Customers who don't like to talk about themselves
It's funny...I noticed that some guys will ask me questions about myself (i.e. Where are you from, Are you married, How old are you, Do you have kids, etc.) I don't mind answering these questions, but when I turn around and ask them about themselves, they clam up. For example, a lot of guys ask where I'm from. I tell them and then I ask where they're from, and they give a general answer such as "Around here" or "Out of town." I don't want to come across as being nosy, so I don't pry and I stick to topics such as music, movies, sex :flirt:, etc.
Does anyone else frequently meet customers who are secretive about their personal lives? It's not really a big deal, but it just bugs me sometimes how customers will ask me a million questions but they don't want to talk about themselves at all.
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Asking questions is something I do to stay in control of the conversation and sometimes customers do it too. One of my best evasive tactics is to answer a question with a question.
For example, do you want to out with me sometime? gets a what would your wife/girlfriend/mother think about that?
Ask him questions that he can't help but answer, like his opinion on clit piercings (you're thinking about getting one) or other engaging and interesting topics.
Guys love to give their opinions, so when he answers follow up with more questions. Remember to actually listen :listen:
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Some guys, when you ask them where they live, or what they do for a living feel like you are trying to assess how much money they make and therefore how many dances you can sell them. Yet other guys love to talk about themselves, their jobs, and brag how about stuff like that. I think you're smart when you get those evasive answers to just change the subject.
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VanillaD has great advice about the ever-annoying dinner question. That's what I always do, because once you say no, his wallet clamps shut. If you just reply with a question, you can get a few more dances out of him. And it's fairly innocent on my part, it's not as deceptive as saying 'maybe.'
As for customers who don't want to talk about themselves, they are usually married, so the more you ask, the more it reminds them of their real life and their wife and kids. Thats a total buzz kill when he's trying to get his jollies off a half naked stranger. If you sense this, change the subject immediately. You don't want his guilty conscience settling in, you want him to have fun. Keep the convo light, talk about funny things and sexy things.
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This is ez you tell one person your business all the dancers known your business. Then the managers then the whole city knows your business.
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A lot of guys ask personal questions just to make conversation, they really aren't interested in your answers and aren't trying to pry. It's probably what they'd ask anyone they met anywhere so it's kind of automatic. If you don't want to tell anyone anything about yourself, make up an interesting story about yourself, lots of girls (and customers) do that, it can be fun. Or change the subject, anything to get a conversation going. Girls are often much better at that than guys are. Especially in a strip club where the guy is probably a little nervous and doesn't really know how to act. Tell a funny story to loosen things up and get the conversation going.
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Originally Posted by blondhottie link=board=8;threadid=7509;start=msg85564#msg85564 date=1079590155
Does anyone else frequently meet customers who are secretive about their personal lives? It's not really a big deal, but it just bugs me sometimes how customers will ask me a million questions but they don't want to talk about themselves at all.
It is kind of a double standard, but I don't think most customers mean it that way.
A customer could have a high profile status in the community and much like a dancer, he wants to keep their real world persona separate from the "dirty old man" who ogles naked women in his free time. He perhaps doesn't consider that the lady who entertains him might have privacy issues herself, so for sake of conversation he blabs off a bunch of questions.
Other guys know that the SC environment isn't exactly the place to be blabbing around about how much money they make or have, for fear that an unsavory individual might take advantage of this. Of course, some people have more money than they do common sense. Case in point.
I have nothing to hide and I don't plan on running for president one day, so I go ahead and tell the truth. I often will get a glum look from the dancer when its revealed that I don't have a job with a six digit salary attached to me. Maybe thats why some guys like to make boasts bigger than their reality and others would just prefer to stay mum.
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If the girl gets too specific with her questions of course I'll feel uneasy. A good, friendly BUT professional stripper should know how to carry an interesting conversation without getting personal, which of course does not mean that a meaningful yet still professional relationship cannot flourish if the guy feels she can be trusted on not to tattle about his pastime, if you get my drift.
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Originally Posted by doc-catfish link=board=8;threadid=7509;start=msg86842#msg86842 date=1079908875
A customer could have a high profile status in the community and much like a dancer, he wants to keep their real world persona separate from the "dirty old man" who ogles naked women in his free time.
Other guys know that the SC environment isn't exactly the place to be blabbing around about how much money they make or have, for fear that an unsavory individual might take advantage of this.
Exactly. ;D
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drag it out of them: he says, are you from around here? you say yes/no but then with a question "are you" he'll reply yes/no then you say: what brings you here tonight or is there a convention in town that way you can secretly find out where he works.