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Lots of Questions
Hey! I've been thinking about stripping for a few months now... My boyfriend took me to a strip club for the first time last summer. I was curious to see what the hype was all about. I thought all the girls would look like Pamela Anderson and that I would feel uncomfortable. Quite the opposite happened. Now, I really want to be a dancer! I've been to only 1 club, but i'm sure I want to work there. I've been there about 5 times and i've talked to 2 of the other dancers that work there. The place itself definetely makes me feel comfortable.
I've been preparing to audition. I bought the 7" heels that I finally got used to walking in. I've been practicing dancing and giving my boyfriend lap dances. I've lost 15lbs (I still want to lose like 5-10lbs more...) And I was just laid off at my job. I have a month of work left. It's a relief. I make $300 a week, and I literally live paycheck to paycheck. It sucks! I'm in debt. I can't afford college. I'm only 21, but i feel stuck in a rut! I feel like dancing is the answer to my big problem, which is $$$. I just have a few questions...
1. What do girls do at that time of the month?!?! I feel like it is impossible to give a lap dance like that!
2. My boyfriend! We've been together 2yrs. I love him with all my heart. He's kinda ok with the idea, but the more I get serious about it, the more he freaks out. Any advice???
3. Names. My real name is Julie. I've thrown around a couple of names. I love Julianna. Is it sexy enough??? I'm not sure. I'm also not sure if I should use a name close to my real name or totally different? Some other ones i like are Naomi, Leala, Jennifer, Raven... Any suggestions???
4. When I was at the strip club, I went with a group of guys and got ALL the attention. It was sooo fun. It was flattering to me and a huge turn on for my boyfriend. I know how to give a guy a lap dance. Is there any differences to giving a girl a lap dance???
5. What is an audition like? How should I prepare?
6. When I was talking to one of the dancers she said that there was a $50 house fee, and girls usually charge $25 a dance. The shifts are either 12pm-8pm or 8pm-4am. She said to me its great money, but I felt it was way too rude and pushy to ask her what she brings home a night. What exactly can I expect to bring home a night???
7. When buying g-strings or thongs (i'm really not sure what the exact difference is) is there material that works better that others???
Alrighty! Thats it. If anyone has any answers to any of my many questions and wants to help a girl out, that would be awesome......
JULIE
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Re:Lots of Questions
Hey!
Well, lets see if I can help you, and I am sure you'll be getting tips from others as well.
1.) Well...A lot of dancers do continue to dance on those times of the month, if you're having a very light flow that is....Some just take those 'heavy' days off. I've heard something about 'sponges'..I think. Questions like that have been asked in the "Body Business" section of this forum, so you'll probably find out a lot of interesting info from there.
2.) Boyfriends/husbands will say "Sure, you can dance I won't mind" for a while...But 'some' of them will change their tune. The more he sees you getting into this he might ask you to decide between dancing, and him. I hope you never have to go through this, but 80% of the time it happens....You'll have to decide which one is more important, but hopefully he'll grow to understand and be supportive.
3.) I like Julianna, I think that's very pretty....Most of the dancers in my club go for names that sound sexy, real, and vibrant.
4.) I don't think there's much difference in giving a woman a lapdance, You won't have to worry much about anything poking you down there. ;) I think women are a lot 'easier' to give lap dances to because half of the time their hands don't wander as much as the men.
5.) Hmm...I think auditions are kind of different all around. Some want you to just dance with music on a stage, or some just want to see you naked (topless) not caring if you can dance or not. But regardless, just relax, and pretend the club is full (Picture it in your mind) and go with it.
6.) Welp, That just depends on the club/area. Some women bring home $100- 400 a night...Some less. It depends upon the crowd.
7.) Hrmm. I am sure you'll be getting different opinions on this one, but I've always been the satin/silk thong girl....It's more comfortable, and less wedgies. :P
But good luck, and I hope you get more tips from here! :wave:
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Re:Lots of Questions
1. The Monthly: Cut the string off a tampon.
2. Boyfriends: I forbid my bf from coming in the club. EVER. Works great. Naked women, alcohol, lotto and male competition are generally not the best combo for boyfriends. The money generally soothes everything else.
3. Stage Names: Seems popular to find the movie star you look like and use that name. (Brunettes: Julia and Cindy, Blonds: Pamela.. etc.)
4. Women vs Men: Women probably not as likely to get all hot and go for 10-20 dances like men are. With men that first dance is merely a prelude to what hopefully will become many more dances. I don't think I've ever given a woman more than 2 or 3 dances at once.
5. Audition: bring shoes, a thong, a dress or something to take off, and a CD with 2-3 songs that you like. Club will tell you if you need nipple latex, pasties etc.
6. Flow: How much you make is up to you. You can really work it and bank($500+), or you can sit back and chill (-$$ if you owe the house). If I really work it and don't bank I find another club.
7. Thongs/Strings: Lined! If you leak even a tiny bit of moisture (it happens!) the spot will show under the black lights when you spread your legs. Lined helps prevent that spot from showing through. Stitching is important, too, if you play with your thong or take it off because good stitching (cross stitch) lasts while poor stitiching (chain stitch) instantly unravels. I don't have that problem in topless clubs where I generally leave the thong alone.
Good luck Julie and tell us how it goes!
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1. i usually just take those days off from work.
2. i am single now...but i would never let my ex come in the club..ever. there was no need for him to be there, plus my club wouldn't allow SO's to come in.
3. I dance by Emily. It is easy to remember, and drunk guys don't spit on you when they say it!
4. i like dancing for either...but the women are usually more respectful.
5. call the club first and get details! ask about open toed shoes, gowns or costumes, ask about everything!
6. I don't think any dancer is going to be honest when you ask her wht she makes at the club. They may here...but not if they think you are competition.
7. i agree with the double lining!
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I always work, heavy flow and all, I just cut the string!
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I work during my cycle.. I’m a three day girl so its not too bad, just cut the string. Auditioning: very very important.. don’t move too fast… remember to keep it slow like snap shots in a photo… I also agree with Vanilla about the lining and the black lights.. cut all your tags as well. Its also good that you’ve been practicing at home with your shoes.. a lot of newbies don’t do this, then they have sore feet or they trip and fall during an audition. Call the club and find out the specifics about dress.
In terms about money.. don’t ask a dancer how much she makes, but if you are working at a club that does a lot of business you should do well. I’m in Idaho, so a good day shift for me is no less than 400 and on a night shift, it is not un-reasonable to walk out with a grand if you have your hustle. If you aren’t making at least $100 within an hour to an hour and a half.. then your time is wasted.
Lap dances-piece of cake.. but I agree with whomever said that women won’t get all hot and pay out more.. they don’t. They’ll buy one and then maybe, if you are fortunate, another one, but that’s it. Your best bet is men and when the dance is over, just ask if they want to keep going.. they almost always do. Just make sure you get all the rules of your club at your audition or on your first day. You’ll also probably find that there will be a couple of girls who will show you the ropes (I do this with new girls at the club I work at), just so that they don’t feel lost.
I like your choice in a stage name of Julianna.. I work with a girl whose real name is Julie and she goes by Jewel.. she did that to keep it similar for her to remember.
In regards to the BF issue.. not sure what to tell you… I guess perhaps reassure him that you aren’t doing this to meet another guy, but to make money and its a job. Good luck and let us know what happens.
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I'm going to add what I can...
1. time of the month, you can cut the string, wrap it around the tampon inside, use a sea sponge or woman's sponge if you can't wear a tampon...or you can not work. But avoid wearing white until it's over, also aviod black lights if you have a choice.
2. boyfriends...ugghhh
3. names/auditioning and many misc have been mentioned, just read a couple posts for more info
4. amount of money you bring home depends on what type of club it is, and how much you hustle. some days you aren't meant to make money and other days it'll be everywhere...take it in stride. Your shift will greatly determine your income...day/night/weekend. But generally your first few nights will not be an indicatation of what you'll be earning...you have to get comfortable in your surroundings, learn the rules and relax!!! Money is there for you to take.
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I like the name julliana that you are thinking about. Also no one will get confused about your real name/stage name...since your real name is a short form of your stage name.
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I don't cut the string, the whole idea of it freaks me out, but I just tuck it up inside. In 11 years of dancing I've never had a problem...the string has never popped out (thank God! LOL) And I agree about not wearing white. The funny thing I've found is that I'm always dying to wear white whenever I can't. Human nature I suppose.
There is also something called Instead that can be used....well...instead of a tampon. It looks a lot like a diaphragm and takes some practice using. But they're awesome when you get the hang of it. They can be worn for up to 12 hours and one of their big claims to fame (although I know very few people who'd even heard of them before I mentioned it...so maybe not quite fame...) is that you can have clean sex with it in. You can get them at Target, CVS, and I think Wal-mart....those are the only stored i know of that sell them.
I don't trust them for dancing though...except if the flow's real heavy, sometimes I'll use an Instead and a tampon as back up. Tampons make me feel the safest. I'm always a little anxious working with a period though.
Women and lap dances: I'm a paradox with this one...I'm bisexual but women customers make me really nervous. I've always been shy when it somes to females though, I never could make the first move (and can't now cause I had to go and get myself all married ;-) ). Anyway, when I have done dances with them, I've always ended up having a lot of fun.
The boyfriend situation could become an issue. I've dated guys that couldn't deal and dated guys that could not possibly care any less. In my experiences, the guys worth your time are the ones that are concerned about it to some degree.
I love love love the name Julianna!
One thing about the money is it can be incredibly unpredictable. It's always a good idea to bring enough cash with you to cover any fees you have to pay out, just in case.