at them. I feel like they are not as perfect now. How can I go from loving them to feeling so insecure about them? I just really don't know how to express my feelings right now. I'm so confused and hurt. I feel like girls look at me with disgust and think my breasts are ugly. I do not think a human body part should be looked at this way. I just feel so depressed. I really do not want a boob job. But now I feel so much pressure to conform and be like everyone eles. God I feel so sad right now. :(
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Maybe implants were good for them. Women get them for a variety of reasons. And maybe she was pleased with the results and wanted to share that joy with you.
Or, maybe she is very insecure and it bothers her to see a woman secure with her body. Perhaps she wanted to bring you down with her (misery loves company).
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maybe she is jealous yours look good and are real, and she needed to put a bag of shit in her breasts to try to make them look like yours look.
Do NOT let her negative words bring you down, keep it natural, keep it real....
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Don't take it that seriously !
Keep being you and making your money..
Everyone has a mouth, the sad thing is that they don't come with
a user's manual !
Farrah
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Lilac you look so pretty in your pic. Don't let her make you feel bad. She is probably jealous for some reason. Maybe you don't need implants, and she did. She is trying to break your confidence. Pay her no mind. If you do, then she has won. I don't have implants either, and I have a B cup. I wish mine were a C! :)
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See, I don't think she was necessarily being malicious or jealous. She might have thought you could really benefit from implants...and maybe you could. But the ultimate decision is yours, of course.
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Hey hun
I would understand why you would feel a bit upset but take it with a grain of salt. I bet she didnt even mean it in a wrong way. :(
I have natural c's (small C) and I dont want conform because most of the girls have implants at my job, and this is something that benefits me. Us natty's make good money from that eheheh
Dont stress it, I am sure they are beautiful!!!! ( you are so pretty!!!!)
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Saggy, perky, whatever. I have tiny titties, and do not consider a boob job. I even had my exes friend tell me my ex said I had breast cancer and had to get my boobs cut off. What the hell. So what if my tits are small, so what if yours aren't perfect, at least we're not stuck with little dicks and no brains like my ex and his friend.
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Nothing's wrong with small breasts. Plenty of women have small breasts and are still quite pretty. Look at Gwyneth Paltrow.
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It sounds to me as if you were saying that implants held advantages that naturals do not and that she was mimicking your statement. In other words, she was just agreeing with you. While I wasn't present to hear the whole conversation and have no idea what this other girl is like, I would take it with a grain of salt and trust that she had good intentions. It doesn't sound like she was trying to be spiteful. In fact, it sounds a lot like she thought you were wanting implants but hadn't the courage to get them, and she was then trying to add onto your positive comments by further encouraging you. But that would be my take on just what you posted.
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Hey, I know what you mean, I've dealt with it a lot;"so, when are you getting implants" is my fav. I'm a small B and slight all over and I think mine are great, but sometimes I feel inadequate too. For me, it's overexposure at work- when I take time off the pressure to get implants goes away and I'm totally fine, but when I work too much I find myself thinking about it a lot more. It's SO common in our industry, but by no means necessary! If you've been happy to date then rock on! Small insecurities are normal here and there. Anyways, if you got them, people would be telling you you looked better before, and you'd feel bad about that, you can't really win. Don't focus on the other girls, focus on the fact that the guys love your natural boobies!
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From a male perspective, just as many guys like small, natural as big and fake. The older stereotype of the toothpick with big boobs isn't the only way to make money. Personally, I happen to prefer smaller, natural breasts.
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Relax, have fun, earn lots of $$$.
(I'll take a few dances now please... :-))
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i agree fake breasts look good under clothing, but imo most people get them too big. if you are a 36c then you might look silly with more, unless they took some out first then put the implants in. but then you would be left with the same thing, just more expensive. only recently have i even seen girls with implants that had breasts before the surgery. before that i had only seen people with previous AA, or A's getting it done. You said you liked your breasts. keep it that way. just because she wasnt happy with her natural ones, dosnt mean you have to be like that too. besides if every girl in your club has fake ones, then you have an advantage as being the au natural one. some guys like that. natural are softer and bounce better. sure fake are definatly perkier and rounder. but you already have C's! anyway i have DD's and would love to be a C. if you want i can give you websites with women complaining about their big breasts. :) but i think i have rambled enough for now... just dont let others comments get you down!
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Geez...that really sucks! But, from what I read, it sounds more like she thought that maybe you were "considering" getting implants? She's probably one of those girls that ASSUMES that since she didn't like her natural boobs, but loves her fakes, then everyone else must feel the same way!!
I know how you feel...sometimes these girls just run off at the mouth without knowing what they want to really say. If they ask you again why you never got implants, then by all means just say, "I love the way that my natural boobs look and feel. I don't feel that I need to change anything." And don't fall into the trap that you will make more money. There are some girls that make more money after implants, but not BECAUSE they got implants, but because the implants gave them a confidence that they didn't have before. Men pay for confidence...not necessarily "big boobs".
Hope you are feeling better. You are beautiful!
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OMG - who cares what some bitch at work says. If you are happy who cares . Also that means your implants look natural which is more of a turn on then fake looking ones. Girls at work can be cruel for what ever reason. Be strong and blow them off - never take a coworkers comments seriously in my experience they are all out to get you.
keep your head up hun.
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hey lilac!
I have a like 30B myself and never ever would consider a bood job, especially not if some other jalous girl from the club wants to impress with her "new arrangement".
Indeed, you look so nice on your pic. as cookie said, go out there, have fun un go for the $
Anyone has the right to get a boob job if she wants and feels good about it but to give someone hard feelings about not getting one is saddening me.
The pressure is high, i know that... everywhere we get to see that like only big boobs are beautifu and men don't like small breasts!this is bullsh... thanks to you guys who wrote that this is not so :)
Don't let her words get so into your mind. this is you and and your body, be happy about it, as you where before :)
and dance!
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Sweetheart, in this kind of job you're too exposed, and you won't get everybody to like you, just because everybody likes something different and everybody has a different idea of what's beautiful. I've got implants (34C) and I heard SO MANY different opinions about them. Why did you get them so small? You have big boobs! I hate implants! OH! They look so natural! EVERYTHING!
The same about my butt, my waist, my stomach, my hair, my clothes, anything. As I said in the beginning, we're too exposed. And everybody it's gonna have an opinion about you and the way you look.
Remeber one thing: nobody can get into your skin and make you feel one way or the other, that's your choice. Do whatever makes YOU feel right about yourself, and F**K the rest!!!
Good luck
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I have heard too many comments from various customers who said they have liked the girls they used to be regulars for when they had their real boobs, regardless of size. Personally tho, if you're getting them done to a reasonable size for your frame for your personal self image or b/c you had surgery and want to feel "even" like my mom, I'm ALLL for it. However, if you get it solely for the money, such as one coworker who's slightly petite and is now nothing if not "top heavy", I think you lose as much money from those customers who want real boobs, and you gain from guys who want big boob regardless of origin.
But, as it has been said, if YOU don't want to get them done, DON'T. Don't let anything some immature, insecure girl said get to you. Natural is just fine.
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lilac-
I have to inject a male perspective, as well as my own personal feelings into this topic as I have a somewhat different outlook on this whole thing.
First, the facts. If you poll men- be it internet, college guys, stripclub patrons, magazine subscribers.. any selection or sampling of men, the overwhelming majority (usually 80%+) will always profess to preferring natural breasts, no matter how big, small, firm or saggy they may be over implants/augmentation. You can do such a poll here or blue site, or take it to completely unrelated sites (health, fitness, collectors.. anything) and see the same trend.
I happen to be in that collective- I know what both look like, I know what both feel like. I have a preference visually and physically towards natural breasts... even in cases where a woman's bra may fit better backwards or when she takes her bra off and unusual imagery of juggling enters the mind.
Another fact- many men are generally drawn towards the women with implants or breast aug. surgery enhancements. The implant or augmented women in stripclubs, bars, dance clubs or "on the prowl" are overwhelmingly scooped up and quite popular... seemingly going against the results of polls by men concerning their preference. People are too quick to discount this disparity to get to the root of the issue. What I find really unusual is that people just figure men must all be liars or somehow deluded, when assuredly- this isn't the case.
Now the observations-
I've been lucky enough to know a few women pre and post implants. And overlooking the painful, disheartening, emotionally taxing recovery, as well as the notably lesser (male) desirable physical and visual change in the end, the result was still substantially favorable. It's almost like two different women before and after.
The homebody that maybe went out once or twice every three months is now going out almost weekly. Trips to the gym are more frequent and with more zest. Vacations usually to Vegas or Yosemite transform to Cancun, the Carribean or Jamaica. Conversation participation went off-scale as well as a higher need/desire to flirt. Fashion tastes totally changed. Even book choice for bedside reading was modified wildly. Almost a total transformation. It didn't happen overnight- it happened progressively over the course of several months to a year.
You'll notice women that naturally have a zest/vigor for life similar to all of the above enjoy the similar success as women with breast enhancements- it's just their motivational source came from someplace else. And although implants don't always assure such transformations, in many cases they do have a sizeable impact on a woman's confidence, self-image, ego, lifestyle, activities, and sexuality. It doesn't take rocket science to see that between the before->after, which of the two men would find more appealing and be naturally drawn towards. A blind man with no arms/hands would likely prefer the post-enhancement woman as well.
I'm all for anything that helps a woman achieve a more rewarding, enrichened life because the end result is someone more spiritually and emotionally appealing... even if it comes at the cost of possibly being slightly less visually or physically appealing. Not that implants are unappealing- they are just different, and in most cases a little less appealing than natural breasts. The positive impacts usually far outweigh the physical change. For some women, this kind of change can only come in the form of getting breast enhancement. Others are able to find the motivational source within for similar results.
Lilac- your co-workers are simply doing what my female friends with implants do constantly, which is try to share the improvement they have experienced and pointing it truly towards what they believe to be the source. They aren't meaning to make you feel self-conscious of your appearance or physical beauty, they are simply in an elated state of having discovered a more fulfilling and happy life and championing this to anyone they come in contact with. They likely mean well, they just simply are trying to express something wonderful from their perspective, while losing a bit of sensitivity of the negative it may cause.
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That does it! I'm getting implants!!!! :boobies:
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I'm like you- I always liked my 36c boobs. Every time I even consider getting implants, I look around at all the deformed, bad boob jobs and think what a waste of money it'd be considering I already like mine. Also, some of my friends have had them and many have had to get them redone because they started to sag or decided to go any larger; the $5,000 for a good boob job then goes to an additional $3,000 +. My advise, stay natural; I'm told daily to keep mine real and often tipped extra since I am one of a select few with natural in my club.
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Hey honey I like natural women so don't worry about it! Like Ryan posted, keep it natural and real :puckerup: