Guys - Problems getting dates because you work at a SC?
Here’s a question for you male strip club employees – Security, DJs, Managers, Bar Staff, Maintenance, etc. Male dancers, please feel free to share your comments as well.
Have you ever had difficulty trying to get a date with a woman outside the SC industry (or maintain a healthy relationship with a current S/O) because you worked at a strip club?
Relationships between SC dancers/employees are tricky at best (though I have seen a few that worked out OK), so it seems that dating outside the industry would be a better bet in general. I’ve read several posts here from the ladies that seem to support that theory.
A while back, I had a sour experience with this. I was working on developing a relationship with a lady I’d met at one of my usual hangouts (not a strip club, mind you). All was going fairly well until the topic came up of where I worked. Honesty being the best policy, I told her I was the security manager at a local club. I figured she would have found out anyway if I’d lied to her about it, and besides, that isn’t my style. Her response: “Why don’t you go fuck one of those skanky whores you work with?” Haven’t heard from her since, and just as well. Other ladies I’ve met recently have had similar attitudes.
Kinda sucks, huh?
Anybody else have any similar experiences along these lines? Ladies, feel free to comment if you like.
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Of course, Dave, you are speaking to an audience that is made u[ mostly of dancers, strip club employees like yourself, and those of us who visit clubs often.
The best this male can tell you is that this lady obviously does not know anything about the stripping business, and doesn't want to learn.
I don't know what kind of woman hangs out where you do, but if this is happening more often than not I would change my pickup spot.
and yeah,,,,,it kinda sucks.
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My ex told me about a female roommate he had that would go on and on about strippers were whores and sluts and how could anyone date them..etc. What was funny is my ex said she was going out getting laid by different men every week!
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I have discovered that society in general views ANYONE who works in the sex industry as a whore or a bad person in general.
I don't have a problem getting dates(prolly cuz I'm married and can't really do too much dating)but I have found that people usually turn their noses up when they find out I dj at a sc...
I say SCREW EM!
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If these women are that uninformed and that close-minded, it wouldn't work out anyway, considering that you are an open-minded guy. It does take time to find someone when you are as open-minded as we are in this industry. But I agree with Blade, if they want to think those nasty things about me, then SCREW 'EM. They don't know what the h*** they're talking about, and therefore, I wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway. Keep looking, there are women out there for you. They're just not as plentiful.
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Ok but wasn't there a thread here a while ago that asked if you would want your signifigant other going to strip clubs alone and getting lap dances? Like 90% of us said ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! I agree it is much harder to find a date now that I am a dancer. But honestly I don't blame people either. It's not really that everyone is closed minded either. I think in a lot of ways a guy just don't want everyone else seeing what should only be seen by him. I know a few male strippers and even though I think they are awesome people and very attractive, I would never want to date one simply because I don't like to share. This is why I have been single for the entire time I have been dancing. I personally don't think it is right to ask a guy to share me with others.
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I'd date someone that works in a strip-club for sure! First of all, it shows you right off the bat that they are open-minded and are respectful of people with "alternate" lifestyles. Also, you can be pretty damn sure that they are extremely respectful of women (even though most people would assume the opposite). What makes me think this? Simple. They work with young, beautiful, naked women and don't try to take advantage of them and treat them like human beings (if they didn't, HOPEFULLY they'd be out of a job, right?).
Which brings up a funny point: I have quite the little crush on my local SC's bouncer! Hehehehe. He's tall, cute, and friendly. He probably doesn't think anything of me--I get all flustered when a guy just says "hello" to me (can you tell I don't get much male attention?!). :blush: But, yeah, I just thought I'd mention that.
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Originally Posted by SCGirl link=board=1;threadid=6768;start=msg75924#msg75924 date=1077321034
I get all flustered when a guy just says "hello" to me (can you tell I don't get much male attention?!). :blush: But, yeah, I just thought I'd mention that.
Hello SCGirl! ;D :flower:
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You know, I think it is like alot of 'stripper predudice (sp)' and unless you work in the industry people have a particular mindset that all strippers are whores (not mothers, students, wifes and Phd of phsycology owners) and that bar staff, security djs etc just get off on all this and get perks like sex etc...
It just dosnt happen (or ok, rarely). I can understand how hard it is to explain to a date!
My mother REFUSEs to babysit for me because of my job, because she has the same was of thinking and thinks it is degrading and hurting me being in this industry. She would rather we struggle or I work 40 hours a week with my son in daycare for mere pitance.
So girlfriend, boyfriend, SO, friends and family, I guess unless they really understand....
good luck xx bella
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Personally, I wouldn't date an accountant! Ugh.... imagine the morals of someone who looks at numbers all day long!
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little dave.
Don't worry about that woman, obviously from her actions she is NOT what you are looking for. But then again its hard to find women who are supportive of their men seeing 100's of naked women everyday.
Its hard to find men/women who are supportive of anything in the industry. My fiancee is STILL not supportive. But he loves me.
You could always date a girl that works as a coctail waitress from a different club around your area for example. Its hard to date within the same club.
Besides you are a good looking guy, if some girl disses you, MOVE ON
It sounds like a few things are lacking in her own situation anyway!!
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UM.....lestat......why do I get the STRONG feeling that you are my brother? Upstate NY, 25, and a Gemini....hmmmm......*barf* weird situation! :detective: :yikes:
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I could NOT date a guy who worked at a strip club. We had a hot bouncer a while back, and I'm sure I'm not the only girl to notice he was hot. (Not that I give a shit, I'm taken, but for arguements sake) So anyways, out of 80 girls on a Friday night shift, how many do you think might hit on him? Then out of 70 girls on Sat, or 40 on Sun, and on and on... When a guy has that much action in front of him, there is no way I could trust him. Sorry, just too much opportunity to fuck up there.
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Originally Posted by asingledancer link=board=1;threadid=6768;start=msg76217#msg76217 date=1077392338
Its hard to find men/women who are supportive of anything in the industry. My fiancee is STILL not supportive. But he loves me.
He should be supportive, you're bringing the cash home ;D
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I think Mariah is closest to the truth--JEALOUSY. Be honest now, don't all people associating with a lot of women face dealing with the green monster? I'd call it Doctor-dumping-wife-for-hot-nurse syndrome.
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Originally Posted by SCGirl link=board=1;threadid=6768;start=msg76364#msg76364 date=1077424359
UM.....lestat......why do I get the STRONG feeling that you are my brother? Upstate NY, 25, and a Gemini....hmmmm......*barf* weird situation! :detective: :yikes:
You said you were a cocktail waitress!! :o
j/k ;D I don't have any sisters...
Re:Guys - Problems getting dates because you work at a SC?
That's not what it says's in your bio under "#1 Customer" at LJS.com, #1.
P.S. you can have my sister if you want.
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Originally Posted by Mariah link=board=1;threadid=6768;start=msg76444#msg76444 date=1077452638
I could NOT date a guy who worked at a strip club. We had a hot bouncer a while back, and I'm sure I'm not the only girl to notice he was hot. (Not that I give a shit, I'm taken, but for arguements sake) So anyways, out of 80 girls on a Friday night shift, how many do you think might hit on him? Then out of 70 girls on Sat, or 40 on Sun, and on and on... When a guy has that much action in front of him, there is no way I could trust him. Sorry, just too much opportunity to fuck up there.
Sounds a lot like the same argument guys use for why they wouldn't date a dancer (or why some dancer's S/Os try to get them to quit dancing). ;)
Seriously, though, I've run into several guys I've worked with over the years who were only in it for how much free sex they could score. Not surprisingly, they usually made lousy employees and didn't last long.
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well if you want to date someone outside the "business" then why didnt you say something a while ago. or...n/m.
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In always thought that guys who work at SC had women throwing themselves at their feet. This is quite the wakeup call for me :thinking:
FBR
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When I got started as a DJ at a strip club in Hawaii back in 1987, I did try to date dancers that I worked with. Sometimes it worked out, sometimes not.
These days, most of the girls I work with are almost young enough to be my daughters, so its less appealing for me now. It just doesnt seem right somehow.
But, trying to have a relationship with a woman who is outside the Industry is almost impossible. Most assume I am sleeping with, have slept with or plan to sleep with the dancers at my workplace. Never mind anything good I have done in my life. Never mind that I dont drink a lot of alcohol, do drugs, or beat women.
I'm still a bad guy because I work in a strip club.
I've had potential relationships stopped cold when I revealed where I worked.
Lonely? Damn right it is. But, I've gotten used to it. I wish it could be different, but most people are so judgemental that I dont see any way that this is going to change for me.