If you met someone attractive at work and if they asked for your number, would you hand that out?
I've had some guys ask for my number but I feel cautious about giving out my personal number.
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If you met someone attractive at work and if they asked for your number, would you hand that out?
I've had some guys ask for my number but I feel cautious about giving out my personal number.
It really just depends.........is the person who asked for your number someone you work with? If so, then I would say that that's probably not the best idea. Dating a co-worker usually doesn't end well in most cases.
If it's a customer, then I would say if you are really attracted to the person, try having lunch or something. Meet in a public place and try to get to know them a little better in a different surrounding than the club to see if there's actually something there or something going on that's worth your time before giving out any personal info such as a home phone number or your address. Just to be on the safe side.
I never have. I'm not saying never, but I don't think its a good idea.
The dancers I've met usually go through something like this when they want to see me:
1) Tell me to come back and see them and then give the next time they are working
2) Give or take an email address
3) Phone number
Although I've never initiated, it's always been the dancer.
I got a free voicemail account, they have them almost everywhere. It's just a voicemail, but I can check it to see what they want and return calls if necessary, but I really don't want to risk some freaky customer getting all stalkerish or jeopardizing my personal relationship. But I also dont want to lose the business so U hand the voicemail, they never know the difference.
I won't give out my phone number...
1. It is completely against house rules and they WILL fire girls that give out phone numbers, voicemail numbers, and email addresses.
2. I am a dancer; not an escort.
3. I keep work and personal lives completely separate.
4. I am in a serious relationship and very happy here.
5. I am not willing to encourage a customer to "continue" his fantasy outside of the club. I am not willing to put myself at risk like that.
Wow Venus, they would fire you for giving out your email? I do this sometimes to my regulars because I like to update them on my schedule.
I already learned that giving them your email, and getting "too chatty" will ruin any chance of them coming back, so I keep it strictly business now.
Be careful Sasha, usually the guys want your number so "they can take you out" NOT because they are so interested in your next schedule. I hate that with a passion, and for that reason, I dont give out my number at all.
Good luck
We have some extremely strict rules here. This is how management explained it to me; "If an undercover comes in and starts talking with you...and then asks you for your phone number and you refuse, he may ask you for a voicemail number, which you don't have and you tell him so. Fine, he now asks for your email address so you can 'keep in touch'. Thinking it's harmless enough, you give it to him. Now, if he wants to, he can bust you with intent of prostitution and the city can shut the club down for 'allowing it'. End of story.
That's on the downside. On the upside, its nice to be able to tell guys that I cannot and will not give out any numbers, addresses due to strict club rules because I do not want to lose my job.
No I wouldn't hand out my phone number to someone I thought was cute-they have to "prove their worth" to me first so to speak. I've given out my email address to good customers and have a cell phone set up especially for my REALLY good customers. If it's someone I don't know-forget it. But that's me.
If you're uncomfortable giving them your home phone number-give them your email or set up a cell for just "work", that way your private number stays that way.
Safety first, especially if you're a stripper. Never give out your home phone number. Never allow the customer to get any information that could be used to track you down outside of work. Never give him your real name, address, don't let him figure out what car you drive so he can follow you home. Just be careful. That said, there are a few things that are safe. You can give him a cell phone number or e-mail address and even meet him outside of work as long as it's a public place with other people around. You just have to be careful and count on him being a psycho. You can always geta new cell phone or e-mail address or just block him if he gets too annoying, e.g. calling / e-mailing you twenty times a day. It's a lot more trouble if he knows where you live or knows your home phone. Some guys are ok though, probbaly most guys, and you'll hopefully learn to trust him after while.
There are lots of reasons why giving out your number isn't the smartest move but the two main reasons that stick out to me are 1styour persoanl safety. The 2nd is it can get you fired or even arrested.
If you met a guy you're really interested in I suggest finding out where he hangs out and conviently run into him there. That way you are at least out of the club and can't get fired or arrested for giving out or taking a phone number
I met this one customer last week that was tipping me a whole lot of money and he seemed nice..he asked for my # and I gave him my cell phone #. After we talked for a few days he asked me if I wanted to meet him in public..I said as long as it's a public place so when we got together..about 15 minutes later he tells me he has a girlfriend. I said that you should have told me this so you wouldn't have wasted my time..and he says I wanted to tell you in person..so then I left..Tia, I think what your doing is a good idea thou..that keeps your customers coming back. I think I'll try that.