Couples that come into a strip club. . . .
Hey all! My girlfriend and I just last night went out to the Brass Rail here in California to check out the other dancers to see how they were at dancing on the stage and for the first time, some of the other girls that were not dancing but just sitting down talking with people started to look at us and especially my girlfriend crazy, like they wanted to fight my girlfriend. and then when they did go on stage, they continued to give my girlfriend mean looks? Kind of like a look of disgust?
Ladies, especially the dancers that dance in clubs, what do you think about couples that come in to check out the dancers and how do you treat them? usually my girlfriend and I get more attention than the guys, and the dancers are so nice to us. it was weird to have this happen to us last night.
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There have been MANY posts on this subject. If you scout around old threads, you may see why there are certain dancers that either ignore you or will treat you with hostility.
Some girls feel threatened by girls or couples because of bad past experiences e.g. being propositioned consistently because of the job they do. Some girls will react badly to female customers maybe out of the same thing and there are some who are just plain jealous of the female clientele that enter the club.
But look at it this way; you came in with money to spend. They lost out. You go to another club and have your fun where the dancers want you. You score. Sorry it had to be that way, but it may not be the last time you encounter such an attitude. Just rise above it and scout out the clubs where they treat you properly. It makes for a better time than sitting in a crappy joint wondering why noone likes you or your girlfriend.
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I find couples often sit there and pick me apart when I'm on stage, for the purpose of making the girl feel better. For that reason I can be cold to couples unless they make the first friendly move, ie big smiles, kind words and/or tips.
Just don't sit there whispering to each other and looking at the dancers, because that's plain rude. And don't ever assume that you're speaking quietly enough so that the dancer won't hear you- the acoustics in those rooms can be strange, often times in the middle of the stage I can hear people talking from halfway across the room.
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I've been pretty off-put by couples lately. The young couples have a tendency to pick apart dancers, plus, girls at that age tend to be more jealous so lapdances are rare. Then this week I had a couple in the VIP room that was just gross. At first appearance they seem classy; an older man with a mid-20's woman. Then I start dancing for her and she hikes up her skirt to reveal no panties underneath. :yikes: WTF, they expect me to just chow down? The rest of the night they follow me around begging me to go home with them.
Now I'm skipping couples unless they call me over. They just tend to be more trouble than a regular table. If they act right it can be fun as hell, but so many of them don't.
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I can assure that we do not pick apart dancers, as an ex dancer, my girlfriend and I know better, from the experiences that she has had. When we do go to clubs, as I said in my previous post, she knows alot of other dancers, so when we go to our "regular" clubs, they know us, and we have alot of fun! and they are very friendly to us and us to them. Compliments are always nice as my girlfriend and I always tell the dancers. Back to the whispering, pointing, and laughing, we have seen this with other couples, and we know what is more than likely being said, but that is not the fact with us. Its good to get some other insight from dancers outside of California, thanx all. . . .
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Whoa...my boyfriend and I used to be the couples who were in the clubs, we still are when I have days off. i have been to clubs where girls wouldnt approach the table becuase we were together. It always made me laugh, I have a very good amount of money on me, too bad the girls would rather sit a table with a bunch a guys who are only buying table dances, instead of spending two or three hours making money off of us.
Every girl who has had the courae to approach our table, we have always been very faithful about spending money on them. Not mention the fact, we are well known for bringing many of friends out to spend money with us.
Im glad I was customer before I was a dancer, I actually can put myself in that position and I do alot better as of late because of that factor. Serveral of my regulars are couples.
Everyone has the potential to spend money at the club...but you'll never know unless you appraoch them.
Women's money spends the same way, last I checked.
;D :D ;)
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Sounds like you were in a less-than-desirable club. I've been in clubs like that, 'lowclass', where the dancers behave the way you described toward female customers, ESPECIALLY if she's good-looking and/or looks like a dancer. In better clubs, most of the dancers will be at least tolerant of female customers.
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I actually like dancing for couples. I found that even if they pick me apart, it is usually because the woman is feeling insecure. Once I get over to the table and talk with them and joke around with them (and do a dance or two) she usually loosens up and starts buying dances like crazy. I have also found that when I do dances for the ladies, the guys line up to buy more dances from me. Either for the lady or for themselves. Sold 10 dances last night like this. Sweet.
But, you know...some girls just don't know how to deal with this. For some it's easier for someone else (like me) to open the door. For others, they will never even approach. It's sad, because they probably don't realize how much money they are losing out on.
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Couples have been a great source of money for me. A lot of my other dancer friends have expressed that they feel like the wife or girlfriend is hating on them because they are jealous. I think it's all in their heads. My advice, I always pay special attention to the girl. I try to make her feel sexy too, what guy doesn't want to see a dancer trying to get freaky with their wife/girlfreind. Its all a part of the game.
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I had a table of hairdressers last night. One woman caught me between customers and asked me how much is a dance, then paid me and tipped 50% to dance for one of the women in her group. 6 women and 2 guys. I'm pretty sure 1 guy was gay. All the women except maybe 1-2 were straight and acted like they were better than the strippers. Said they work at a salon up the street. When I got there I could see clearly they were not into the SC thing. First girl I danced for commented that 'all the girls look so great under the black lights, the black lights make the girls look sooo good' while waiting for the song to start. I looked over at the hotass girl on stage, remembered the strict diet and hardass workouts I do, plus all the time spent primping and taking care of skin, hair etc, and REALLY had to bite my tongue not to comment that no hunny, it's NOT the damn blacklights that make us look so good!
But I smiled and did the dance, and she then paid me to dance for the girl who'd brought me over in the first place. Finishing that, one guy told me to just make the rounds and he'd pay. Most of them seemed to be having a good ol' time laughing at each other as they got dances, and then made a point of looking all disgusted but tolerant when it was their turn.
Funny thing was, I couldn't have cared less about their little party, I was just getting paid (and they even tipped well). Perhaps they felt they were slumming with strippers and making themselves look good, but they really just made themselves look like dumbasses for paying for something they didn't even like or want! I got several dances and tips out of the deal from other customers who appreciated my performance for the snotty bitches. So I guess that means I won that little scrimmage! :cool:
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Mixedmex, maybe these girls thought your girl was scoping out the club for a potential job and they viewed her as competition.
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Originally Posted by czarina link=board=1;threadid=8848;start=msg104386#msg1043 86 date=1083540347
Couples have been a great source of money for me. A lot of my other dancer friends have expressed that they feel like the wife or girlfriend is hating on them because they are jealous. I think it's all in their heads. My advice, I always pay special attention to the girl. I try to make her feel sexy too, what guy doesn't want to see a dancer trying to get freaky with their wife/girlfreind. Its all a part of the game.
you know what Czarina, my girlfriend just said the same thing as you almost as quick as I read your post! by the way maybe it has to do with the fact that both of you are a Sagittarius? but she says that when she danced she always went for the couples, they were money makers for her. and when and if the time came for a lap dance for the female, and like VenusGoddess said, the guys would line up asking for a lap dance after because they saw her give the female a real good lap dance, so the money was flowing after she danced for the couple.
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Originally Posted by Sapphire link=board=1;threadid=8848;start=msg104389#msg1043 89 date=1083540969
Mixedmex, maybe these girls thought your girl was scoping out the club for a potential job and they viewed her as competition.
Maybe?
its not 1 of "regular" clubs we go to, so the girls were not familiar with us, and we didnt know any of the females there. but we really think that it was a race issue, we were not putting the girls down, we were not whispering and pointing, and we were tipping, so we think that it was just the whole race thing. they were not looking at the other females in the crowd the same way. . . . . . .
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My girlfriend is a dancer and she and I go to SC all the time and have had no trouble with any dancers. In fact they seem to flock to us, especially my GF. The attention she recieves makes me a bit envious at times! When we go we dress up, suit and tie for me, she in a classy dress (with underwear). We always try and sit at the dance floor and tip very well, whether we like the girl or not. We look for girls for each other, then try and get two girls at once in the VIP rooms so we're both getting dances and watching the other get one. It's a heck of a lot of fun and we drop a minimum of 300 every time in. We have done this on every trip, domestic and overseas and have found it to be a great way to spend a night out. The added benefit of a night out like this is that we're both ready to jump each other by the time we hit the exit.
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Damnit, I wish I had couples like you guys! What we usually get is three types of girls:
1. girls who only tip stage, which is nice in a way, but not a big money maker. And women, I should note, this seems to be a big new thing with middle-aged women to woot and cheer and getting to watch a dancer touch herself for a stage tip.
2. Crabby "I got dragged here / I wouldn't let my husband go alone" females. Grr, arg, can't stand 'em.
3. "I'm a craaazy young girl who shouts thing across the room, tries to take off my shirt or otherwise be inappropriate!"
I've had bad experiences, the one couple I did a private dance for was totally not into it and the girl threw up afterwards. [Note: table dances = $1, private dances $20 at my club] I did a table dance for a couple, the girl sitting on the guy's lap. During which she yells "Yeah spankit girlfriend!!" :P Then I say "would you like a more private dance?" and she says "maybe, what are those like? how much are they?" and when I explain the differences between the dances, I say "and they're $40 for a couple." she responds, once again loudly "God! If we're going to pay that much I want one that's cute!" :P
Last night, trying to dig into the couple market, approach four different couples, couldn't even sell table dances to two and only got $2 from the others. :P It seems to me, at least in my club, you have to spend a lot of time searching through the bad apples to get the well-versed couple, and even then, they're very loyal, they don't spend on more than one girl. Personally, it might more financially lucrative for me to not bother with couples, as the time spent warming one couple up to the strip club experience can equal one or two private dances from a random guy.
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Last time I was in my local haunt, this wacky fat chick kept trying to get on stage. They could barely keep her shirt on her back. It was disturbing. This one dancer took her and her funky looking hubby back for a private dance and came out looking like a hunted woman.
I'll admit i found it mildly amusing, but the Dancer didn't look like she was amused.
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Luna: When I am on-stage and I get one of the girls that only tips on-stage, I'll work her right there! That's the perfect time for all of the guys to see it! I did this on Saturday night and BAM!! I had 8 dance requests before I even got off the stage!! Maybe try that next time and see what happens. ;)
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In the first club I worked in, I got accustomed to an only male clientele. Now that I work in another one as well, there are females allowed.
I dont mind it, but it was very strange for me at first. I've had mostly OK experiences with girls at the tip rail (never danced for one) BUT I've also had bad experiences.
Just last week, there were two very pretty girls sitting at the stage. I was looking at everyone (feel the vibe) and wasnt getting a good one from these two girls. They looked annoyed to be there, so you're damn right I didnt go up to them. I go up to the girls who are friendly or atleast smile.
When I got on the second stage, I saw another girl who was very cute and very sweet. Kept tipping and didnt have an attitude.
(Saaaaaaaame day) a girl comes in with a group of guys. She's sitting on her (what I would assume) boyfriend's lap with this face on like she owned the world and couldnt stand any of the dancers. Again, I didnt go up to her either.
I dont really care if girls think I look like a bitch, or whatever. When they seem "inapproachable" I DONT approach. When they do, I do as well. I just like to read people.
Sorry that you had to deal with that at the other club you and your gf went to see. But as Venus mentioned...their loss.
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I am one of those dancers where I won't approach the couple unless I'm sure the couple are warm to me (a smile, look like they're having a good time, etc).
I've had mixed experiences with couples. Bad ones where the woman was wearing a revealing top and/or short skirt and/or no underwear. Good ones where everyone 'behaved' themselves and hence we all had a great time.
Overall, whilst couples might be a lucrative source of income.... I tend to stay away as I've found more often than not.. they don't buy. Well.. in all the clubs I've worked in... including the new ones I've tried out.
Actually, I would have to say that the three new clubs I checked out (1 in Cairns and 2 in Melbourne)... I didn't really see that many couples. I would say that 95% of the clientele were male.
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My boyfriend went to a SC the other night, and I noticed we didn't get as much attention from the dancers as the single men did. Finally after an hour a girl asked us if we wanted a dance and after we said yes and tipped well, we became much more popular. ;)
I don't mind if you need a while to decide if I'm a "friendly female" or not. I totally understand. I would never waste my time on some girl who feels the need to be belittling or degrading just because she's uncomfortable in a strip club. Let her be grumpy and unsatisfied! ;D