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I'm New, How are you?
Ok, well first let me say that I've read through these threads and it's so great to find such intelligent strong-willed young women! Ok, I'm Nina- 22 years old, married 4.5 years, we have 3 girls, and live in MA. I've been considering exotic dancing for awhile now and for many reasons. Well first of all there is no other job where you get that much money in 4 hours! But other than the money- I love sensuality. I don't know if I'm considered a "sexy" person but I feel sensual and would love a job where I could express myself. I love the idea of selling a fantasy- and I plan on keeping it just that- selling a fantasy, and not selling myself (though I guess it IS selling yourself, you know what I mean). I also LOVE to dance! I just think it would be a great job- although I am afraid of the negatives. I'm afraid of the rude customers, or even extreme cases such as stalkers. I dont know much at all about the industry and so that is why I'm finding out as much as I can before getting out there. There's an upcoming amateur night that I considered going to- but after reading some posts on how amateur contests aren't really quite "amateur" at all- I'm having 2nd thoughts. :-\ This club did have an ad in the paper less than a week ago seeking entertainers- so I wonder if I should just call and ask for an audition and pray they dont ask me to try out the amateur night. ::) Well I mainly just wanted to introduce myself and find the support I need. I can't really get much support from friends and family- Although my husband is VERY supportive which I am VERY grateful for. :) I wonder how many of you are mothers as well and how you feel about this and any impact it may have on your children. My oldest is just turning 4- I think it's more of a big deal if you make it a big deal, I dont intend on telling my kids, and if they ever ask I'll just say I work at an adult club. Sure they'll figure it out when they're older but I dont plan on doing this for more than a few years. I attend college online through Strayer University- stripping would really help me afford my education. Ok, well that's my story! :D
*edit* I forgot to add that I've done a little nude modeling- only 2 shoots, but hey it's something! I'm getting comfortable being naked ;D
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Re:I'm New, How are you?
Hi, Nina! I'm Dawn. I'm a newbie to this site as well. I'm a dancer and also own an adult online store and video service. I've currently been on hiatus from dancing to have my first child.
Yeah, the money is good and is the reason probably the majority of women became dancers. But, I started dancing for some of the other ideas you mentioned. I too am a very sensual person and I love the way I feel when I'm on stage presenting my sexual interpretation of the music. It is all about fantasy. YOUR fantasy. So when you finally do get on stage, just be confident and make love to your audience.
About the issue of your children, one of my good friends has a seven year old and a two year old, both girls. Her husband is the general manager of the club. Her older knows that mommy and daddy work in a night club and that mommy is a dancer, but she doesn't understand yet what that means. The only real problem they have is the opinions of other children's parents. Most of them frown upon what my friends do for a living and don't want their children exposed to that sort of influence. Most of Adrianna's friends are not allowed to come over to play or attend slumber parties, etc. So, it is very important to consider the impact on your kids.
In regard to the rudenessof customers and you safety, I have never had a rude customer. I have seen a few guys being disrespectful to other dancers in my club, throwing change on stage and general acts of immaturity, but in a good club, that sort of behavior is not at all tolerated by management or security and they were tossed out VERY quickly. A stalker incident is actually pretty rare. Just remember, use a stage name, and never give personal information away. Don't tell anyone what neighborhood you live in, what kind of car you drive, where you or your children go to school, etc. not even to club staff or your fellow dancers. Everyone works for tips and it is possible for someone to be persuaded to give out info about you to customers.
Well, I hope this info will be helpful to you in making your decision. I'm sure that if you do get on stage, you'll love it. Whatever you decide, I wish the best of luck. If you have other questions or concerns, feel free to contact me. My email address is posted in my profile.
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Re:I'm New, How are you?
Hey Dawn! Thanks so much for the welcome and info. I am SO nervous to get on stage- but I try not to think about it too much, I dont want to throw myself into a panic attack before getting on stage! My goal is to get an audition before this month is over. And just see if I like it- and see where I go from there.
I understand the impact on the children in the scenario you explained. It's sad really. Those other parents shouldn't judge them because of their career choice- as long as it's legal- where's the problem? Some people just dont understand and hopefully their attitudes dont grow on their children. I think slowly society is coming around and accepting exotic dancers as anybody else walking down the street. Personally, I think the ones with the most animosity are just jealous!
Ok, take care :)