I've just started dancing this WEEK and I'm only having one major problem so far.. When I am giving private dances how can I keep hands off me and out of my thong?!! :beat:
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I've just started dancing this WEEK and I'm only having one major problem so far.. When I am giving private dances how can I keep hands off me and out of my thong?!! :beat:
Tell them NO!! If you aren't comfortable setting and maintaining personal boundaries people will sense it and try to get over on you.
Make sure he understands that your no MEANS no and you generally won't have any probs.
Edited 'cause my nails are toooo long and I have too many typos--anyone else have that prob?? I'm too attatched to them to cut them down.
Make him sit on his hands. If that doesn't work (and he's not too fat) have him put his hands behind his back. If that doesn't work dance out of reach.
If that doesn't work....bounce! Oh..and never, ever give back the money. That's why you get paid before the dance and not after.
:thanx: This site is awesome and thanks to both of you for responding so quickly! A lot of men I've met have english as a second language but I think they will understand what sitting on their hands means!
I just tell them, "Sit down, enjoy yourself. And NO touching. You touch, you go. The club is very strict about that...and I don't want to see you leave..." *smile* *wink*
that is SUCH a good way to put it Venus!
I try to avoid saying no. Guys don't like to hear no. They'll likely finish that song then move on to find another girl to dance for them. I physically move their hands, lightly slap their hands away. I might even whine, "If you keep doing that I'm gonna get in trouble" *eyelashes batting*
When all that fails, THEN say no.
I do the action displayed in VanillaDog's avatar. ;) J/k
Pin their hands over their head....or redirect their hands to a neutral area like the outside of your knees....
Better yet...TOUCH THEM! And no, not in the swimsuit area either...guys like contact, some touching...hug them, carress them, give the nips a little squeeze.....be subtle but effective....
Look, unless your are a perfect poised showgirl, you are going to have to get used to being touched. You will learn quickly enough how to maximize your profit while minimizing molestation......
Only one problem: it's totally illegal in a lot of places. In Oregon, for example, if I don't have the dude sit on his hands the bouncer probably will, even if he isn't being grabby. It's just the standard operating position.Quote:
Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=25;threadid=7449;start=msg85137#msg8513 7 date=1079498513
Yeah, I forget about the legal stuff......
Damn these Texas boys are spoiled!
I've had this problem too. I dance in florida where the men are majorly aggressive. First redirect their hands. Then tell them to stop. Then just tell them the dance is over and leave. I've lost money to other girls for not giving major milage on dances but at least I feel good about myself.
Katrine, I understand what you mean about a perfect showgirl i've seen a few. It's not that I mind contact with the guys or touching them but it seems like that can smell a new girl a thousand miles away so they think they can rub on me anywhere and being a practical virgin at this I had no idea how to distract them in a way without telling them no.. your advice will help tonight with all the green beer in their blood .. thanks a lot.. will keep in touch!